Author	Thread: Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography
LastLady View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 15 Feb, 2014 11:42 AM I recently got saved. I dated a man for many years who viewed pornography. I did not realize the extent of it until I moved in with him. It was my first time moving in with a man. I soon realized that I was bothered by pornography and lust. I left him because of his lustful ways. How can I find out if he man partakes in such activities? It is a private activity and it is difficult to determine. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks! P.S. Please do not tell me that pornography is normal and that ALL guys do. I do not believe in the words: all, impossible, always, and never. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 19 Mar, 2014 09:14 AM Luover, that's dangerous! Pornography is not like ordinary "educational material." It's not like going on YouTube to watch how to replace the fuel pump in your car. That's an educational video as well. But pornography is addictive. It's like a drug. The more people watch it, the more addicted they become. It's not just an innocent educational material. You can't treat it as such. It ruins marriages and relationships. It's a tool of satan. And the best thing to do is not watch it in the first place. If you can stop, please do it before it's too late! :-( Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 27 Mar, 2014 09:07 AM LastLady, There is no surefire way of determining if a man has a taste for pornographic material. Always best to ask. If you do not trust him to tell you the truth, then you have no sound foundation for building a relationship with him. One thing you should never do is spy on him - checking his browsing history etc. The unfortunate reality is that nearly every man who has access to porn will be a user. Our culture is drowning, we're immersed in sexual stimulatives and saturated with temptation. Female sexuality is being promiscuously repackaged for male consumption. I see too many women who blame themselves when their partner seeks sexual gratification elsewhere. A man strays, not because you've failed him as a wife, he strays because sex with a lawful spouse cannot satisfy the sin nature.. Sin wants what it doesn't have, what it can�t have; what is forbidden. Marriage can satisfy the sex drive, but it won't temper a man's desire to sin. Only Christ can change that. Sexuality is a wonderful gift. Pornography isn't beautiful, and it doesn't gratify. Women are not a soulless 2D collection of pixels. The internet allows a man to window shop for hours, looking at one woman after another, fueling sexual fantasies that no singular woman could ever satisfy. There is no woman, no matter how desirable her appearance, who is clickable, customizable, and interchangable like these porn sites are. None of it is real. It's high time we as the head of the woman, manned up and started denying ourself's. Fapping with one hand whilst scrolling a mouse with the other.. What a shameful sight that must be. It's no wonder it's done in secret. And anyone who calls themself's a Christian and does such a thing can consider themself a disgrace. They don't practice sexual immorality in full view of the parents of their flesh, and yet they claim to have a Father in heaven who sees everything. That includes the secret things! Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 27 Mar, 2014 11:29 AM Much appreciation for the truth dear, No one would have said it better. God bless you! :applause: :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 29 Mar, 2014 08:25 PM Hi, I believe there must be totally Honesty in any relationship, he obviously was not very upfront and Honest with you, people can hide many things, and think it is OK good thing you got out of that relationship. you cannot just know if a man has a problem like pornography, many men start young age looking @ playboy magazines. Like i mentioned before being Honest with each other, you cannot just look in his eyes and can tell. God bless. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 30 Mar, 2014 06:02 PM A tree is known by its fruit. If a guy watches porn, his "tree" is rotten. Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 2 Apr, 2014 11:26 AM This isn't a response to Apostelle, it's a general response to those who find their prospective match to be flawed in some way.:angeldevil: Would you write off such a man? How about one who drinks, or gambles? Which sins could you overlook, if any, or do they need to be perfect? We are called to be "perfect" and "holy" just as our "Father in heaven is" yet I don't know a single person, Christian or otherwise, who's anywhere near that level required by heaven. Again, I won't defend porn, like I won't defend any sin and say that its not if the bible says it is, but I think some perspective is needed: if you're perfect and sinless then you have the right to somebody the same, otherwise you're being a hypocrite, and it makes me wonder how much of a future there is for dating and marriage if we break things off when we discover something we don't like about the other person. It was a hallmark of the early church "how these Christians love one another", not how they judge one another, but maybe there's not so many of us who see how truly wretched we are without Christ's love and mercy... Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 4 Apr, 2014 07:15 AM No one is sinless, brother. However, we are to avoid even the appearance of sin. If someone watches porn, and lets be honest, some women watch it, too, if they do not repent and refrain from that sin, kick the dust from your feet and leave them to their sin. Do not cast your pearls before swine. I have known many men who were "addicted" to pornography. They claimed that they "just couldnt stop". If you have the Holy Spirit inside you, you can refrain. Just like alcoholics who claim they cant stop drinking. It is a matter of faith in God and will power. With God's help, you can overcome almost any addiction. Post Reply
