Author	Thread: Getting "stood up"
Admin	Getting "stood up" Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 05:15 PM Alright, it is more than a little embarrassing to come forward with this, but I would really like some responses. In the past I have only asked my mom and friends (that are also moms) about this, so I would like an answer from a nonmom; even better if it could be a guy. I get stood up a LOT. I�ll have a date and time arranged to go out with somebody, and it seems almost half of the time... he never shows up. This has happened on first dates (naturally, I didn�t give those guys an opportunity for a second chance to stand me up). So, what�s up with that? (Tell me what you think, I can handle it.) Post Reply
pattarom2009 View Profile History	Getting "stood up" Posted : 16 Aug, 2009 06:51 AM How are you being introduced to these men? If it's face to face then I think mydreamtime33 pretty much nailed it. If it's from online, there's always the possibilty that these men are not correctly representing themselves. It could be younger, thinner pictures they show, or it could be a counterfeit picture (it's happened before). Maybe they're not as tall as they said. It could be any kind of misrepresentation employed in order to get attention, but a first date might expose. It's pretty easy to idealize yourself on the internet. Post Reply
View Profile History	Getting "stood up" Posted : 21 Aug, 2009 06:16 PM Guys may stand you up because of the way that you see (view) life, situations and people. I�ve read quite a bit of what you�ve written, including how you described your ex-boyfriend who you are still best friends with. Let me ask you something. Does everyone accept your ex-boyfriend in the same way that you do? Probably not. At least not the people in the restaurants you described. Why? For some, it will be because they simply don�t know him, but for others it is because of the way that they view things � including other people. What does this add up to? If you see people and the world more closely to what or how they actually are (like your ex-boyfriend), certain guys may feel uncomfortable around you. I mean, you need to keep in mind that most men in our society have never been �seen� for who they truly are. Not even by themselves. When a man like this feels �seen�, whether young or old, it can make him feel uptight, uncomfortable and insecure � all the more reason to say whatever is needed to escape the moment. And it doesn�t take long to pick up on. Men can feel this rather quickly. Christ was like a mirror. So are we. The image, which Christ reflected back to those who looked into Him was perfect. As the Word of God, what He reflects is still perfect - James 1:24, 25. Ours is imperfect to varying degrees according to the truth, which we possess. If someone�s image of themselves is false, and our reflection is false, we may find common ground. If our reflection is more truthful and someone�s image is false, they may not like what they see when they are with us. Not just of themselves, but of the world. Post Reply

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