How is a girl to know if a guy is seriously interested in her? In traditional dating, you can read body language, and maybe you even have mutual friends who can assure you that he's interested.
But in online dating, for the first little while at least, all you have to go on is written communication. I've communicated with quite a few guys on here and on another site. Sometimes it was obvious that there was no mutual interest. Some of the guys seemed to have possibilities, and they seemed interested, but they never pursued it farther than the first email or first couple IMs. A couple guys seemed to have a LOT of possibility, but there were things that stood in the way...not insurmountable things, but still obstacles. I'm still "friends" with one guy I "met" on here (we never actually met in person due to the 550+ miles between us), but that is going nowhere fast and, unfortunately, I don't see us being more than friends because of the distance. :rolleyes:
So, now I'm communicating with a guy I "met" on another site. He lives very near me, so distance is not an issue if we decide to meet in person. We have been emailing daily on-site for just over a week. Are there clues (either for interest or for a lack of interest) that I should look for? Some of the things I have appreciated in our email exchanges: he cautioned me to be careful when he knew I would be driving on icy roads, and then asked about my safety later; he regularly tells me that he enjoyed my message and would look forward to the next one; he answers my questions in great detail, even the personal ones; he asks excellent questions of me and then comments on my answers; and yesterday he wrote that he would like to talk to me on the phone, but only if/when I feel ready to do that. We have already established that we agree on all of the major issues that are important to both of us. He also has been open with the fact that he is not looking for casual dating, but rather is looking for a long-term relationship that could lead to marriage.
Does that sound like interest to you guys? Or does it sound like I'm just hoping for interest that's not really there? Do y'all have any tips for me? Anything to take note of as a good sign or a bad sign?
Thanks in advance for your input! :waving:
(Oh, girls can give me advice too based on your own experiences!)
