Sometimes I'll be in a social situation, but in my mind i'll still be in 'online mode' and wonder if the girls there will respond to me the same as the girls on here (which is poorly). alot of times that ends up not being the case, but it's still a distraction i have to work at getting through sometimes. anyone else like that? trying to figure out if this site does more harm than good when it comes to maintaining a healthy respect for myself and women.
33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
Yesterday afternoon I spent about 4 hours emailing with some poor emotionally ill woman - seems her motives were something other than what she said. Whatever the case me be if one is dealing with emotionally ill people - one is likely to become emotionally ill. Thats why I have to avoid them and playing games with their demons - who want to tangle me up and waste my time.
This is why I am also going to drop such ladies a lot faster when they have a problem giving me their number. As you said in another post Remp they want to manipulate you - and you were 100% correct. Thats how the really sick ones are.
"Nice guys" a lot of time means someone who is well to do and going to pay their overhead or buy them expensive gifts (or otherwise spend a lot of money on them)- and has very little to do with the guys character.
Of course if that is the case she may more frequently not even be genuinely saved or born again - and if she is - there would probably not be enough evidence for anyone to know it.
if you were getting along really well with all of the women on this site - something would be seriously wrong with you.
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i just dont agree with you on this one. i tend to see that if i am nice to others then they in turn are nice to me.. least thats what ive experienced here.. if someone isnt comfortable with giving me their phone or private email right off. then i let them breathe and back off it.. usually they will give it to ya soon enuff if there is really anything between you..even as just a friends.. cause ya see the women are just as curious as we are as to whether it will become friends or even more or nothing at all.
i just dont understand how you keep getting only all these women whom you say are ill. cause i personally dont think there are that many ill people here.. maybe im just an optimist hehe.. but i havent seen it here myself..
Explanation they take things as an insult which are not - or they are insulting and when you confront them they do not know it. Come on Cattleman. Do you live on the same planet I do?
To give you an example of emotional illness - well I am not even going to go there, but I could show you some totally insane emails. AND KNOCK IT OFF I am also getting sick and tired of you throwing in your 2 cents when you do not know the circumstances. YOU WANT ME TO CLUE YOU IN CALL ME MY PHONE NUMBERS ON MY PROFILE!!!
The issue is not about them giving me their number - although fearfullness is emotional illness. I have also talked to 6 ladies friends (all but one - on the phone) that I met here about all of these womens emotional issues I am talking
and 4 of them seem to agree completely and understand exactly what I am saying about that stuff. The other two are not really friends - and despite the fact they tell me otherwise - I think they have those same types of emotional problems.
I get a little ticked when you jump in here without knowing all of the facts and with a point of view which only acknowledges the other side and seems rather narrow.
But I will admit to this much - if I was not doing mass marketing (lol) I no doubt would not have made some of the mistakes I did. No one's perfect.
But ti give you an example someone objected to my "affectionate expressions" and then long after I stopped she continued to bring the issue up. So I brought that to her attention but she still continued (part of the problem was that although we were shooting email after email - emailing is not real time) Anyway she would never admit she had any part in the problem - and could not understand what I was saying after I explained it to her 4 more times. That was the most mild example of what I am talking about
I could give you way better examples than that - but I have no intention of digging that garbage up again.
When I talked about how those kind of issues (extreme emotional one's resulting from abuse) affects men she said two wonderful words , which were "I know." I once took a lady out (SA vicitm) we went to dinner and then to see a band. "Everywhere" we went she flirted with the male staff - and I mean "everywhere". The next day when I brought that up she started crying at the top of her lungs and denying it. She was so sick that she was not even aware she was doing it while she was with me.
Women are prone to emotional problems but I have zero interest in spending months of my time or even weeks communicating with someone who has those types of giant emotional problems. GIVE ME A BREAK!
Seems like my reaction to what you said was like some of these women - reading your email again.
Again I stand on 1 Corinthians 15:33 (KJV)
33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
More to the point what that scripture means to me is:Well, just as disease is contagious rather than health, and fat comes easier than muscle, so emotional ill health seems to be easier to obtain than good. We need to deal with this reality and not allow ourselves to be influenced by emotional.When we are talking about romantic relationships of any level the emotions are involved - or if such relationship is being sought after - and the only way I believe it can be ensured that I do not become as ill as the person with the serious condition - is not to be involved. And involvement is required when getting into any kind of relationship - so in other words - for the 10th time those are ones I need to avoid.
And nice young men like Remp need to know what ALL of the realities they are facing are.
Come on Cattleman. Do you live on the same planet I do?
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hehe i gotta admit you did give me a little chuckle there.
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AND KNOCK IT OFF I am also getting sick and tired of you throwing in your 2 cents when you do not know the circumstances.
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if you dont want people to put there two cents in on topics and posts then you really shouldnt be writing on a public forum..
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I get a little ticked when you jump in here without knowing all of the facts and with a point of view which only acknowledges the other side and seems rather narrow.
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its an opinion. and actual experiences ive had here. im not gonna lie and say ive spoken with a bunch of ill women here when in fact theyve all been very nice and gracious even when nothing is gonna come out of it between us. so id say that my point of view was no more one sided and narrow than your own..
your anger is also not very becoming on you. anger never has solved anything. anger for something so small as someone not agreeing with you especially.
james 1:19-20 19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
isnt really what youre doing here is gossiping about the women youve been talkin with and that you feel wronged by? say because you feel they were insulted by summin you said that you dont feel they should have been insulted by.. if you thought they were insulted before then how do you recon they will feel when they read what youre writing about them here .. i just feel thats kind of wrong..
as for remp needin to know the realities that are out there. yes i agree with you there. the reality is he is more than likely to find a good decent christian woman here than not. but there can always be a few bad apples in a barrel. but here i just dont see it happenin that often. i could be wrong. but yet i havent had one bad one yet.. and ive talked with quite a few as friends and some that nothing came of em
thats just my own personal experience .. so 777 dont get so upset when i dont agree with you as sometimes i agree with ya.. its not personal.. i still love you as a brother in CHRIST.
