Author	Thread: why do guys get so scared?
Admin	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 8 Nov, 2009 05:22 PM i've been with a few people from this website, and they have all been very nice. i was with each for about 2 months, when they all change their feelings all of a sudden. with one, i really thought everything was going to work out...i felt like he was 'the one'. he told me how much he loved everything about me, planned out our house, etc....and then one day he just went off the deep end. this happens almost with every guy i'm with & i dont understand. its not like i was prodding him to say these things or think these things, either. they go from caring so much about you to all of a sudden wanting nothing to do with you... why do guys do this? it hurts so much. i invest a lot of time and emotion in these relationships to constantly be hurt...its made me have trouble trusting all the other guys who start talking with me. i'm so paranoid that they're going to do the same thing. it really hurts & i dont understand why guys run away all the sudden after they tell you how much you mean to them. why do they get scared? why do these guys want to be on this website & then never follow through with anything? its so very hurtful...is there something wrong with me? i mean, i know i'm worthy of something, but why does this keep happening? its like i'm a magnet for these guys who dont know what they want. Post Reply
View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 13 Nov, 2009 11:50 AM dear connor, welcome to the forums.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 13 Nov, 2009 12:17 PM Hello Conner, I think mesmells a rat. Perhaps they were married or already with a girlfriend or maybe in prison and finnally got out -- or not. They may also have pushed that cart all the way up that hill and realized what they were doing and beelined it home to mama! Whatever! Don't let them rob you twice by ruining your day or week or even an hour. Come on "We Are Woman Hear Us Roar!". Well, I'm not but you're a woman. Peace "A stupid child is ruin to a father, and a wife�s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain." Proverbs 19:13 Post Reply
View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 13 Nov, 2009 08:58 PM Good points there guys~~I don't roar though~~just purr when I am happy~~:purpleangel: Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 14 Nov, 2009 09:41 PM thanks guys for all your advice! I needed to hear it too. I was also in a relationship that lasted about 2 months. We had so much in common and I really thought he could be the one. He even told me he loved me, but after I said it back to him, he claims that he started to question his own feelings! And then he backed out in an email! I was so hurt - I hadn't given my whole heart to him, only a piece of it (I knew better than that!) but it was still very painful and I wondered what was wrong with me. Looking back, I have no doubt I did nothing wrong - he was immature and wasn't ready and we hadn't taken the time to develop a friendship first. Now I understand the true importance of developing the friendship first! Post Reply
View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 15 Nov, 2009 05:43 PM exactly! i am SO sick of these 'men' talking of how they want to settle down & after a few months or so, they decide they'd rather just be alone... it just annoys me. if you are not ready to establish a relationship, change your freaking status, because SOME people actually do want to find the right person. Post Reply
View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 16 Nov, 2009 07:52 AM Exactly. They complain and whine, "oh I'm so lonely and I want to find ms. right and start a family, etc." Well what are you doing to accomplish that? Normally, within the first "conversation" you can tell if there is a poosibility of something. If not, kindly tell them. Ladies, correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't expect every guy I talk to to have that "something" with. So it won't break our hearts. It will when things get a little more serious and then you decide your not ready for something serious. I agree with the status thing. If all you want is a date or just a friend to talk to, then put it up there. Rachel Post Reply
View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 17 Nov, 2009 10:40 AM Guys are not the only ones. I was talking to a lady for three months, she even set our FaceBook status to "in a relationship", then decided after three months that she didn't really love me. she claimed it was a "high school thing" and that it was a fantasy. This was all after a week prior she was online looking at wedding dresses and showing them to me. so NO men are NOT the only ones that bail out. Post Reply
Xtine View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 17 Nov, 2009 04:01 PM Hello Starr and Connor, I agree with most of what people wrote previously,and for whatever reason they did it for,I think its easier just to think it as God already provided a way better partner for all of us.yes it did hurt indeed,I've been there,kinda wonder what went wrong,what did I say or didn't do,etc.then I came to the conclusion to just take it easy,and build up solid friendship at first,plus I know God doesn't usually work in an instant way,at least in my life :p the rest of it,I surrender it to God,when I reflect what I did on the past,I found that I was writing my own love story rather than letting God wrote it :) I dunno bout u two,but that was what happened with me :) Just take it easy and only hope upon God,not on men.keep praying and never give up on Jesus :) My prayers are with u, Christine Post Reply
ggwearsjeans View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 18 Nov, 2009 09:31 PM Connor At least we know it isn't age.... young and old alike, hummm interesting dont ya think. Goes back to male from Mars, female from Venus (or vice versa). Find the book "He's just not that into you' and read it, makes you think good and long about the signs you didnt see or ignored. Good subject Post Reply
kingliness View Profile History	why do guys get so scared? Posted : 13 Dec, 2009 05:58 AM People are not perfect.. but God loves them and so should we. I think the problems start when a relationship doesn't work and you think to yourself.. what did I do or what's wrong with me... instead of thinking.. ahh that person just wasn't the right one and im glad I didn't find out 2 years down the road when we were married.. I don't think you need to wait a year as friends before you can be serious.. because that is just crazy especially not if you're not somewhat local to meet in person.. but I do think you need to pray to God unceasingly about your relationship and your own heart.. Remember these good works were set here for us by the Lord.. and if it takes 30 failed relationships to craft us into the people He wants us to be.. then so be it.. don't let fear or self condemnation rule you, but the Love of God.. I would pray that you find the right man, but I'll pray that the Lord's will be done for you instead because He is perfect and knows best. Chris Post Reply

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