I have come and gone from this site several times. I've tried online dating for quite a while. I have had my share of dates only there is no one and I mean no one who seems to be serious enough about moving towards the only biblical goal of courting, "Marriage". In the world this is to be expected but as Christians, I would think it different. Do you guys just have cold feet, or are you really not interested in taking the next step?
For me... I don't think about marriage when going on dates but if I was in a relationship... I would think long-term probably two to three years in the relationship. I would really have to see if it was working between the two of us before I brought the marriage discussion into the conversation.
After reviewing your post, I must say it sounds like you've been hurt by American women and therefore have chosen solace in seeking women from overseas. I attend a church that is filled with Asian "married" women who are very subservient and attentive to there families. I used to wonder why they are being sought out for long-term or potential marital partners however after observing the culture, I must say I now understand why they are sought out as much as they are, and they make wonderful wives and mothers.:yay:
On that note, I will have to say I too have found exotic men �non American men" to be the better choice.
I feel non American men to be more exciting, cultural appreciating, and romantic to boot. It seems most American men are only interested in the physical part of a relationship, not how to show love to they're American counter part. The cultural interest tend to be shortened to sports or hangin out with "the boys", then they expect for the lady to simply spring into action as soon as they bring her some flowers which is almost always a laced expectation of sexual favor, not of sincerity.
I once dated an Italian man in who swept me off my feet because of his attentiveness and openness to try different things. I also have am close friends with a Ukranian man who has pretty much the same in personality etc. I've not found one single American man who even comes close to this, so again, I TOTALLY understand your delima.:excited:
Now, in defense of the American gal, she is not a robot and tends to pull her own weight. She is hard working and wants to be an equal rather that a servant. She wants to love and be loved as anyone else. She's got her faults just as anyone other women on the face of this earth, but she knows how to stand up for what she feels without shame.
There are many single Godly women who may not have all the curves in the right places and perhaps not as subservient as her foreign counterpart, but she sure knows how to love and cherish her man and family like nobody�s business, I've met quite a few, myself being one as well.
So there ya go Michael, my thoughts in a nutshell on US verses overseas. Like you, if I had a choice between and American man or a foreigner, it would definitely be the latter.
After reviewing your post, I must say it sounds like you've been hurt by American women and therefore have chosen solace in seeking women from overseas. I attend a church that is filled with Asian "married" women who are very subservient and attentive to there families. I used to wonder why they are being sought out for long-term or potential marital partners however after observing the culture, I must say I now understand why they are sought out as much as they are, and they make wonderful wives and mothers.:yay:
On that note, I will have to say I too have found exotic men �non American men" to be the better choice.
I feel non American men to be more exciting, cultural appreciating, and romantic to boot. It seems most American men are only interested in the physical part of a relationship, not how to show love to they're American counter part. The cultural interest tend to be shortened to sports or hangin out with "the boys", then they expect for the lady to simply spring into action as soon as they bring her some flowers which is almost always a laced expectation of sexual favor, not of sincerity.
I once dated an Italian man in who swept me off my feet because of his attentiveness and openness to try different things. I've not found one single American man who even comes close to this, so again I Totally Understand your delima.:excited:
Now, in defense of the American gal, she is not a robot and tends to pull her own weight. She is hard working and wants to be an equal rather that a servant. She wants to love and be loved as anyone else. She's got her faults just as anyone other women on the face of this earth, but she knows how to stand up for what she feels without shame.
There are many single Godly women who may not have all the curves in the right places and perhaps not as subservient as her foreign counterpart, but she sure knows how to love and cherish her man and family like nobody�s business, I've met quite a few, myself being one as well.
So there ya go Michael, my thoughts in a nutshell on US verses overseas. Like you, if I had a choice between and American man or a foreigner, it would definitely be the latter.
After reviewing your post, I must say it sounds like you've been hurt by American women and therefore have chosen solace in seeking women from overseas. I attend a church that is filled with Asian "married" women who are very subservient and attentive to there families. I used to wonder why they are being sought out for long-term or potential marital partners however after observing the culture, I must say I now understand why they are sought out as much as they are, and they make wonderful wives and mothers.:yay:
On that note, I will have to say I too have found exotic men �non American men" to be the better choice.
