Author	Thread: smoking
gamegal View Profile History	smoking Posted : 27 Mar, 2010 10:00 PM I'm sorry but I feel a real need to bring this up. It seems several christians on this site (and maybe others but this is the only "dating" site I've been on) don't seem to care how much or if you drink but you MUST NOT SMOKE. It's not that I don't get it, I do. Smoking is a stinky,nasty, disgusting habit. Unfortunately, it's a habit I've had since I was 15 and I just turned 49 so quitting is not an easy thing by any stretch of the imagination. I know alot of you have quit & you should feel blessed, I know I would. I also know that all things are possible with God. I have slowed down considerably but when I was ready to quit, working with my Dr. & cancer society. I had my cut off date, etc...then my husband had an affair and publically humilated both me and himself. That was 3 years ago but for 2 years prior he had been cruel & emotionally abusive but I kept trying to "fix us". Problem is, it takes 2. Since then I have had MANY challenges in my life & even my DR agrees this may not be the time to quit. I am a guinely a very loving and caring person. I am honest and trustworthy & walk with God. If he can forgive me, why cant you? AGAIN, I agree it is a particularly disgusting habit but some of you could be missing out on something great because I occasionally smoke. Would ya'll like it better if I drank, because that seems to be socially acceptable? I get it but have seen some people I seemed to have alot in common with but didn't contact because "MUST NOT SMOKE". Thanks for letting me vent. God Bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	smoking Posted : 29 Mar, 2010 07:29 PM Thank you Debi. I was not offended I just wanted to share a perspective. Thunder Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	smoking Posted : 31 Mar, 2010 12:31 PM Good morning Debbie I think you are very courageous to bring this up. I think you are right. The NON SMOKING sign has been switched on worldwide the last couple of years. And the few who still dare state that they smoke are susceptible to looks, words and thoughts... If I am not mistaken it is explicitly asked when filling in the basic documents to set up a profile on CDFF, but of that I am not sure. Anyway I would like to say something which maybe is not so nice to hear. However, I do not want to insult you, just a thought to consider. You should not use the difficult situation in your life as a reason to continue smoking. You will never reach that state of perfect happiness to finally be able to quit. You strike me as a person with the goodwill to want to stop smoking. But that is not enough. You need something else, which does not necessarily come natural: self discipline. Do not get me wrong. I am not saying you are feeling sorry for yourself. That is something entirely different. You just lack that more than average level of self discipline to be able to stop. Once you have acquired this, all you have to do is to show the will to stop. The latter you already have. Those who have the self discipline but not the will, are far more in a worse position. Even a strict doctors order will not help. You however a in the favourable position here. So maybe you can start to work on your discipline, (martial arts, yoga or any outdoor sport with a stopwatch) while working on your life to be on track again... When your life has taken the normal course, you are ready to quit and YOU WILL SUCCEED MARK MY WORDS Good luck Post Reply
MasonsMomma View Profile History	smoking Posted : 4 Apr, 2010 08:06 PM I do feel for you, but some of us just can't be around the smoke. I for one have bad lungs and need to be careful. I have dated people in the past that smoked and it just becomes an issue no matter how much you love the smoker. So know I just try not to even meet the smoker then I don't chance falling for them. The smoker may think I'm being mean, but I'm just taking care of health. Post Reply

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