Greetings my fellow brothers in Christ. Can I humbly ask you to share your thoughts on the following:
It's a continuation of a question I asked Joy on the ladies forum. I'd like to get a man's perspective on the same two questions. The first question is:
* Let's say you do meet a fellow of your kind inperson. She has almost all your requirements from a lady, she only lacks this one important quality... Salvation. She loves God though she doesn't know that she's a lost soul. Unless one avails him/her self in ushering her in how to go about accepting Christ as her personal savor. It doesn't necessarily have to be you pursuing this ministry, fore it may come across as if you did it so you can be in a relationship with her without guilt.
Will you make effort of interceding for her that she gets saved NOT only so you can enjoy a relationship with her, but for the sake of a lost soul won to Christ?
Or you'll just give up on her and go for the next saved lady who also doesn't meet all your requirements, the only advantage is that she's saved. With her you won't have to wait in prayer till she gets saved?
My second initiated question mentions on my last paragraph why I've only chosen two guys to interact with, I've been doing this for a very long time now since i've noticed how rude some fellows are in this chat forum.
If I really wanted to fight, believe me I know just how to start a fight. I've been very nice and tolerant with this ones attitude. He must have missed my second massage since he bothered posting anyway inspite of people i've qoated to write to me.
Unfortunately I wasn't reading all his replies. Words and a bad attitude from his first sentences turned me off big time that I red no further. I won't waste my time with his energy.
This is a public forum yes, the question is selective. That alone speaks volumes. Why were you able to communicate in a decent manner and I catered for you?
Attitude dear,
It goes a long way and says a lot about you inspite of what you can claim to be when defining yourself. Your feedback can even outsmart every ones. With your attitude i'll either be inspired to listen to you or be turned off.
I've already got massages from fellows here telling me to ignore him... His not worth the effort
Your chat message about praying for someone who seems to be the perfect match, but may not be a believer and your responses to my chats have really resonated with me.
I know someone in my day to day life. I'm going to have to work at praying for him as a lost soul.
If you were speaking of your own life experience, how have you handled your feelings and emotions?
Thank you for sharing your view dear. Though the question is not whether we should or shouldn't commit with unsaved fellows, we all know the answer to that now don't we friend? What I rather wanted to find out was if it's worth waiting in prayer for an unsaved one who ofcourse doesn't know that he/she's a lost soul. That you picked up as you continued communicating and going out together. Often times 'salvation' is mistaken with 'religion' hence I said he/she doesn't yet that his still wondering away from God.
Maybe I failed to explain how I meant this question. "Do you wait while praying for one to be saved? Or you settle for the next available partner who still doesn't meet all your requirements but saved. That's the only advantage about this other part"
No one is committing to an 'unsaved' one here friend. It's a question of either waiting or compromising your values for a saved one to settle for.
It was a complicated situation since feelings and emotions were involved. I may not know how to guide you with the situation that you're expose to.
"If you were speaking of your own life experience, how have you handled your feelings and emotions?"
The outcome was very hectic. Both parties were very hurt and disappointed, wish I knew earlier that he wasn't saved. He loves God and doesn't know that his still wonders away from Him. It took me a while to pick this up cause our conversations about God flowed very well until I took the matter to God for help and guidance that was when I understood that he goes to church since he was raised in church but he still misses what salvation is.
This one time during our long chat I asked him when did he give his life to Jesus, there wasn't a clear answer on that. I asked again what does he understand about being saved? What are we saved from? That's when I picked confusion especially since he knows the bible and was raised in church. His religious not saved yet. I was already attached, didn't take us long to find our pace and flow together. His a family man searching for his wife. This he made clear from the beginning so we part ways if I was gonna be playing games.
I'm not a family person. Don't see myself being a wife and mothering kids but I started liking the idea if that is what it took to keep him. My system was now programmed to that possibility without pressure from him but being constantly told that he doesn't have time for games, his seeking for his wife. His a rare kind even in the body of Christ. His more than I could ever require from a man in as much as I wasn't searching. Though he lacks just this one important requirement,,,, salvation.
Parting ways was harder since I couldn't say that, "His still a lost soul. We're not on the same level with faith" instead I reflected his worst fear... Being led on only to be dumped.
I don't know how else to explain this clear, hope you'll relate.
Thank you sisygirl for telling me about your experience.
As for mine, well, as far as I know I am the only one who is attracted and admires the other individual. As far as I know I am the secret admirer and I am unsure what if anything he feels towards me.
I will have to continue to pray for him as if he is unsaved and that God will direct my own path when I am around him.
Thanks again! I am enjoying hearing back from you.
