Author	Thread: STD
Randy54156 View Profile History	STD Posted : 1 Feb, 2010 01:06 AM Who would knowingly date a woman with STD ? Questions like this should'nt even appear on a Christian based website. As with ALOT of others questions about sex.:boxing: Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 2 Feb, 2010 08:13 AM I did write earlier on this issue in this post. If we can not discuss health issues here and are required to in the work place that is a double standard. when I was in a factory we had to watch videos on how to handle people with certain diseases. A girl shared her food with her friends and never told them she had a STD.Then right before she quite she told everybody. She had given food to all her friends before.Oh, did so many rush to the doctor in a panic. If we can not talk about this in some form on a site like this then where can we? :peace: Peace Randy. I did not write this too start a disagreement but to make a point.This is more than just STD's in my response. Other things we can catch. Maybe the wording was wrong but the idea needs to be brought out. What about lepers? Jesus healed them.What about unclean women? the bible does discuss that in the old testament. So, why is the issue taboo to some? Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	STD Posted : 2 Feb, 2010 11:43 AM Hey randy, dgr, and cattle!!!! You guys all three make great points!!!!!! Randy, even if you feel you could've worded your question differently, you named the post STD. No one who replied or looked can say they didn't know what they were getting themselves into!!! So thanks for the warning, it was crystal clear! Cattle-Way to look out for the community!!!!! I know you care about all of us, and the same feeling goes right back at you!!! And dgr-Excellent point about STDs not only being sexually transmitted!! There ARE other ways to catch these things other than sex! I mean we've got babies being born addicted to crack, or H.I.V. positive right? I think we're all adults here, (or if we aren't then we lied when we signed up, cause you gotta be 18 to join this site.) I don't hear anyone snickering at all, and yes, this is a delicate subject, absolutely. I like the way it's been handled before, and yes- there have been a few cases where things got out of hand, but everyone jumped in and tried to fix it. (Thanks archi with the '67 STD that sat eight, and ran great) Y'all think we need a sex-related forum? In my opinion that might send the wrong message, but I'd love to hear about ideas for a better way to handle these questions!?!?!? And I think that these things absolutely do need to be talked about. I for one won't even think about marrying someone that I'm not comfortable bringing up these kinds of issues to! I mean if we can't communicate at that level, then I don't want to marry her, cause we're not open and honest enough with each other. That being said, everyone has their own level of offense and comfort. I agree it's good to keep ourselves pure, but come on! Nobody's perfect! (And I don't just mean sex related stuff either.) If you don't want to read a post that's clearly about an STD, then don't open it. The same goes for suspicious emails you get, right? All in all, I'm glad this has sparked some discussion, on both forums, but can understand how some people get upset. Maybe after we're done talking about the STDs, could we all put our heads together and figure out the "best way" to go about talking about sex? love to all-skinny Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 06:51 AM dear skinny, your words here could we all put our heads together and figure out the "best way" to go about talking about sex mine here yep get married first..and speak about it with your spouse.. hehe ole cattle Post Reply
Randy54156 View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 08:54 AM "cattleman" Your EXactly right. Sex & sex issues should be shared between the 2, not with everyone. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 12:27 PM Hey cattle, and Randy, I think you've both got a point here. I really do. I'm not trying to "pass blame" or anything of the sort, but I'm only responding to a thread. I know y'all read the threads, and I like that about you. As you know, I've never started a thread that was anywhere near this subject. I'm sorry if I offended, didn't mean to -skinny Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 12:40 PM dear skinny, its cool.. i knew you wasnt.. appreciate ya sayin it though.. ole cattle Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 06:06 PM Dear cattle, and randy- Cattle, thanks for understanding my apologies, but I'm still confused about this whole thing: say one member of a proposed marriage did have something, don't they owe it to the other to at least give them a heads up? I for one am clean and would be happy to furnish test results to a fiance. But where do you draw the line between being polite, and being honest? I mean I'd hate to see a post somewhere in this forum that says "I married him, now I caught something." What kind of man would knowingly hide that kind of thing from their bride to be until after they got married? It seems wrong and deceitful to me to knowingly keep that kind of info from a spouse. Maybe we're coming from two different schools of thought here? Or am I reading it wrong? Please understand, I'm not trying to be argumentative, but... Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 06:39 PM You all are making good points. IF this site were to have discussions of a sexual nature, then I would want them to be monitored. I agree that 2 people who will become man and wife need to discuss this together. That should be done, absolutely. On the other hand...... I know people who, for one reason or another, are very ignorant about all things sexual. They are Christians who want to give their best to their future mate and have questions about how to handle things. Their own past. Their partner's past. STDs. How to handle dating. How to handle lust. Etc etc. You get the idea. My point is --- shouldn't this site provide a safe, Christian place for those kinds of (moderated!) discussions to take place? I'm not really sure of the answer. I'm just throwing out my observations and thoughts. I agree, everyone has their own comfort levels and we need to be sensitive to that. Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 3 Feb, 2010 08:48 PM dear folks, a question such as this is to me more of a health and moral question.. it does concern you and your future mates health and well being.. also is it morally right to tell your potential mate you have a std.. my answer to that is yes morally you have that obligation to tell your future spouse if you knowingly have any stds.. there are some situations that can kill ya.. and i dont know of anyone right off that would want to kill theirself just to be married.. unless it were two people that both already had the aids or hiv virus.. then i would imagine they wouldnt mind bein together as they already have it and could be a comfort to each other .. or say two folks have herpes ect .. and they may wanna marry one another.. and who knows someone may not mind if their potential spouse has a std.. but they shoul have the right to know beforehand .. and then let them make the choice.. as for lust issues or sexual issues , thats not something you should be discussing between single men and single women together.. you are setting your brothers and sisters and even yourselves up to stumble. if you are a man and you wont ask your mother them questions and if you are a woman and you wont ask your father them questions then them questions dont need to be addressed in a public christian forum.. satan dont need but a small crack in the door to waltz right on in and take over.. we have to be very diligent and beware of him at all times.. and sex and lust is right up his alley... lets not be responsible and make another stumble or even our own selves .. as we are christians.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	STD Posted : 4 Feb, 2010 06:24 PM Cattleman, I see your point. I think there should be forums or places where singles can go and get questions answered in a safe (monitored) environment. But this is a singles site -- and we need to respect that and stay off certain topics. Post Reply

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