View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 4 Apr, 2014 09:32 AM As you mentioned repenting of such sins I cannot argue; if we believe that God is real and want to go to heaven then we should desperately be wanting to turn from our sins, as apostle Paul was. Those unrepentant in the face of scripture either do not believe in it or in the One who gave it. It's why I have such a problem with practising homosexuals who claim that they can be Christians too. The only acceptable action from those who find themselves attracted to the same sex is abstinence; sure it's hard and I don't envy them one bit for the loneliness and frustration they will feel (though unmarried heterosexuals are required to abstain too, so those feelings are by no means exclusive), but isn't an eternity in heaven worth a few decades self-denial here? I'm glad I don't suffer from same sex attraction, but I too have my own weaknesses which I have to guard against and sometimes ask forgiveness for lest I become disqualified myself, because for me the prize is worth it. Remember Esau traded his birthright for a lousy bowl of soup - I wonder how many others will do the same?... Post Reply
Anthonycc View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 17 May, 2014 01:57 AM You will honestly have to learn to discern the heart and spirit Of lust first. You should be reborn in Spirit and using discernment of spirits This is a Spirit gift you have if you have the Spirit of God in you And if you yourself have repented and received Jesus Christ through Faith As your savior you recieve the Holy Spirit. If you don't think you have, ask and you shall recieve. You will have to come to recognize the spirit of lust. This is your first and best bet. Otherwise you'd have to ask and still the man could lie so you will have to be discerning. This is something you should grow in anyway And EVERY Christian is supposed to have and use. It's part of salvation! If you've truly repented of something you should have the discernment to discern it in others... That's just the way it works... You should be able to spot evil. Evil is an affliction so if you are in the Spirit you would feel sorry for them and see them as someone with a problem BECAUSE you follow after the teaching of Jesus that you do not repay evil with evil. If you do this you will see. Be apart from evil you will see it in others... Take no part with evil. Post Reply
RD63 View Profile History	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 5 Mar, 2015 07:26 PM First, I encourage you to not move in with anybody before marriage. Remember the woman at the well? She had five husbands and was living with the one she was with when Jesus talked with her at the well. He didn't condemn her for it, He never condemns but brings sin to light. Which is my main point here. There are three categories of temptation in this word, the lust of the eyes, which of course definitely includes "pornography", the Lust of the flesh, "coveting material things, you name it houses, cars, boats, etc. and the pride of life, ego, arrogance,pride, etc. I the old testament looking upon nakedness of another woman such as King David did, was called "stealing". Of course we all know that stealing is one of the no, no's among the ten commandments, but it is also, "idolatry". Remember though that Satan tempted Jesus with the very same temptations that we all face, men and women alike, so don't make the common mistake that pornography is a man's temptation. No, women are caught up into this sinful "lifestyle" as well and need to be delivered from it as much as men do. It is an issue that both men and women, especially married couples, should confront and not run away from if they truly love God, and desire to love each other. The problem escalates when the person chooses a relationship with the lifestyle over a relationship with the God and the spouse. How the person got themselves into this lifestyle is as important as the decision and desire to get out of it with the support of Christian family, Christian friends and especially the grace and power and leading of the Holy Spirit. So, I do understand the hurt, the distrust, the emotional baggage, and personal offense the devil uses to attack God's children through this sinful lifestyle, and no amount of physical submissiveness will ever be enough to satisfy the lust of the flesh or eyes. No, there has to be a humbleness and admission to God that the "lifestyle", can't stress it enough, is sin, and that their is a desire to repent, and control these lustful desires of the flesh for the sake of one's own eternal salvation and the love of God, and spouse and family and friends. I will say that a spouse must be very mature in Christ Jesus to face this even with the support of one's church family and marriage counselor, but I also encourage anyone who is facing this issue to realize that the lifestyle is not a reflection of who you are or because of a lack of desire for you in anyway. It is simply a sinful lifestyle that must be addressed with loving, caring, tenderheartedness towards the person who is struggling with this powerful lust for the welfare of everyone involved. Remember, this also, as Christians we are born again according to the Spirit man and can not sin because the Spirit of God remains, but the fleshly man or woman is still subject to be tempted according to the natural desires of pleasures of the flesh that God, Himself, to be enjoyed and honored only between male and female, and that includes respecting the physical appearance, for the body of the husband no longer belongs to the husband but the wife and wife's body no longer belongs to her but to the husband and the two should never defraud one another by refusing marital relations, except for mutual consent for a time of prayer and fasting, because to do so, allows Satan to use the flesh need for intimacy for his own purpose to steal, kill and destroy. Post Reply

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