Author	Thread: Picky, Picky
Admin	Picky, Picky Posted : 5 Oct, 2009 09:05 PM Simple question open to both guys and gals: Do you think women are too picky? Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 7 Oct, 2009 10:11 PM dear folks, bama, welcome to the forums.. and golden i so agree with what you said there.. i want a woman that wants me.. not just cause i happen to be handy hehe.. ole cattle Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 8 Oct, 2009 06:47 AM I agree with Ole Cattle. I want a woman who wants me.Of course - I also want a woman who has character. I sent out probably emails to about a total of 300 women here. Most of those were short ones that were complimentary. Most I probably had something in common with and all were within about 10 yrs or less of my age. I probably received about probably 50 replies. Results have been about 10 ladies I have communicated with and about 5 who are friends now. Of the ones I could see view either my email or my profile which was probably about half - probably only about 25% replied. You are emailing women. Most of them I'll bet have above average looks and live in good sized cities. Bottom line is something is usually wrong if shes a good looking woman and lives in a big city and is on this site. I have found they usually have emotional problems - way, way beyond the norm. What I think is funny are the women who I have good conversations with and they "tell me" they consider me their friend but wont give me their number (And they live in other states). "Picky picky" is right in a lot of cases. Of course there are a lot of reasons for why so many women are fearful and some of them are good ones - but being fearful and/or flaky is probably a lot of what you are dealing with - instead of them being picky. A lot of times it all goes together - being picky, fearful & flaky Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 8 Oct, 2009 07:15 AM I used to do things to bypass their emotional problems like offering my phone number and telling them to *67 (block their number) when calling me if they want, but I stop that after the first 3. (I think I actually ended up with a total of 7 ph numbers) There were probably a total of about 20-25 that I exchanged more than 3 emails with - but less than 10 emails. But now I just politely ask for their phone number, usually after the 3rd email or I'm. If they don't feel comfortable with me within about 10 emails or 2 weeks at most - its because they have significant emotional problems - plain & simple. Because if I am still talking to them it is because we have established good rapport and have things in common. But if she doesn't give me her number after I have nicely requested it twice - I am dropping her like a hot potatoe. Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 8 Oct, 2009 07:51 AM Me, i think women (the ones i like meeting) are somewhat picky, but not unreasonably so. On here i think it is really easy to gravitate toward that polarized way of thinking when you don't know why they don't email you back (maybe that'll be another question i'll put out later). everyone has their reasons, and they're all different. and that doesn't make you or her a bad person. this point of view is also based on how secure you are with yourself, the difference between BEING a good guy and ACTING like a good guy. Genuinly good guys keep going till they get what they're looking for, guys that just act good get in there own way and they get stuck and frustrated. What separates the two is who has the character to keep trying. My personal opinion anyway... Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 8 Oct, 2009 09:04 AM Theres some wisdom and some truth in that for sure. Although if its an option a whole lot better way is to probably abandon this approach - almost altogether and look for a good woman in church and/or use this as a back up. In other words, at this point I am here mainly for entertainment and with the hope that I might possibly meet her here - but I am not expecting to. Church if its an option, I am convinced, is a lot better approach. One of my biggest problems is I haven't found a church where I trust the pastors understanding of the word; but in my opinion there would be nothing wrong in going to different churches in search of a wife. I still can give financial support to other ministries that I believe. I have fellowship wherever I find other believers and fortunately I have some good Christian friends. Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 8 Oct, 2009 05:56 PM Occurs to me I need to give credit where credit is due. Probably the reason why a lot of those women would not even bother to read my email is because they were in other state. Understandably, no doubt, probably some didn't bother because they would not consider an out of town -or out of state - relationship. I just got an email from a lady telling me that. Post Reply
Happy2222 View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 10 Oct, 2009 05:26 AM I did mission work with the Indians where many of the marriages were arranged. They seemed to have great success. It is not about picking the right spouse but being the right spouse. Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 10 Oct, 2009 08:08 AM You really believe in that approach? Elsewhere you say being unmarried is a sin. So then why aren't you married? The word says otherwise. What about being equally yoked and instructions to the Jews about not marrying from certain groups? If you want to try that out I know a few Christian woman who have major emotional problems that I could put you in contact with. They believe and are nice looking, but they will take about half of everything that you say, regardless of what you are talking about (even if it has nothing to do with them) as an insult. Drama queens, some would say. But one would would probably marry you - or why don't you ask every woman who meets your "basic" requirements to marry you - and then tell us how that works out - after you marry the first one. Who knows may be it will work and you will be married longer than 3 months, but I doubt it.:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 10 Oct, 2009 02:33 PM Sorry Happy 222. I should have my point some other way than being sarcastic. Really sorry about that, please accept my apologies. Post Reply
View Profile History	Picky, Picky Posted : 14 Oct, 2009 12:06 AM Yes, If I have to think of spending the rest of my life with a man -- I've got to be picky . In other words, I stick to my preferrences ... :nahnah: Post Reply

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