Author	Thread: Men, what do you think?
Admin	Men, what do you think? Posted : 8 Nov, 2012 01:11 PM Have you ever read something like this in a profile? "I am a single mom...my kids will always come first... if you don't like it, keep moving" This sentiment comes in many forms but the message is clear. 1. KIDS 2. ME 3. YOU Is this the Biblical order? Would you entertain a relationship on that basis men? Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 06:40 PM @op: No, stated like that I wouldn't consider them suitable for marriage. Why not? Because one of the wedding vows is "forsaking all others" - of course it's easy to understand this in the context of cheating, but that's not what the vow says. I think it's a symptom of a much wider problem where our own children almost become idols even though we don't worship them, and it's very easy to do as a single parent. Post Reply
KiwiMav View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 9 Nov, 2012 11:04 PM If I read a profile that has a priority like that - typically I understand it to mean - If you are interested in pursuing me for the purpose of marriage, you are not marrying me you are marrying a family. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 10 Nov, 2012 08:31 PM This is a question that hasn't been rehashed again and again, it's actually of some value, and it isn't a giant waste of everyone's time. Let's get more questions like this one. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 05:28 AM guess i am looking for a 1. God 2. Us kinda girl? Post Reply
gracefreedme View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 05:53 PM I will have to answer to God one day for how I raise my daughter. The person I date/marry is already grown as am I, so my main concern is raising my child (and hers if she has them ) in a Christian manner. Any woman who does not agree with this is not for me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 12 Nov, 2012 12:32 AM I don't think we're talking about life and death situations where of course you have to let adults take care of themselves and concentrate on the helpless, I think this is about priorities in a relationship. Don't forget that some day your child will leave home and start their own family - if the example they had was that the other parent was less important than them then they're likely to value having children over a spouse, which I'm sure you can see the effects of in society. I speak this as a father myself: my kids know I love them dearly and they are very very important to me, but they'll also have to learn that they are not number 1 - that is the test Abram faced. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 12 Nov, 2012 05:23 AM Right Peacenic....not just looking for but biblical...a red flag for someone not ready to be in a relationship is my kids come first. God should be first, then your spouse and then kids, ministry etc......when I read kids come first I think there may have been some abuse in the past and the person feels the kids need to be protected. The big issue is trusting God in the person you marry and in your life and the life of your kids. If you are a woman who had abuse in the past and the kids father is not in their life you meet a Christian who marries you how can he be the head of household if kids come first? A man should run from a profile like this......This person needs to be healed by God of past hurts and get their desires on what the word says. The last thing they need is a relationship.....This will lead to another failed marriage/relationship. Post Reply
mithridates View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 14 Nov, 2012 07:36 PM The reason for this is quite obvious, women want to secure a stable and happy future for their offspring....as every half-decent human being who has ever existed on this planet it wants. Most men in the dating scene just want the woman and will treat the kids like trash. Child abuse in divorce situations is rampant, especially by men who have no idea how to take care of kids, don't care at all about them and have no respect for the work and dedication single mothers have in providing for themselves, their kids and actually taking care of their kids. So women telling potential men upfront that if they are going to emotionally ignore the kids that they are not welcome is just a way of women protecting their kids from ungodly and selfish men who probably only want a relationship for their own good. Men who are unable to love other woman's children are likely to be poor mates anyway and are certainly not looking to God for guidance in the relationship, instead they are clearly just looking for their own selfish desires. God should be the king of every relationship, but individuals who are entering divorce family situations need to realize that they are marrying the whole family, not cherrypicking members. Power to the women, and men, who do this. They probably avoid tons of terrible mates by doing it. Single women tend to be more 'desperate' for a relationship and are particularly vulnerable to scummy guys considering their usually weak financial status relative to single men, so all this is is a defense mechanism against this pool of men that are out there. I don't think a single man here can truly empathize with a single parent's situation unless they are one themselves. Easy to judge, harder to walk a mile in their shoes. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 15 Nov, 2012 03:33 AM Jesus, When have we fed you and clothed you? When have we given you a glass of water? When you have done it to the least of these, you have done it unto me ( Jesus). Post Reply
View Profile History	Men, what do you think? Posted : 16 Nov, 2012 07:20 PM Bottom line is NO!!! Post Reply

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