Author	Thread: To question or not to question...
Admin	To question or not to question... Posted : 11 Aug, 2009 05:13 AM To all the guys out there....I have found in my correspondence with the gentlemen on this site, that they typcially don't ask many questions about me. I've even said "feel free to ask me anything" and the response I've gotten more than once is, "I'm not really good at asking questions." We continue to write to each other...so they must be interested (at least in friendship) but HOW interested?? Sorta feels like I carry the conversation. I am a very inquisitive person by nature, so I do tend to have questions to ask. I don't hold anyone to that standard, but is it a "guy" thing to not initiate questions to get to know the woman or is that just my luck of the draw so far? Thx for your insight. ~Marie Post Reply
View Profile History	To question or not to question... Posted : 12 Aug, 2009 08:35 PM Thanks to all who responded. This is excellent feedback, to say the least. I guess I don't ever want to come across as "shopping" or "interrogating" the other person. For me, it's more of a naturally flowing, MUTUAL conversation. Recently, I asked a guy that I'm currently corresponding with about this very issue. We've been emailing for a little bit and the conversation was clearly one sided. He admitted that he doesn't open up that easy (no prob...I understand that...we gotta be who we are), but at the same time. I had to know his intentions/desires b/c if he really wasn't interested in putting forth more effort, I knew it was time for me to go on my own way. Not in anger, but just knowing that we weren't a fit. After I asked him about it, he clearly started plugging in. That was nice to see b/c then I knew he was interested in more than just surface relationship. It may not always work out that way, but I guess I have to go to the heart of the matter when it stays too surface for too long. Thanks again for the insight...I really do appreciate it!!!!!!!!! You've all given me some good things to think about. ...and yes, I believe women can be that way too. I'm not picking on you guys at all. :glow: Gods blessing and favor to you!! ~Marie Post Reply
View Profile History	To question or not to question... Posted : 16 Aug, 2009 09:24 PM I read that if you ask a lot of questions, eventually the other person will feel liked and comfortable enough to start inquiring about you. In my opinion there are many people out there looking for a date or a mate without the slightest clue as to what they want out of the opposite person. I can't imagine not having questions to ask someone else! I've learned so many things about compatability over my years of dating, and I genuinely feel that God calls us to actively participate in finding our mate (since our parents and the church doesn't screen them anymore like might have been done in the past, and also because even though we (as christians) tend to have very strong values, they are not NEARLY as strict as they were before... hence, if one makes a poor match, the likelihood of staying married is not as high). A good book on this topic is "Date or Soul Mate" by Neil Clark Warren. He's got another one too, "Find the Love of your Life" or something like that. If you can't come up with your own questions, then get a book that can suggest some for you. It's lovely to get to know a person, but I think we should all be "getting to know" people with a purpose and with intention. Would you hire someone to work for you without making sure they met certain criteria or had certain skills, or even certain character traits? I think the same applies to friendships and dating! :)) A book for the heavier questions (great for if you are actually dating someone) is called "The hard questions" by Susan Piver. :) Good stuff. Good luck! Post Reply
TaxMan View Profile History	To question or not to question... Posted : 21 Sep, 2009 05:31 AM I tend to ask a lot of questions. And often get few in return. My thought is this: Most of the people are online to make up for some lack of real world thing. Time, skills talking with the other sex, location, what have you. That deficiency probably carries over to in here, some what. If someone is terrible at small talk in the world, they probably are here. Or..maybe they arent interested enough to ask questions yet. ORRRRR...maybe they are just flattered that someone's giving them the time of day. :) There are MY set of vague answers for the day. Post Reply
View Profile History	To question or not to question... Posted : 3 Oct, 2010 10:42 AM xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Post Reply

First

<< Previous  10

Page : 1 2

Last