Hey guys, I need your input on something. Not looking for any right or wrong answers here, just some opinions and suggestions!
After 4 years of working at my job and being the one and only single employee (it's a small place), a single Christian guy who is almost exactly my age has finally been hired. He definitely isn't married, but I haven't been able to find out if he's dating someone or even engaged. In fact, I haven't been able to get to know him personally because we work in different department and rarely cross paths, but I've had the opportunity to observe him interact with others for the past few months. I like what I see. He appears to have many of the qualities that I hope to find in a man; he seems to be spiritually mature, friendly, intelligent, kind, stable, and well-liked and respected. It doesn't hurt that he's pretty good-looking, too. He's the type of guy that I'd at least like to get to know better. Oh, and dating coworkers is definitely not against the rules...so if a friendship turned into "more," it wouldn't be an issue.
This situation presents two problems. First, I don't know for sure if he's actually "available" or if he's already in a relationship. My second problem is that if he IS really single, he has no way of knowing that I'm single. For relationship purposes, I'm invisible to him. (This isn't helped by the fact that he's having to get to know ALL of the employees at the company. I already knew everyone, so it wasn't hard to notice that the new guy was obviously not married.)
So here's my question: How can I make myself more visible to him? I don't believe in pursuing a guy, and I don't want it to be obnoxiously obvious that I'm trying to get to know HIM specifically. I just want to put myself out there a little, put myself in his path, get to know him a bit, and if there is any attraction on his part, give him the opportunity to do something about it. I feel like it would be foolish to just sit around and let myself stay invisible when it's such a rare thing for a single Christian guy to appear in my life.
Any suggestions on how I can do this? If you were in his position, what would you want me to do?
(Just FYI, I've already tried to find opportunities to talk to him, but that hasn't worked out at all. The once or twice that I thought I might be able to chat with him, he was deep in conversation with several of the other male employees...it didn't feel right to interrupt them to talk to him. I'm still looking for the chance, though! Also, I'm well aware of the fact that he may HAVE noticed me, and that he's simply not interested at all and is trying to avoid me...but it somehow doesn't feel quite like that is the case.)
Bcpianogal: I love you (not in that way) and I hope for the best. Since I am a very crafty and a very deceptive person, perhaps I could use this past habit for trying to help you.
What you need is a recon unit. Find a trusted friend who is able to spy for you to poke around for relevant info. But, if this is a woman friend make sure she is not single and that this guy know she's not single. To getting info from this guy, subtlety is the key. For example, do not get this friend to say something like: "do you have a girlfriend? Bcpianogal over there is single too!" That is a dead giveaway. Make them say something like: "oh man, my boyfriend/girlfriend .... you can relate right?"
If he ticks all the right boxes according to the accurate info of your spy then get this person to instigate and encourage him to pursue you, but have this person implicate you in the most subtle manner.
If this method sounds horrible and deceptive to you, then don't follow it, I am a vicious and depraved and crude being and I cannot help it.
Good one. But in the final analysis, she needs God to go through with this. And for all most I know, it will be all of God or none of God. It will not be mix of wimps and caprices, then God! Its either she do it with some wisdom of God. Its likeable the ones typified in James 3:15, 16,17, especially verse 17.
Nothing is wrong in using ones head to figure things out....But its a different thing to add caprices to it.....and also top it with some Heavenly wisdom. Most likely it will all bottleneck....Let's trust God for wisdom and success!
What if to all we know, this christian guy is engage? Lets trust God
