Pictures on guys profiles compared tot he pictures on girls profiles...
Posted : 29 Sep, 2009 11:43 AM
The pictures of women that get my attention are the ones that show the eyes. you can have all your bikinis or sexy clothes but what I look for is eye contact. :peace:
Pictures on guys profiles compared tot he pictures on girls profiles...
Posted : 1 Oct, 2009 09:11 AM
ok, I just have to give cattle PrOpS for layin down the WORD on this one. :yay:
Being comfy in yr own skin is one thing- taking pics by the water. while yr having fun, but if yr looking to show off your body before they get to know yr mind, it's another.
I dunno. I'm the type if I was hiking with a date and there's a shallow stream I wouldn't HAPPEN to have my bathing suit on...I'd take my shoes and socks off, roll the pants up and wade in and enjoy the moment. :yay:
I just think those who showing off the suits- would rather just show off the fact that they're physically fit and attractive in that way....
Pictures on guys profiles compared tot he pictures on girls profiles...
Posted : 2 Oct, 2009 10:38 PM
Matthew 5-29: If your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out.
I doubt any of us will go to these extreme lengths.
So what you do is distance yourself from the temptation. try to eliminate it from your life.
It all comes down to temptation, if you see a girl in a bikini, and you think improper thoughts... Well, the thought is as bad as the deed.
Both men and women select pictures that would be attractive to a potential partner, does that make us all guilty of fostering temptation upon our sisters, or brothers in Christ?
It is hard. For we want to make ourselves look better to attract someone else. We pick the most flattering shots of ourselves for this website. No one would use pictures of themselves that they don't like.
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Posted : 6 Oct, 2009 11:05 PM
Amen cattle, I agree just want to add a little more to what you are saying.
1 Corinthians 12:27 (King James Version)
27Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.
God says we are the body of Christ, we are the church, it is not a building, I guess what I am saying is this, how do you want to glorify Jesus in his church(we the church)
1 Peter 3:3-5 (New King James Version)
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward�arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel� 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,
It looks like it is the example we want to make to others what Christ has done for us.
If we dress like the world, talk like the world, act like the world, how are we to show the world that being a christian is a far better way to live.
Pictures on guys profiles compared tot he pictures on girls profiles...
Posted : 6 Oct, 2009 11:16 PM
Hi monica you are a very pretty young girl and so is my granddaughter I tell her and you this, wearing clothing that shows you off so that a man is lusting after you is not being proud of your beauty, it is putting what God has given you to shame. Read this.
My testimony when I was young and pretty I thought as you did and believe me it is a hard way to go, you will attract men that want to use you and not care one bit for you, they will be out to meet there needs only.
Now a man of God will treat you with honour and love you and not expect anything from you that will lead you into sin.
Jesus loves you very much and has a good plan for you one to bless you and keep you safe. Take care of yourself and your body, do not let anyone defile you.
1 Peter 3:3-5 (New King James Version)
3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward�arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel� 4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,
Pictures on guys profiles compared tot he pictures on girls profiles...
Posted : 7 Oct, 2009 04:38 PM
Oh come on! Guys are guys!! I have seen a few photos of women in swimsuits that weren't revealing. It was a modest 2 piece swimsuit with maybe 4 inch or wider side. I think the lady had just lost weight and she was proud of how she looked. She was not what I would call slim but still I thought - you go girl!!:applause: lol
Generally speaking I say swim suits, plunging necklines, skirts with slits way up - those just cause a man's eyes and thoughts to go the wrong way. :devil: You want someone to get to know YOU, not what you have. Be conservative with images. A woman in a dress or slacks reveals enough of her figure - if you're trying to let it be know you're slim, if not - well, you are what you are! Right?!
I think an earlier poster said they don't like close head shots from studios. Glamour shots are another thing but generally I PREFER tight head shots. I want to see smile and eyes. If a guy is not interested in what he sees from the neck up then he doesn't deserve the rest.
Glamour shots are not fair. I might feel different if we guys could get equal treatment in front of the camera though. :ROFL: LOL I think someone started to get to the point. Glamour shots hide a lot of the real person. I think an earlier post mentioned wanting to see the real person. You can see the real person in regular studio shots. It is good to see a person doing regular, everyday things also - kinda reveals a bit more about the person.
I understand women loving glamour shots. For me, I am as you see me. I could have worked on images that showed less wrinkles but that's me. I am NOT thrilled with them but - hey, if you'll accept me as I really am then I'll accept you as you really are!
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Posted : 21 Oct, 2009 01:04 PM
Greetings, my first post since joining....
On another Christian (owned) dating site I "met" a lady in its chatroom. Her nickname had the word "curvy" in it, and on her profile she mentioned that she used to be a model. Her pictures were fine. She was fully clothed, nothing was being "revealed" (not even a low-cut top).
I asked why she had "curvy" in her nick. Was it to "allure" men to view her profile? she answered, "It's true. I have a curvy body. It's no big deal to be proud of it!"
I suppose she was right about that, as she had worked out to stay "in shape" and so on.
I had mentioned to this lady that, in case she didn't know, men are "visual." I suggested she change her nick for this reason. Why? Her nickname itself was a form of temptation - Christian men aren't exempt from being "tempted through the eyes."
She & I had an online debate about this in the chatroom and by private messages. She seemed to be unable to understand how her nick - (and/or sexually revealing pictures, in terms of this thread topic) - could be offensive.
Then....
She began to get stalked by men, all of whom claimed to be Christians. They asked to see more "revealing" pictures of her. She complained to the dating site staff and at least some of the men were banned. Other didn't stop stalking her. She eventually had to change her nickname, and the last I heard, the stalking stopped.
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My View(s)
Personally, I have a bit of a "hard time" (for lack of vocabulary) on dating sites, even Christian ones. Why? Some womens' pictures are too revealing - even on "search" pages.
Someone else may say, "It's no biggee! Why does it bother you?" It does - because it does. It's no fault of my own: God made me a man.
Now, I do take all precautions against "visual temptation." I flip TV stations during commercials so as not to see half-naked women.
Porn Addiction
I've never had this problem (whether it is an actual "addiction" might be debated. That is, if it a "disease"). Yet both men and women do get into what I'll call "patterns of lust" - and this sin isn't limited to unbelievers. In my opinion, ALL Christians should be sensitive to this, whether lust is a problem area in temptation for you, yourself or not.
On dating sites (even Christian owned ones) I've clicked on ladies' profiles to read them. Their main pics were okay (tasteful, not alluring, or sexually suggestive) - only to find other pictures that were total turnoffs (some being *very* suggestive).
Had it not been for these pictures, some of these women appeared to be fine, good, dedicated Christians.
