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candi85 View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 01:20 PM ok i have a question. i have been friends with this guy for 9 yrs. we've had a great friendship til recently. he knows that i have liked him for years so i put the ball in his court if he still wanted to be friends. he said yes definetly. we talked off and on and now 2 wks later hes not talking to me. hes never been in a serious relationship so im not sure if he does like me and hes afraid of getting hurt or if its something bout me. i have tried dating other guys but hes always in the back of my head and how i wish it was him. my friends and family think i should just come out and ask him to date me and see where it goes but i heard guys run. i dont know what else to do any suggestions or ideas? why he is doing this? thank you Post Reply
View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 03:16 PM INHIMALONEISTAND, I do not mean to contend with you in any way, but you insult me a little, by suggesting I meant for her to play hard to get. Some do not understand the way things are naturally supposed to be, they feel they have to make things happen and force situations. The Lord has called us to be meek, not to "Make the first move." or to go out and have our way and take by force what isn't ours to take. In many situations people will ask the Lord first for guidance before jumping into a relationship. Aggressiveness isn't going to get you what it is you desire. I didn't suggest she be coy with this young man, just that she think before she act, and consult the Lord. Post Reply
View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 03:30 PM Some men are shy and not aggressive. However, if a man is really interested in a woman to date her, he will find a way to ask her out. This guy looks at you as a friend and probably not a romance. And, some men do like aggressive woman, so if a woman really wants to know does a man like her for a date just ask. lol I met a really shy guy years ago, not off the Net though. And he had no problem asking me out on a nice date, we continued dating and I was the one who wanted to turn it into a friendship. Most men cannt do that; but he excepted because he like me. lol I didnt feel he was right for Me for marriage. :waving: Post Reply
INHIMALONEISTAND View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 04:49 PM I am sorry msmarvel I did not mean to offend you in any way and yes I do agree with you when it comes to the woman being meek and the man being the aggresor. However, in this situation, I think it would be best for her to share her feelings because it seems that she is waiting around for someone who may not even share her same feelings. Not only that in any kind of relationship we need to be open and honest. I am sorry if you took it any other way than that. I did not mean to offend anyone.You are also absolutely correct we do need to seek God first before getting in any kind of relationship.I just feel it would be best for her to get it out in the open and in the light so she can move on with her life. If you ask me she seems very confused. Above all else she should seek Gods wisdom. God Bless and please forgive me Juanita Post Reply
View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 05:42 PM Juanita, You do not need forgiveness. If anything, I'm sure I'm the one who needs it. I wasn't taking the OP's feelings into consideration, or anyone's for that matter and for that I apologize deeply. I realize how one's feelings can be in something and how regardless of anything else, it can be painful feeling so much for someone without reciprocation or at least an explanation of lack thereof. It is not lost on me that we all would do well to communicate better, I'm sure you and I being women and creatures (let's face it) enthusiastic for communication can have misunderstandings. I pray that there will be understanding and love. I hope your friend comes around, Candi. You are special in the Lord's eyes, and he will do all things according to his will and see what is good to give unto you. Rachel Post Reply
candi85 View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 23 Aug, 2012 07:30 PM thank you all. and yes juanita i am confused. mainly by his behavior. it will all be foreseen in Gods eyes. He knows what he is doing and he will do what is best for me Post Reply
View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 24 Aug, 2012 03:53 PM Their are two reasons men like agressive women. One reason is the man is weak and afraid to make a move. The other reason is this a agressive and strong man likes a agressive woman. My feancee is a strong and agressive in some ways but she is also what Ms Marvel talks about. She wants me to iniate in our relationship. You will not be persuing him by simply asking him whats on his mind. If he is unable to communicate with you that is a sign of imaturity especially in your age range. In any relationship where their is one who is unable to communicate you are left frustrated. If this is true do you want to be frustrated? Post Reply
candi85 View Profile History	guy friends Posted : 24 Aug, 2012 04:41 PM hmmm good point. but no i do not want to be frustrated. i got enough to deal with w/o adding frustration. or hurt. but anyway id say immaturity could play a part. but he is 37 shouldnt he be past that? im already past the point of texting or calling him cuz i feel like maybe im bothering him. y do relationships have to be so complicated? Post Reply

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