Author	Thread: When men feel unworthy
IamIsabel View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 9 Mar, 2010 08:36 PM I am learning that when some men are going through things in life like loss of income, depression, or anything that they struggle with feeling less than confident, they tend to back away from relationships. I have known men (married and single) going through these types of experiences who walk away from women they love. In my own personal experience I have shown support and thought no less of my man but still he withdrew. How can us women show love and support when our men are going through this? Any other advise along this topic is appreciated. Post Reply
IamIsabel View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 12 Mar, 2010 03:12 PM Hi Thunder, Well that man know the woman is feeling rejected? Can't he come out of the cave and give her a hug or something? LOL! Post Reply
IamIsabel View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 12 Mar, 2010 03:17 PM UGH! ; ) But you guys DO make us happy even in bad times. Are there any men out there who care that the woman is feeling deeply and hurtfully rejected? Is there something he is able to do during this sensitive time to let her know or is that way off course? lol! Just pretend you are my man and you are in the cave. "honey, I fell rejected". Now what does the man do? Lord take me now! lol.:prayingm: Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 12 Mar, 2010 03:24 PM I grew up with four sisters so I understand where you are coming from...to this day they still "argue" with their husbands about why they back away when they get upset. I think, from an outside view, that a lot of it is that the guy doesn't want to misplace his feelings of anger and unworthiness onto his wife. I know that may sound crazy and I don't think they are aware of it themselves but has been my observation on the majority of the times this kind of thing happens. But it sounds like it has that effect any way.... Post Reply
View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 03:22 AM Isabel, Not all men are that way. There are some that truely bond with their wives and she becomes the other "two pillars" of the foundation that is their marriage. They are so "intuned" with each other that few words need to be said. At moments of dispair or pain...he looks to her to "come in" and help support him (both physically and spiritually). In that kind of relationship Everything is Shared! I mean, who better to turn to then the woman you Love Dearly? For me it would be crazy to "push" her away...when my Heart is screaming "Hold me!". The way I see it...we share everything...good or bad. If it were her I would expect her to want me there and to expect any help I can give...even if it is just an ear to listen to her. This was probably one of the hardest lessons God made me learn (another one was that it is not my job to "fix" everything all the time...sometimes she just wants me to listen and be empathetic). I no longer define myself by worldly standards. I've come to the realization that the worst thing that could happen to me is that I die...and go to Heaven! I still have "buttons" on me that still get pushed, but I am working slowly on finding them and having them removed. No...I will NEVER>>>NEVER...EVER push My Love away! On the contary...I may just have her surgically attached to my hip (ouch!). Steve Post Reply
IamIsabel View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 08:58 AM Stormcountry, great insight. That makes good sense and I am starting to feel a little relieved. Now why can't the men just say what you said? If they did, the wife will see that the distance is not rejection but protection for the wife. World of difference there! NOW, what if it's "just" a girlfriend the guy is crazy about? Will the guy stop seeing the girl, slow things down or what?? Post Reply
View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 03:27 PM dear folks, that alone time that i would need would only be for a short while.. like here i can go out and piddle on the ranch.. just sit and watch the calves play and think out what i may need to.. but im comin back to the house fore too long ,cause i aint gonna be out there all day hehe.. and when i come home then i want me some time with my baby.. hehe cave time dont have to interfere with my babys time.. with that said id prolly not wanna talk about it till i was ready to talk with her about it.. cause id leave it at the door.. its kind of like if you had frusterations at work .. im the kind of feller that prolly wouldnt ask you about it unless you brought it up first.. ole cattle Post Reply
SBC 2010 View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 16 Mar, 2010 09:14 PM I have to agree that the withdraw may have been for your protection, but that didn't mean it the right thing to do and I'm sure it must have hurt you. It sounds like you did everything 100% correct. Also remember everyone is different and will react differently to problems. My advice would be to do exactly the same thing next time. Just try not to take it so hard if the result is similar. Post Reply
View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 17 Mar, 2010 05:39 PM dear sbc, welcome to the forums. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 17 Mar, 2010 05:57 PM I feel better now that I am single.I am looking for a woman that understands my needs.In my marriage my ex let her son destroy a lot of things and not tell me until I found it. I am looking for a lady who respects me. I also need her to from a deep bond with me.As some of you know from my past statements that I am on meds for seizures.She needs to be able to read me, (figure of speech) . Post Reply
IamIsabel View Profile History	When men feel unworthy Posted : 19 Mar, 2010 06:17 PM dgrimater, you do deserve the respect you think of. It is biblical and I pray that God will send a woman to you who cherishes you and respects you. As for me, I am already worn out from even thinking about dating and I haven't dated much at all! I wish the good Lord would hurry and send my PERFECT man so I won't have to try to figure out this strange creature called MAN! :rolleyes: Post Reply

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