I find it can be challenging for a girl to read what behind a guy's mind in general and for a guy to read what behind a girl's mind.
So rather than telling a super long story which inspires this question, in brief, I just want to ask people' opinion about the signals a guy shows when they are interested to build a serious relationship with a girl, and vice versa. :)
I really appreciate if all stories and experiences. Who really knows your story may help someone who is in confusion. ;)
This conversation (of coming out as to where the relationships going) is dependent on a whole lot of things including everything you've mention on your last reply.
As I first stated the time frame too.
Think we're having 2different conversations (which seem almost the same) at once.
Jeje is asking about initiating reading from body language.
While understanding & answering her current question, I'm asking about an existing relationship with a time period of about 6, 12 or even more months & years without talking about the way forth if there is, or what could be the stumbling blocks? Are they issues that can be worked onn? Are both parties will...? Etc
Every relationship be it short or long always needs reinforcing. The words and action of commitment need to be spoken and lived out else insecurity creeps in.
We have an advantage that unbelievers do not. We have the spirit of God in us. If we take the time to be still and listen to God about a relationship you will love what He reveals to you.
Our Lord leads us according to His Spirit, right? The question is are we allowing Him to lead?
He has life and good for us and do we really believe this?
I think for most of us and It was for me. Finding a relationship was the closest thing to me heart and would bring out the stuburness and willfulness in me before God.
It wasnt until God dealt with my stuburness and willfullness in this area and bringing me into repentence did I find what I needed in my life.
Our relationship with the opposite sex has to begin with our communication with God and taking time to listen to Him. How else will two stuburn willfull people ever make it together?
Thank you friendship for adding your thought & imput on this, I often have something to take with when reading your replies. I understand & agree with what you're saying, indeed our relationship with the opposit sex should begin with our personal relationship with God, or else we're destined for disaster.
"It wasn't untill God dealt with my stuborness & willfulness in this area and bringing me into repentance..."
Believe me dear you were willing to let God persue this activity/assignment of repentance in you, else you wouldn't have coperated with Him. God always works through a willing attitude that let's him be God in transforming & redeeming us. Personal weaknesses are always easier brought forth to God cause now its only you & Him dealing with certain issues that either is a stumbling blocks to Him leading you to He's righteous will. Its a total different story dear one if there's a third person involved, a person that you cannot read he's/her mind untill the thoughts are being spoken.
Lot failed to master this as much as he badly wanted to have he's entire family saved. The wife turned back cause it was just not in her interntion to leave Sodom/Gomorrah. If this was spoken about (I my little mind I think)both parties would have been in a clear page with their personal interntions. Lot & he's daughters would have left the city ages ago, leaving the wife behind.
"....The question is are we allowing Him (God) to lead?"
I think friendship in as much as we desparately need & want Him to lead, it begins with us as a couple first sorting out our selves through communication about this matter before bringing it to God (in saying this I by no means mean that God is the least to be consulted.)
Our God has order my friend,
And we really are starting onother matter by bringing He's name forth, which we certainly should, though that doesn't push our responsibilities as a couple to Him, instead we will be even more challenged having Him in the line.
A guy that wants to go out with a girl, and sends her small attentions now and then (phone calls, gifts, nice gestures), will like you as a friend. Let it naturally develop from friendship.
If he ain't got no other person he goes out with, and you guys are building friendship, you're on the right track!
No haste in it. If he likes you, he'll somewhere along the line take the first step.
All you gotta do, is be there for him, when he calls, when he passes by your house, and when he asks you out.
