What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 6 Sep, 2013 03:49 AM
LTM
Friendship this question was inspired by your reply when answering Meelee1980 in a forum of a 'Brokenheart' about you guys being leaders & if a woman is not following, then she's not good for the guy if both parties are not good for one onother.
As thinking of this huge assignment a lady seaching for a mate has, (in ensuring that she finds a mate loyal enough to be entrusted with fruits of her womb, and her intire life basically)
I them wondered,
If a lady has such to bear in mind so she coperates in following peacefully her chosen husband,
What's the guy's most fearful responsibility once he finds a lady willing to follow him...?
When speaking about fruits of her womb, i'm not only focused on having babies,
I'm referring to a leader whose gonna father he's kids, not those who only bring kids forth.
Thank you friendship for your imput as always dear!!
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 9 Sep, 2013 05:02 PM
Sissy, sorry I hadent seen your post sooner. I have been buisy and I am buisy with other things and havent mannaged these posts here as I have in the past.
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2013 03:52 AM
Renov
Watch out for the following signs, they the possible signs that she likes you but would rather manifest rejection in defense of her self:
* She'll always crash your ideas during discussions of something maybe in a working environment when working as a team with her and other members. Your ideas will just always be wrong according to her.
* She'll do little things to get your attention, just so you know she's around in the room.
* She'll pretend as if she didn't see you when meeting coincidentally in public places, she'll act surprised to see you when greeting her and even pretend she's forgotten your name so you don't feel important to her.
* She'll be checking out on you when you not noticing.
* She'll pretend to be more interested on your friend by giving more attention to him when you're together in the event of some kind, don't be bothered by that, she wants to get as much information about you from your friend.
* She causes unnecessarily fights/arguments just for the pressure of it, hoping you'll eventually find your way in resolving your fights/arguments.
Those are the only few signs that I can think of when one rejects you only to find she really likes/loves you but won't act on it.
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2013 04:13 AM
Hey sisi pardon me for looking at your profile repeatedly. I often cross check on people's profiles over and over again. I was struck by your list of a child's problems and I was trying to relate that to you as a person. Maybe there's a story I missed out. I really don't know if I can be able to exercise the spirit of letthismind2, another reason why I worry about understanding females. Obviously, this shows that the husband role is not for everyone. Perhaps if the couple can teach me how to see God in the woman, that maybe helpful in advance. What I didn't mention is my fear regarding the woman is not being able to fulfill all her requirements. And I'm not talking about financial. That can be discussed. I'm talking about a 100% of what or how I should completely see her as a wife.
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2013 06:41 AM
Renov
Pleasure not pressure on my last point.
She'll be causing unecessarily fights/arguments just for the pleasure of it, hoping that both of you will work together in funding a common ground afterwards.
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 10 Sep, 2013 12:10 PM
Dfisherman
Can I first ask you this:
The 'D' on your username, what does it stand for if you don't mind me asking?
"Pardon me for looking at your profile repeatedly"
Its ok, though there's nothing really interesting on my profile that will keep one rechecking. I said as less as possible cause i'm not here to find a mate, I only joined cause I wanted to interact with LTM, there's just something special about him that I didn't wanna miss a fruit of. Thank God I met other wonderful fellows in Christ that are genuine & have a lot to offer, so it was worth the effort afterall.
"I was struck by your list of child problems..."
Enough said about my challenges & trails, which was one of the things I tried to addressed with you, when you said that "You'd like to marry a wife of my kind of heart" you kinda missed what I was trying to address, maybe I didn't make much sense to you. What I meant is: My heart (if at all there's anything good in it, which will only be known by God who seaches our innermost being) comes up with a price. I'm tested like gold on fire, till God approves the genuineness of my faith. Its not really nice being me, but I don't love this woman anyless inspite of what she goes through, and desire not to be someone else but me.
"I don't think I can exercise the spirit of LTM, another reason I worry about understanding females..."
That one is very true, you my brother or anyone else cannot practice the spirit of LTM simply cause you can only be yourself, the only best person you can ever be. You have your own self to discover and be the best in it so those around you can enjoy the fruits of being connected with you.
Same goes with understanding females,
It begins with discovering & understanding your very self first. Your wife/woman will be a reflection of your very being, since we ladies react/respond to what you guys initiate & the manner in which you've gone about initiating. I personally don't think any couple can teach you how to understand or see God in us (ladies)
Don't even think its God's plan for a man to see God in a woman, simply cause God ordained you leaders guys. He rather sees himself through you guys, hense He's word says "Love your wives man as Christ loves the church.... Onother passage says: husband's love your wives just as you love yourselves/body"
Can you let yourself go hungry?
Can you let yourself go without clothes?
Can you bear being homeless?
Can you abuse yourself interntionally?
The list goes on... The point is: you are ordained by God Himself to be gods and influence your space (families)
Therefore the true reflection of yourself is through your wife, not from onother couple with their own disfunctions & short comings.
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 11 Sep, 2013 03:44 AM
Hello again sisi. You don't offend me, and probably won't. You seem like the only active young african lady in these forums. For that reason I'm somewhat fond of you. I would message you if I can but I'm not in your approved age range.
I told you before that I mean anything I write on this site. Actually, I've heard that one's wife is a reflection of himself, thanks for reminding me. But that is when the mirror is put in place - in union.
I was chatting with another lady to understand who then she sees herself as whether through someone's mirror or not. The funny thing is as you all doubt me, I keep getting that truth I'm looking for, from you.
Are you worried about me looking at your profile? You're the one I love the most on this site, hate me or not? Too bad I'm leaving.
The problem I've noticed is that many females are usually able to probe men but they find it difficult allowing men probe them. There must be some simple unifying quality for all females, just as there is a unifying quality for every existing thing. If not, there's no God. This unifying thing in a different sense is God. In our humanistic view, we may say shared tears or gestation and so on. But the relative quest fot God begins somewhere. If you say you love God and don't seek to know him, you're not serious. Just like I can use a whole lot of lines to make you believe I want children, or I'm ready to marry you, till you miss your period.
I believe what I write. You may not believe too, but if I find what I search for, I know I have. Will you prefer a guy that sees you as one who will do the gestation for his baby or one that has crammed the best pick up lines that include gestation?
Sisigirl, you're my big love in this site. Teach can trace me in person. I've dropped enough information and I'm not disturbed.
What's the man's most fearful responsibility as a leader?
Posted : 11 Sep, 2013 08:35 AM
oh sorry. I don't know how i skipped the first question. Your lucky I took a look at this chat forum again before... you know what.
The D means sisi's bigDaddy. ha ha ha ha.
Why do you worry yourself over little things. The week i joined this site, i caught a lot of full grown catfishes in my backyard pond created by flood. That put fisherman into my head. But on trying to create a username, the site wasn't accepting it so i had to place another letter in front of it. It's not something i really thought of before doing. It just sort of went with the flow. Perhaps i was subconsciously thinking, "the fisherman." I really don't know.
