I am finding that non-churched or non-Christian men do not understand why Christian women do not want to date them. It's too difficult to explain being unequally yoked because they do not understand or reason with it.
I usually tell them that we are too "different" but they interpret it as "I am better than you" or "I am judging you".
I also get this one a lot. They decide in order to win my heart they will become "like" me and offer to go to church with me and "help" them to be better people...
I usually tell them I cannot help them become better. That is something they have to discover on their own. I tell them they could come to church with me if we were an item, but since we are not they are welcome to go to my church but not with me. Sometimes I suggest another church for them to go too.
This happens very often. Just this month I have had two men ask to go to church with me. Another guy is already there and usually sits in my row or a few rows behind me. Another guy asked me about coming to church with me last month.
After the first guy showed up at my church I quit telling people where I go to church.
Anyone have anything better to offer than what I'm already doing?
What a great question! Being equally yoked is something that the Lord has taught me alot about, and now leads me to share it in detail with others. It is so sad how so many people, even ones who go to church have no idea what being equally yoked means, or moreless to have it even cross their minds. Too many people just go right along with the world in this worldly dating thing, then fall victum to trying to make what they themselves have put together, work in marriage and then even think it was the Lord's will.
To answer your question, each and every time the situation comes up, look at it as an opportunity to share truth them. Opening their eyes to the truths of the Lord. I share my past mistakes in examples, explaining my thinking then, verses my new thinking and knowledge the Lord has now blessed me with.
Living for Christ means one has given their life to him. Therefore meaning that all one does is lead and proved by him in time. Being friends with all, with no exspectations, and just allowing the Lord in time to prove if there is ever to be more is his will for us to do. If he means us to be with someone, and equally yoked in him, he will will in time prove it.
Equally yoked: to be on the same mind and thinking in the Lord, going down the same path together in him. To just start dating someone because you are attracted to them physically, is only worldy thinking and then you try to forse a relationship to be, when it truth it was mostlikely not the Lord's will.
Dating is just thing the world has created, were people put the cart before the horse so to speak. Being friends and just getting to know one another as that only with no exspectations and your eyes open ahead of time to who you are in him and his will and path he has you on.
