Author	Thread: how long do you wait?
Admin	how long do you wait? Posted : 22 Jan, 2010 06:08 PM got another question for the guys- been reading the forums and really enjoy your answers-archimedes really says what he feels- which is great- remp, cattle, skinny, & dgrimater all give great answers.... I been legally seperated for a long time, wife won't sign papers. I want to live according to scripture which is why I prayed long and hard and did a lot of soul-searching before I took the heartwrenching step of filing for divorce to get out of a very abusive( her-not me) relationship. How long should I wait until I accept an offer from a nice lady to go out to dinner or a movie, without a guilty conscience? On one hand, I want to stay true to the teachings of Christ and don't want to be an adulterer in Jesus' eyes, on the other I don't won't to spend the rest of my life alone either. I guess I'm just that naive. I was married for 23 years( a few of them quite happily) and I think I have a big heart and really enjoy good Christian companionship Could some of you please either give me some scriptures or at least remember me in your prayers. Post Reply
View Profile History	how long do you wait? Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 04:04 PM thanks Skinny, I'm proabaly gonna get a lot of eggs chunked at me, but with no doubt, if a woman was in my situation a lot of people would be screaming-GET OUT, GET OUT! My son is grown so thats a good thing. Yes, she's just playing head games. She knows I'm a Christian and what my beliefs are,( she used to be a devout Christian at 1 time), but she became verbally and physicially abusive, hooked on pills, ( I know this is tmi) but after refusing my help I just had to get out. If I stayed I would consider myself an enabler. I kinda figured I'd get more responses than I did but very grateful for the ones who replied. Thanks to all- Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	how long do you wait? Posted : 26 Jan, 2010 07:19 PM I think maybe I set off the fire and brimstone mode, sorry...but I have to say that what I said is what the bible says. A divorce on grounds besides adultery is allowed, but remarriage is only allowed because of death/adultery. What grounds fall under those categories are up to your consciences, but that is what the bible says. It's a touchy subject, because a lot of people had no choice in the matter...and a lot of people want to get remarried. The bible offers reconciliation or staying single as solutions...but if that fails..I dunno...search your heart. Mat 5:32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason *except sexual immorality* causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. Mar 10:11 So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	how long do you wait? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 12:34 AM After finishing up Divorcecare.com at my church DR. Jim Tally suggest a minimal of of six months for every year married, and after the divorce. Relationships that start during the process are not good you are emotionally vulnerable, therefore your guard is down and run the potential of an 83% chance of placing children in predators path. Another thought, is if the husband has covered you in a veil of violence, he calls us to peace, but, then you need healing for this as well, or you will be attracted to the same type of person and the cycle will continue. . My Ex started her affair with a Co worker during the separation process, and have witnessed the effects of her decisions on our children ages 8,7, and 4. Not what you wanted to hear, but I believe in the Truth, especially with children. A lot more to consider even with a date. God Bless Terry Post Reply
View Profile History	how long do you wait? Posted : 30 Jan, 2010 12:37 AM dear job, welcome to the forums. ole cattle Post Reply

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