Author	Thread: What does he really want???
Lvstigers View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 02:24 PM I met this guy through ChristianMingle. My problem is although he says he's a Christian and all the right stuff, we all know how easy it can be to deceive people via the internet. He wants to get together, we made a date to meet at a coffee shop, which he rescheduled because he 'got called in to work' that's acceptable. But there's the sexual aspect, he talks more about kissing and massages than his faith and he wants to come to my place and cook me dinner. I've told him that I want to do things God's way, which of course is through Christ, and no sex until marriage. He says he just wants to be sure we are compatible. When I said I'd rather do this safely, meaning meet in a public place, he said, something about fear and living in the box. I feel there's something fishy. Why so adamant about coming to my home? and why not take more time to get to know each other through chat etc. What's his hurry? He hasn't even asked me any questions really. What do you all think. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 06:24 PM He's a creep....run away!! :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 09:59 PM Warning Will Robinson, DANGER DANGER!!!:devil::devil: Personally my advice would be tell him you think it wouldn't work, as he doesn't respect your boundaries (AKA YOU), and don't even meet him.:boxing: Post Reply
View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 11:17 PM He really wants what his self-centered desires want. That means that his heart may not be regenerated by the Spirit. A Spirit filled man will seek to know about your Christian walk foremost, and you personally, and have great care about your comfort and security. He would want to reveal that he has a healthy spirit (by daily devotions) and build trust and honesty. If you are very interested in him personally, tell him you will only meet at church single groups or bible studies. If he agrees and participates, then he is showing fruit. But he seems to me to be a player- who will only try to compromise you and move on to the next conquest. Post Reply
Lvstigers View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 13 Aug, 2009 12:27 AM lol thanks Josh :) good answer! Post Reply
sunshine7770 View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 13 Aug, 2009 08:33 AM Hi, No, I'm not a guy, but, wanted to encourage you not to do what he wants. I agree the Holy Spirit is leading your spirit to do what is right. When I search for a guy, I read and reread their profiles, and look at where they may be spiritually and then I ask the Lord to help me and after I prary, if I feel God' s leading, I will begin to chat with them further and then continue asking for God to guide and lead me. I am an older lady of 65 who is a widow after being married to a wonderful Christian for 36 years, but, I believe God would have me become a wife again someday. So, my family told me to seek out the christian cites. It's interesting what I have been finding. Believe it or not, many of them are seeking the wrong thing for example, not the true spiritual woman walking in the Spirit of the Lord, but, they seem to be looking for what they might have had at age 20. I have been saved since age 14 and am not a desparate widow, and just seek the Will of the Lord for my life. My encouragement for you today would be to always keep the Lord as priority in you daily life and He will give you the desires of your heart and He will always direct your path to the one He has chosen for your life time partner. God Bless you. I trust my comments have encouraged you some. Romans 8:28 Post Reply
ian777 View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 13 Aug, 2009 12:03 PM This sounds a lot like reading profiles: If Christ is not in what he says, then chances are Christ is not in what he lives, or does. Now of course, I'm a very spiritual person, and I talk about a LOT of stuff that has nothing technically to do with Christ. Plus, a lot of guys maybe don't know how to handle themselves, and make awkward mistakes. However - I'm with the rest of the gang; something doesn't stack up right here. Steer clear of him. Ian Post Reply
Lvstigers View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 13 Aug, 2009 02:32 PM Thank you all for your input and confirmation of my thoughts and feelings about this man. It helps to get feedback from you all, I knew something wasn't right and yes the Holy Spirit was telling me, but you know how you sometimes doubt yourself, well you all helped me out there. And Ian, I'm going to copy a bit of his intro here, this is what I was reading..... "god is my first love and must be hers also . i live in the world but im not of it.im a humble man who has seen alot of pain and misfortune. but now i truly know what is most important . i love to love and be loved . thankyou for taking the time to read my profile. could you relocate ask, yourself hummmm (a womens heart should be so hidden in christ that a man must first seek him out to find her)" So it sounded like he might be a true firm believer. Which he could be but, obviously that was not his focus. Blessings and thanks to you all!! :yay: Post Reply
tristan07 View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 13 Aug, 2009 02:40 PM Simple, no respect = no relationship. ditch him. Post Reply
Shunammite View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 14 Aug, 2009 04:32 PM Pls dump him - FAST! Post Reply
Lvstigers View Profile History	What does he really want??? Posted : 15 Aug, 2009 11:50 AM He's out! I did everything wrong the first time, I don't want to repeat that. Thank you all once again for your input! Bless you! Post Reply

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