Author	Thread: Good girls or Wretches?
ladythumper View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 9 Dec, 2009 10:23 AM Why do men even though they will never admit it fall for the needy...witchy emotionally wrecked women? I've seen several ladies I know who are a mess and they have a great men standing by their side. What's the deal! I admit went thru wanting a bad boy stage but those days are long gone. I wouldn't even steal a second glance at a bad boy lost all respect for them now. It sure makes it hard for us good girls to find a good man when evil wretches out there are sinking their claws in the few good guys who are left out there. I've also observed that men are hung up on age. They prefer a young lady even though she's not comely or emotionally wrecked over a beautiful lady who's just a few years older and is pretty normal. The only person on the face of the earth who was completely normal is Jesus Christ? Please elaborate on how the male mind operates Im not getting it? Gbu Kimberly:-) Post Reply
david3by9 View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 08:28 AM Kimberly, Men and women need to realize the difference between relationship and ministry. It is best not to have a relationship with someone that you are helping with their problems. That is not to say that they are not important or in need of a relationship with someone. The point is when we relate to someone on their needs, it makes us the Doctor and them in need of us. A good relationship never happens when two people relate on this basis. Better to have two people who are mature and can give to one another. This is not to say there won't be a time when one or the other will need that other person to lean on or to be an encouragement, but their own relationship with Christ is strong, their past wounds have been healed (that is to a degree that they are healthy enough to love someone else, not just think about their own needs) and they are able to give and receive from someone else. People like to be needed, both men and woman. However a relationship is based on givng and receiving from each other. It is true that a man must love His wife unconditionally, but we as believers are commanded to love one another. So healthy is made up of two people becoming one in their love and sacrifice for one another, not just one person taking and the other doing all the giving. To answer your question, some men and woman have not learned this. God bless, David Post Reply
ladythumper View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 08:52 AM Lady and Gents, Thanks for ur thoughts and views on this. If ur looking for a perfect girl in church ur not going to find her she doesn't exist. So seems easier for you some of u guys to have made up ur mind and date worldly girls than church girls that's ur choice. When I was referring to men prefer younger women I meant that men that I want in their late 20's to early 40's only want women in their early 20's. I rarely get men in their 30's showing interest in me. The men interested in me are in their 50's and 60's and that's too old for me since I want babies. Gbu Kimberly:-) Post Reply
david3by9 View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 09:03 AM Kimberly, I understand that you wanting to have children. It is a natural desire. And I also understand that you would want to be with a man close to your age group. What I would say to you is this, men in their 50 and 60 can still bear children. Woman often cannot at that age. Men are capable of having children because they continue to have the ability because that is how God made men. Case in point. Ruth was a young woman and she married Boaz who was an older man, and she bore him children. They were David's grandparents and ultimately the forebearers of Jesus Christ. I am 49 and wouldn't be opposed to marrying someone who wants children, but then again if they didn't that is ok also. I pray God gives you His best and the desires of your heart. : ) David Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 02:20 PM I guess my problem with this is..."good girls and boys" seem to forget that we're all "wretches"...including them...so they tend to treat "not-so-good girls and boys" as a lesser species. Maybe God put those supposed "great" people with the "messy" people to help them through life? Just have to try and find what God puts in your path. As for the "older/younger" thing...people can give all the reasons they want. There are only a few reasons that an older guy wants a much younger girl. Not very good ones either. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 04:01 PM Grace..... Dang girl, you dug in PRETTY deep with this one. I see, smell and taste where you coming from, hahahaha. But seriously, there is a balance to everything. I haven't found it yet, but i am searching! As i believe everyone is, reading the post i see so many different things highlighted! Thus far, what i have gathered speaks to the fact that we look for what we need. A man who is needy in a certain area will seek a woman who is overflowing in that area, vice versa. No one party is to blame, it is just a matter of appreciating that we all have different needs and commit to finding yours, instead of worrying about what someone else i doing.... Ask yourself this question, is anything in nature whole? Nyanda Post Reply
View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 04:03 PM Grace..... Dang girl, you dug in PRETTY deep with this one. I see, smell and taste where you coming from, hahahaha. But seriously, there is a balance to everything. I haven't found it yet, but i am searching! As i believe everyone is, reading the post i see so many different things highlighted! Thus far, what i have gathered speaks to the fact that we look for what we need. A man who is needy in a certain area will seek a woman who is overflowing in that area, vice versa. No one party is to blame, it is just a matter of appreciating that we all have different needs and commit to finding yours, instead of worrying about what someone else i doing.... ask yourself this question, is anything in nature whole? Nyanda Post Reply
ladythumper View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 06:21 PM I know one thing for sure would prefer to be single than trapped to a wretched man been there done that over it. Tired of that boring story patiently awaiting the story God had personally scripted for me. I believe once we've been washed by the blood of the Lord we are no longer wretches we're righteous. What does light and darkness have in common? I will pray for a wretched man and steer him to a male bible counselor but will not have any relations with him. Gbu Kimberly:-) Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 10 Dec, 2009 09:04 PM :goofball: Is that what Jesus would do? Avoid the prostitutes and tax collectors and pray for a bible counselor would help them? Did Jesus avoid darkness or work to help people overcome it Himself? Anyway...as far as relationships go, I see your point a little. I thought you were just talking about someone who was not perfect, not someone who is evil. A Christian shouldn't be in a marriage-bound relationship with an "evil" person. But do you see my point a little? You won't have any relations with them? Treating them like they don't exist? Is that after they ask you out or something? :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 11 Dec, 2009 04:06 PM I like good girls. They are so much more fun,ok.Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Good girls or Wretches? Posted : 11 Dec, 2009 04:14 PM I'm with you Dennis! Post Reply

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