Author	Thread: Is it all about looks?
Admin	Is it all about looks? Posted : 27 Apr, 2008 01:17 PM I wondered if anyone here felt the way I do about something. I did not put a picture on here... on pupose. I am not really looking for anyone to "hook up with" and just sort of wanted to chat as friends. I wanted to experiment and see if anyone would actually speak with me without a picture. Guess what, not much happens when you dont post a pic. I am a pretty good looking woman (I don't say that proudly)and I bet if I posted my picture the mailbox would have messags in it. Isn't it funny how very superficial we are? As I get notes to things I have posted on, people always say, good luck in your search. I am not searching lol. I have found the number one man,,,,,JESUS! If god sends me a human to fill the void of a mate, then He does. If He doesn't then it's okay. I just found that intertesting and thought maybe someone else might have some input. Post Reply
Proverbschick View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 19 Jun, 2008 05:40 AM Yes, men are visual...however, there are a lot of them that decide they don't want to talk to someone because they are not blonde, or have decent rack, or a size negative 2. To a point it's almost unfair to themselves. They are allowing themselves to miss out on a lot of great opportunities. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We are wonderfully and fearfully made. I think it's sad that a lot of guys don't even consider being friends with girls because of the same above mentioned items. Yes men are visual, but have any of them stopped to think that the more you get to know a person, the more you get to know their heart, the better they inevitable will look to you. The same is for the vice versa. To clarify, you can have a female that is kinda of homely, but she has the greatest attitude, a heart for God, a vision and passion for life, and a personality that just cannot be beat. She's the type that you want to get to know more. Then there's the super hot model type, with a snobbish attitude, material metality, and maybe not so great of a personality. Of course there are the tweeners as well, but that's another story. Most of them are already taken :goofball: Anyway, the point is, most men will naturally flock to the super hot model, and try to win her affection. It seems like your always complaining "nice guys finish last", but what do you expect when you don't give nice girls a chance? Post Reply
kidvid711 View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 22 Jun, 2008 11:16 AM Yeah, some men take love as a certain type of emotion. Some men aren't strong. It is way easier to cheat on a girl if she isn't attractive, but everyone can be attracted to something else. Basically, that isn't what love truly is. Love is not an emotion. Its a decision. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 22 Jun, 2008 12:11 PM Well said kid! It is a decision. I am not hiding my picture because I am ashamed of my looks. As a matter of fact, God did pretty good with me! I just choose to send it to those who wish to communicate with me. Plus, I talk to those who do not post pics. It is not their looks that attract me. It is their hearts. I have met some who I thought were really sincere and found they were very superficial. Some are very troubled, and I have offered my help, and they refuse. They only see in black and white. No grey! They only want their ears tickled, not the truth, and others, well, they are like sponges and want to heal. I am a professional therapist, and chose not to reveal that either, for I didn't want to toot my own horn. Some use their gifts as magnets to people, I chose not to. But, I will say, I have spoken to so many who are getting along wonderfully. Beware of those who offer soft words and just seem to portray such wisdom, there are wolves in sheeps clothing, and picture or no picture, they will bite! lol... Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 22 Jun, 2008 06:52 PM Although men are visual creatures, there are those that are willing to take the risk in knowing you before the picture. I met my husband from a personals column. A friend dared me to post an ad and I received around 125 letters. (This was before computers/forums/etc...) After a process of elimination (although I did answer every one out of courtesy) I wrote my husband. Let's see...wrote in Dec. met in April.. married in August...( He didn't see a pic. of me until March and told me he loved me before that...) Well, we were happily married for 26 years before his death. I wasn't a diva but the glue was there. What I am saying is this...If it is ordained of God and you're willing to take the risk God will control the outcome...Looks or no looks...Have you ever wondered why someone you thought was unattractive became awesome after you got to know them...mmm...or how someone you thought was "the bomb" became ugly after you got to know them...mmm...mmm...think about it...this flesh will cease to be beautiful and then what? Post Reply
kingliness View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 20 Oct, 2008 01:57 AM Just my .02. 1. I tend to not chat with girls who don't have pictures because I don't think they are serious. If you want to meet someone then ultimately, you DO have to have some sort of a physical attraction. You want someone healthy and cares about their appearance. Here's my question to whomever, how many people do you personally message that don't have a picture? You say that people without pictures don't message YOU, but do you message people without pictures? 2. Girls who I'm not interested in physically, this is a sticky situation because yes I do want to be their friend and I do want to be there for them, but there does have to be a physical attraction. So here is what happens because you are on a dating website. I will have a girl message me and I may not be interested in her physically by me responding to her - this girl tends to think I like her for a relationship and it may happen that I grow to like her as I get to know her, but then it gets crazy because you are afraid of hurting the person by saying you're not interested. Example, I had a girl I met - that messaged me and I chatted back to just talk and then she's like what's your AIM - so I gave it to her. All the sudden every single day I'm getting messages from her, and she's always asking when are we going to talk? Can we talk? Can we talk on the phone? Etc. It freaked me out and finally I had to tell her. I don't want to talk to her on the phone. She was like "Oh" and I knew it didn't sit well with her, but I didn't know what else to do. So yeah, that happens when you talk to people you meet from a dating website that you may not be interested in. If it was in a different type of setting - then you don't have that unspoken layer. Quite honestly, I a lot of people that complain that people care too much about appearances is because someone who they "liked physically" wouldn't talk to them. Do they go and talk to other people who the attraction may be there on both sides? Anyways, it's a sticky topic and it's almost making me not want to use these websites, but it's hard to find like minded Christians sometimes and I work on the computer so I have a lot of free time to chat. C. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 6 Nov, 2009 03:15 PM Hey , I just read ur post and I'm a beautiful woman myself, I got a computer phone and I tried to get my pitcure up , but I guess I would get a lot more attention from others if I had a pitcure, I don't think any1 should judge that fact of pitcures.. maybe sm do have a complex and just wanna have fun talking because , that makes them feel good. So everyone just have fun and god bless. Like don't worry be happy, god will bless in time..:ROFL: love, laugh, and live life 4 laughter Post Reply
mercy_music View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 1 Dec, 2009 11:33 PM "Man looks on the outward appearance but God looks on the heart." It is very true that the first thing want to notice is the outward appearance but by and by as we keep on delighting ourselves in the Lord, we will then see how God sees. We will then realize that it is not really the outward beauty that matters most but the inward. :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it all about looks? Posted : 23 May, 2010 01:31 PM Well, I'm one who used to be all about looks, unfortunately, but that qiuickly changed, maybe slowly changed. lol I found that some of the most beautiful women I've seen or know or have talked to end up sometimes being the ugliest person you can know. I've also found out that some average looking girl can be the greatest and most loving person I could ever meet. It hasn't worked out between us, obviously, but we are still very good friends. For me, it's personailty... if they're personality is awesome, the more beautiful the woman becomes. Post Reply

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