When a man pursue woman's heart, they go to the stars to give her, the moon sun, and the stars. Men show their best face, so sweet, kind, good manners...
But when women say "yes" men change their attitude, you don't fight for her heart anymore. So what's the deal? :rolleyes:
Some of the difficulty comes from the fact that different people express love differently and perceive expressions of love differently. To one, words of affirmation are key, to others physical affection, to others romantic expressions like cards, flowers, or chocolate.
In those cases, each side needs to learn to express love in ways that other other understands and understand them in ways the other expresses.
Then there are the people who consider that the relationship exists for their benefit and not for that of the other party. They do the expressions of love long enough to get a commitment, then stop, because their "love" has nothing in common with 1 Cor 13 love.
Those are the heart-breakers and home-destroyers. They can be either men or women, though the style differs between the sexes. Anyone who has endured an abusive relationship could fill in his or her own details. One hopes to spot these people early enough that there is no actual marriage yet and certainly no kids to suffer collateral damage.
There are truly Christian men, some here, who will sacrificially love their wives. I'm sure the same is true of women ... and I've corresponded with some here I really believe fit that description.
Thank you to everybody for sharing your thoughts, it helped me very much. I'm sure this will help other members too.
"Pops61" you made me laugh and it seems some men still stays on that stone age lol
"Bluesky" Thanx for the link
"MickeyNassau" Very beautifully spoken, you're a good writer.
"kev2143" You missed the point, I didnt mention nothing about worship the women.
Through the Bible, God narrates His eternal love toward us, his people, his wife, how pursues our love, our heart. If you read 1 Cor 13, this is true love, the way He love us.
On my personal experience, Jesus went after my heart, conquered my whole being, captivated my entire attention.
He died for me, but he never stops on this, he always goes beyond the facts.
We are his image and semblance, and this semblance means we're part of His loving heart. Hence, humans are different from animals. We were born to love God first and then to our spouses, his church, people. He goes after our hearts everyday, because He knows us better than ourselves. Therefore He expects an absolute love toward him.
All that is not founded in His perfect love will not endure. "And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." 1 Cor. 13:13
"He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love" 1 John 4:8
"Hoosierhomeschooler" Yes, the best thing we can do first is discovering what's the language of love of our possible match.
Right! Sacrificial love as Jesus taught us, the basis for a successful marriage.
"1Mountain" nobody deserves God's love, but He loved us being sinners and showed His love toward us, dying for us.
"Apostelle" Exactly, you got the point! go on!!
My sincerely gratitude to everybody who posted, and will post too :) and to all of you for reading. Be blessed :glow:
