Author	Thread: Your turn fellows.......
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Your turn fellows....... Posted : 26 Oct, 2013 07:37 AM I just posted a question to the ladies regarding how they felt about being the first to reach out to you guys......my question to you gents is that ok? Are you cool with sisters messaging you first or would you prefer to be the "purser" (smile)? Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Your turn fellows....... Posted : 26 Oct, 2013 10:18 PM Well R8E8, not on this site yet, but another Christian site, I've read the profiles of individuals (men) who put it clear and in black and white that they want to do the initial contacting and pursing. They went as far to say that they WOULD NOT respond to a female who sends them a message first! Now personally I found the whole thing to be ridiculous but nevertheless it's true! You mentioned something in your last post about what man would not like a female "they liked" reaching out first. Well what about that female who reaches out that may not quite be that gents cup of tea? No matter how you slice this, rejection has to some where be the order of the day......it's a risky thing but somebody has to do it(smile)! We all, who have taken the risk, has had to experience this some time or another! It still boils down to personal choice. I've also read, again on another Christian site's forum page, females saying the same thing.....they will not message brothers on the site and will wait until they initiate first because it's the "proper thing" to do! Again I felt that was rubbish, but to each his own(smile)! I am happy to hear what the brothers here really feel about this! I wish I took the time to do this on that other site(smile)! Post Reply
View Profile History	Your turn fellows....... Posted : 26 Oct, 2013 10:48 PM Ah. Well there's that to consider. I'm still skeptical and think it could be shenanigans though. Saying something like that could be a way of flexing their masculinity, not looking too desperate or available, and act as a type of social proof indicating women are highly interested in them because getting too many messages is a problem for them ("Ladies, ladies please, one at a time. :rocknroll:"). Yeah, I doubt that's what they really think. I think it's just a manipulative way to try and get women to want them. As far as "what if she's not his cup of tea" that's pretty much why I think most women cling to that tradition with a death grip. They don't want to risk rejection. Honestly, when I see women say that, I pretty much equate that to "coward" and "lazy". She's not fooling anybody. Yeah, I think it's rubbish too. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Your turn fellows....... Posted : 26 Oct, 2013 11:07 PM You know something R8E8, you might be right about those brothers "macho posturing"......I personally found it to be very unattractive(smile)! Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	Your turn fellows....... Posted : 26 Oct, 2013 11:36 PM It is indeed, Why then do they even have their profiles there from the first place? Someone reached out to me simply cause he needed help with he's skin looking at my profession. Could have been the case with me. I'd reach out cause you've written that you're a banker or working with investments. I'm not very clue'd up with those as much as those working in that field are. They were trained to better advise us. The only thing I know is that one can never go wrong with property investment. As for the depth of this matter i'm not very knowledgeble, could be reaching out seeking information with the depth of this, how the fluctuation of interest rates could affect me, how do they calculate interests etc Could be reaching out for many reasons than initating a relationship. Post Reply
View Profile History	Your turn fellows....... Posted : 27 Oct, 2013 06:01 AM suffragette's,womens empowerement,equal rights? Your turn Ladies..... Post Reply

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