I am not asking a question but would like to share with you men how I found the right lady.
By becoming a leader. Godly women are looking for Godly leaders that they feel safe in following.
But it is not us leading and her following. It is us finding the will of God and then walking together in that. That is where unity comes from.
You see the beautiful thing is we dont have to have all the answers if we find a godly woman. We just need to be humble men who are willing to pray and seek for the answers.
When a woman knows a man is sucessful not just trying to find the will of God she will feel secure and confident in her man.
Finding the will of God is not about action but relationship. Relationship with God comes first and action follows.
Men can tend to be men of mere action and appear Godly. God is a God of relationship. Everything He says and does comes out of Gods relating with His creation.
It is easier for a woman to figure this out since they are more relational then us men. Now Im not saying become a sissy. God is no sissy.
God is strength combined with passion, compassion, gentleness and most important love.
The ballence of strength and weakness.
Being a man who leads his woman in humility. A man who leads his woman in unity. A man who cherishs genuinly his lady.
How do we become such men? Know Christ and you will be such a man. Like Paul writes learn Christ. When you have learned Christ, God will bring you the lady He has waiting for you. I guarentee this to you.
When you learn Christ you will have the choice pickings of the ladies here and anywhere. When you learn Christ many of the ladies you thought were so great will seem dull.
Yep, that is the whole of his response. Not surprisingly, it's a self condemning response. Here is HIS definition of pharisee: "Their were those in Jesus days who sought to discredit Him. Even those who were religious. It is no surprise to find such here as well."
You see, he has sought to discredit me by calling me a Pharisee in addition to calling me silly, blind, deaf and hostile. Rather than engaging my original comment about the post showing a lack of understanding or any of my subsequent comments, he simply tries to discredit me as a person. So, by his definition of Pharisee, he condemns himself and shows himself to be a Pharisee.
M said: "Everyone here speaks as they are led. I am no different. Some appreciate what I bring and some do not. "
Can I speak as I am led, too? Even if it might disagree with you on some points? Can I do that without you seeking to discredit me?
TruthBeTold, I have to say I loved all your posts on this thread. I know you already know this, but just remember that some people will vilify anyone that challenges their assertion.
Welcome to the forum brother Alucard. Thank you for the words of encouragement.
1 Cor. 4
1 LET a man so account of us, as of the ministers of Christ, and stewards of the mysteries of God.
2 Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.
3 But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged of you, or of man's judgment: yea, I judge not mine own self.
4 For I know nothing by myself; yet am I not hereby justified: but he that judgeth me is the Lord.
5 Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God.
6 And these things, brethren, I have in a figure transferred to myself and to Apollos for your sakes; that ye might learn in us not to think of men above that which is written, that no one of you be puffed up for one against another.
7 For who maketh thee to differ from another? and what hast thou that thou didst not receive? now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory, as if thou hadst not received it?
"This just tells of the cluelessness of many men. So sad"
Yet another attempt to discredit those who don't agree with everything that you offer.
Now, when two people agree on something there is unity. This is an obvious conclusion. It's not a "deep thought" or some new radical revelation. However, this does not mean that what they agree on is right. For instance, two people might be in unity that there is NO God. So, they have unity but they are both wrong. This is so elementary that I shouldn't even have to spell it out for you.
Adam and Eve knew what the will of God was pertaining to the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil. Yet, in unity they both ate of that tree anyway. Who ate first? She did... and then he entered into agreement/unity with her when he ate. You see she submitted her unbiblical idea to him and he not only considered her thoughts but he entered into unity with her disobedience.
According to a quote from you:
"This is headship. A husband maintaining unity with his wife."
According to you:
"It is NOT the husband making the final decision."
It seems that in your theory, you actually replace the idea of the husbands God given authority/headship with the idea that "unity is the transcendent priority". I am sorry brother but I find your idea not only wrong but also dangerous. This is not Biblical and further it is not what reality teaches us either. Two people will never agree on all things all the time. That is life. This is why they both must agree and submit to God's standard. That standard is that the man is to be the head and the woman is to be submitted to his God given authority. They better be in unity over that principle before they ever get married. It is great if they can find the "will of God together in all things" but when they can not agree on what that will is in any particular situation then the man must make a final decision and bare the burden of responsibility before God for doing so.
I believe that you walk more in fear of men (in this case pleasing a woman) than you do in fear of God. To me, this is evidenced in the thoughts that you continue to convey in your articles. I know that you probably think that I am being hard 0n you. However, I believe this to be the right course. You and I are not in unity over these issues. I believe God's will is different than what you believe it is. So, what now? How do you resolve that practically?
When i said in this post know christ this is the refference I was thinking of .........Enjoy :)
Principle from scripture. Practical application of life.
17This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind, 18Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:
19Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. 20But ye have not so learned Christ;
21If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
23And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; 24And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. 25Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
26Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27Neither give place to the devil.
28Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth. 29Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
30And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. 31Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
32And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ�s sake hath forgiven you.
There goes that forgiveness again, seems to be a pretty common theme in Gods word hey.........
When Jesus forgave, didn't He say to go and sin no more? You use forgiveness as an excuse for sin. What did Paul think on the subject...Should we sin more so that grace may abound? "MAY IT NEVER BE"
