Author	Thread: What happened to old fashion Chivalry ?
quavah View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 17 Nov, 2009 11:52 AM Men help me here. I know times have changed , I was raised in the South. Men opened doors, brought flowers on the 1st date. Paid for meals,worked, and the women (like myself) loved them, respected them, and did the same for them. Im up north now (Wisconsin) and I cain't find that anymore, except in med in their 50's. Men in 30's-40's don't do that anymore. I med a guy and instead of asking me out on a date he said come and see me. Stop by his house. Give me a break!!! Will I every find that man? Help me out men, whats the problem? Post Reply
View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 22 Nov, 2009 10:43 PM Hey Walt!! :waving: Gender equality didn't kill it, as Cattle and JJ have explained, but it did make it easier for us good girls to the good ole boys! For that, I am greatful! With love, T Post Reply
View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 01:10 AM My friends and I always have this discussion. It's a shame that most men nowadays don't do simple things like holding the door open for a woman. My friend went on a date with a nice young man the other night. She told us that he opened the car door for her, and we all squealed with excitement and agreed that was definitely a plus on his behalf. It's so sad that men are viewed as the exception to the rule when they do things like that. Women are raised not to expect it, and if we do, it seems like we are demanding something that is unfair. I was on a bus the other day and an elderly woman got on in front. There were no seats left, and no men offered their seat! It was a woman who did it, while all of the men stood there and stared. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 10:26 AM Well, I'd say we get to blame parenting for this one. My parents taught me to do it, but I guess the world just keeps slipping farther down the tubes. Who knew. But my parents didn't just try to teach "chivalry"...shouldn't we be holding doors open and giving up seats for old men? People in general? What confuses me is that there is some magical thing about getting a car door opened for you...I've seen many guys that do it, and they still treat their wives/girlfriends like slaves. It really is too bad that chivalry has become a ritual...because even the bad guys do it. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 03:14 PM Chivalry is not dead, unless that is your mind set...and it ain't nobody else's fault if a fella is too busy or thoughtless to help out someone else, a woman or a man, because he isn't getting anything in return. I recently was on a trip and stayed at a motel in Nevada having driven about 16 hrs and was somewhat beat. After checking in and on my way to find my luxury suite...lol there was an attractive woman on her cell phone trying to shove a baggage cart through the glass double doors to get inside with no success, I stood for a few seconds watching her, then when she saw me she dropped the phone from her ear and in a demanding tone requested that I help her. Me not wanting to anger her further said I'd be glad to then dropped my own bags and got the beast of a cart in for her while she talked some more and watched. I then turned back to the door and after a few seconds she noticed I was waiting and holding the door for her... She scooted on through and went on her merry way without so much as a glance. ( I assume she would've turned to a pillar of salt if she had). Anyway, these situations don't happen often but they do and why be discouraged and not help? ps. I wonder if later on she thought back and realized she hadn't said a thank you? Guess I'll never know huh? I'm okay with that. Post Reply
View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 25 Nov, 2009 04:40 PM JJ, That is something that we all have encountered in life. Some people think they are entitled to a lot of things. But we continue extending a helping hand because that's who we are. I think that it is something that is inherent in men, something that God put there in some men. I can remember as far back as a little child the instinctive feeling of wanting to protect my mother, of defending her when she was in danger (real or imagined). It wasn�t a thought process; it was purely a reaction � like reaching out to catch someone when they stumble. I believe that �hearing� God�s Voice in Scripture triggers its manifestation. My heroes as a young man were John Wayne � Zorro � Superman -- (to name a few.) Today�s kids look up to Eminem, 36 Mafia and Dupe da slap dog bitty. It�s no longer �cool� to be a servant. It is considered weak. Young girls don�t want any man dominating them by showing them up. Of course this is a generalization and this post will self-destruct in 60 seconds�58�55� Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 28 Nov, 2009 10:04 AM Right, and I'm not saying we shouldn't help people...all people...and I do all that stuff. I just want to know why it is that most women expect to be entitled to special treatment...and then get angry when they're called the weaker sex...or resentful when a man tries to lead. Seems hypocritical...but everybody is guilty of that, including me...so I'll shut up now. :peace::peace: Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	What happened to old fashion Chivalry ? Posted : 11 Dec, 2009 10:35 AM I like your responses...- in progress-,- jj- and -arch- have said what I feel overall. The indication of kindness is extending yourself to get out of you to help another. The world isn't like it used to be. The templates for proper behavior and etiquette no longer exists. The world is working with a new set of guidelines. *gracemae Post Reply

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