Author	Thread: Hugging
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	Hugging Posted : 24 Oct, 2009 09:54 PM Guys, what is your perspective on hugging females? Do you strictly go with the side hug or do you do a lean in with a light pat on the back or do you do a full embrace? I've heard that some guys can get turned on just by a hug so I'm wondering how true that is. Post Reply
patou View Profile History	Hugging Posted : 2 Nov, 2009 04:16 PM I agree to both of you, Archimedes & Walter4u, women needs a good hug from a certain time from a friend, lover & brother.:rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Hugging Posted : 20 Nov, 2009 03:51 PM If you're trying to prevent a guy from ever getting turned on he should be a hermit. That happens. We're wired for it. That part of why a husband and wife express love in differing ways. Both should say it, and both should show it in a way the other understands. Men are odd, I know. A hug is a hug, though. We're not talking massage or a long lingering embrace with soft lights and music off in the distance(wow, not sure why that came out so quickly). It is not normally something to get worked up over. Post Reply
RamblinReck89 View Profile History	Hugging Posted : 11 Dec, 2009 12:52 AM Personally, I don't like the side hug. I like a full hug. That said, I full hug guys, I hug girls, I hug old women, if I had a sister I would hug her. I don't discriminate. Heck I even once hugged a girl I had just been introduced to. She was standing higher than me, so when she reached out her hand for a handshake, I thought she was going in for a hug and just went with it. Luckily she didn't freak out. I must be doing something right because I'm consistently complimented on my hugs. I don't get turned on by hugs though. I feel more connected with the person, but I don't get turned on. I'm sure some guys do, but those guys have more problems than just hugs. While there is a lot of value in dressing and behaving in a way that is pleasing to the Lord, guys don't actually think about sex every seven seconds (or 100 times a minute, or whatever other ridiculous myths girls get told). Guys are responsible for controlling themselves. If a front hug causes a guy to stumble, he should take the initiative to only side hug or high five or whatever is necessary. Post Reply
Prov31_Lady View Profile History	Hugging Posted : 11 Dec, 2009 02:08 PM thanks for all the responses! Let me give an update. There's this guy that I like and we've become good friends, but he doesn't seem to be interested in me other than friends. He likes to give hugs and squeeze - he does this for all guys and girls so it's not just me. However, he truth is, because I'm attracted to him, when he hugs me like that, I can't help but read into it (even though I know he doesn't mean anything except "you're my friend and I care about you") but I always find myself wanting more. One time, he hugged me and held me for several seconds, but again, i didn't want to read into it. So anyway, I asked him a few weeks ago not to hug me like that anymore. I made sure to say it very respectfully and I told him that he wasn't doing anything wrong, but that I couldn't help but read into it and I didn't want it to mess with my mind. He affirmed that he didn't mean anything by it and that he hugs all of his friends that way, but he respected the way I felt and no only gives me side hugs. The problem is . . . now that some time has gone by, I really miss his "bear" hugs, but only because I'm attracted to him and really enjoyed the affection. I think it's wise for me to keep things the way they are for my own good, even though I know that his intentions are pure. I think at first, I was pretending that this was for his own good, but after reading your comments, I realize that I can't possibly control what goes on through a man's mind and I can't worry (too much) about it. They have to take responsibility too. Ugggggh! I want a "real" hug from him! But I want it to mean something more than it does now. And he probably wants to give me a "real" hug too, but probably not for the same reasons as me :( I guess we'll have to just wait and see how this works out. If he ever wants to start a relationship with me, the first thing I'll do is hug him :glow: Otherwise, it's probably good (for my own sake) to keep things the way they are. What do you think? Post Reply

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