What exactly is it that men like and find attractive in a woman
Posted : 6 Mar, 2010 09:24 PM
Well, the thing is that from what I have noticed and observed,I always thought that most men went for one type of woman: thin, pretty, young and the type of women they thought were devoted to serving their every little need and catering to their every little whim, and were intimidated and not attracted to what some people considered to be strong, smart, independent career women or ones that didn't look a certain way or that they thought were too demanding simply because they had a career.
The ones that I came across always seemed to be attracted to that type so I tried to be submissive and tried to downplay my intelligence or tried to downplay the fact that I am highly educated or even a college graduate simply because I am not really skinny or pretty and I thought that was the only way I could attract anyone is if I acted like that. The weird thing is it only seemed to work for a short time and it seems like most guys closer to my age want younger and prettier women that do cater to their every whim and I have to compete with that if I want to meet someone decent that could be my future husband and that I could settle down with and start a family with because I have noticed that men that I have come across are not really attracted to women that are college-educated and have a career because a lot of times they will throw it up in your face and say stuff like you're too involved in your career and that you care more about your job than you do about me and saying that's why I am cheating on you with someone else and I am leaving you and/or divorcing you for her, usually it's for someone younger and prettier.
Another thing that I have noticed in the couple of relationships I have had, as well as the many rejections when I first introduce myself to a guy that I have dealt with is that men don't like it if you don't want to get sexually involved with them in like the first 2 or 3 dates and you explain to him why then he pushes you away and rejects you for someone who will. I have to say that I haven't been in that many relationships and that's another reason why I get rejected. In case you were wondering, yes, at 29 years old I am still a virgin and the relationships that I have been in never lasted long enough for me to get to that point because I would have to be in a relationship with someone for a while before I would consider doing anything sexual with him, that is if I choose not to wait til my wedding night. That's something that I don't mention to someone I am seeing until maybe a few weeks into a relationship unless I am asked about that before then by the guy, then I am upfront and honest with them because I feel like honesty is very important in a relationship. I don't know if its a blessing or a curse because on one hand some people applaud you and are saying you are doing the right thing, but by the same token you have people who look down on you because they think you should be messing around with as many guys as possible and they make it look so cool and so glamorous to have sex with as many different people as possible and say that you are a uptight little prude or a stuck-up little priss and make some snide, nasty remarks along the lines of"you're too fat and ugly to ever have someone be attracted to you or want to be with you and love you" or that "you're too old, fat and ugly to find someone" or my personal favorite,"if you don't do it, they will find some other woman that will" if you don't live your life like that and I have to also compete for guys closer to my age with other women that are 95% of the time, younger and prettier that will do that for a man.
Again, these are things I have been told and that I have observed and noticed in my search for someone that I could settle down and start a family with who will unconditionally love me as well as accept and appreciate me for who I am as a woman and what I have to give to them and offer them. I might be confused or might have the wrong idea about this all together. If you have any thoughts on this I would like to hear them because I just don't know and I hope and pray to God that there are still some decent gentlemen out there. God bless you and be with you
What exactly is it that men like and find attractive in a woman
Posted : 13 Mar, 2010 11:58 PM
aleitha:
that was terrific.
to add to that i'd like to say when God tells us a commandment, it really is for nothing more than our good. Like patience for instance, you can get angry at the traffic, or you can enjoy the ride. Sometimes He wants us to enjoy the ride (you can choose to or choose not to, but the point and what He wants is to enjoy), and when He decides is when we pull forward. Either way, you can't lose with patience, or doing anything else He says, which is why it's still good to read and understand the Bible.