I feel non American men to be more exciting, cultural appreciating, and romantic to boot. It seems most American men are only interested in the physical part of a relationship, not how to show love to they're American counter part. The cultural interest tend to be shortened to sports or hangin out with "the boys", then they expect for the lady to simply spring into action as soon as they bring her some flowers which is almost always a laced expectation of sexual favor, not of sincerity.
I once dated an Italian man in who swept me off my feet because of his attentiveness and openness to try different things. I've not found one single American man who even comes close to this, so again I Totally Understand your delima.:excited:
Now, in defense of the American gal, she is not a robot and tends to pull her own weight. She is hard working and wants to be an equal rather that a servant. She wants to love and be loved as anyone else. She's got her faults just as anyone other women on the face of this earth, but she knows how to stand up for what she feels without shame.
There are many single Godly women who may not have all the curves in the right places and perhaps not as subservient as her foreign counterpart, but she sure knows how to love and cherish her man and family like nobody�s business, I've met quite a few, myself being one as well.
So there ya go Michael, my thoughts in a nutshell on US verses overseas. Like you, if I had a choice between and American man or a foreigner, it would definitely be the latter.
After reviewing your post, I must say it sounds like you've been hurt by American women and therefore have chosen solace in seeking women from overseas. I attend a church that is filled with Asian "married" women who are very subservient and attentive to there families. I used to wonder why they are being sought out for long-term or potential marital partners however after observing the culture, I must say I now understand why they are sought out as much as they are, and they make wonderful wives and mothers.:yay:
On that note, I will have to say I too have found exotic men �non American men" to be the better choice.
I feel non American men to be more exciting, cultural appreciating, and romantic to boot. It seems most American men are only interested in the physical part of a relationship, not how to show love to they're American counter part. The cultural interest tend to be shortened to sports or hangin out with "the boys", then they expect for the lady to simply spring into action as soon as they bring her some flowers which is almost always a laced expectation of sexual favor, not of sincerity.
I once dated an Italian man in who swept me off my feet because of his attentiveness and openness to try different things. I've not found one single American man who even comes close to this, so again I Totally Understand your delima.:excited:
Now, in defense of the American gal, she is not a robot and tends to pull her own weight. She is hard working and wants to be an equal rather that a servant. She wants to love and be loved as anyone else. She's got her faults just as anyone other women on the face of this earth, but she knows how to stand up for what she feels without shame.
There are many single Godly women who may not have all the curves in the right places and perhaps not as subservient as her foreign counterpart, but she sure knows how to love and cherish her man and family like nobody�s business, I've met quite a few, myself being one as well.
So there ya go Michael, my thoughts in a nutshell on US verses overseas. Like you, if I had a choice between and American man or a foreigner, it would definitely be the latter.
From reading your response to many posts, you sound in love, up in the clouds of joy, enjoying your new married life. Which definitely brings joy to me because my brother (in Christ) has reached one of his long time goals.
If you don't mind me being transparent, I would also assume that you've had your share of hardship as far as dating "American Women."
If I am correct, than I understand why every time you speak about foreign women (Asians) it seems as thou you place them at the top of the women's pyramid.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
Have you ever thought that the REASON why you had NO such luck here in AMERICA is because the woman that GOD had DESIGNED for YOU lived overseas?
Have you EVER stopped to think why these ASIAN WOMEN (and other women who are not Americans) look for men in the U.S. and not in their OWN COUNTRY?
IF the men from THEIR country were as TRADICIONAL as them, why (most times) go for American men, being that they have great ASIAN men at home?
See it's vise/versa. Maarja from Estonia has a husband from the U.S. Bob has a wife from Estonia.
My pastor once told me (and the whole congregation) that "we DON'T know where the Lord will take us. Where is it that HE DECIDES we will find/meet our other half."
See, most men in the bible had traveled to unknown lands (willingly/un-willingly) to find their other half. Men like Moses with a non-Israelite wife, king David, king Salomon...etc. Just like most women of the bible where in foreign lands.
I am from Central America and even though I have been brought up here in the U.S, I still keep my culture and am proud of where I come from and it's traditions. I too hope to find my other half and just the pure thought of being there taking care of him, cooking for him, playing my part as his wife, gets me HIGH!
And yes, I too had my share of disappointing relationships/dates here in the U.S, but I will not judge all or some of them because of 5 (not that I'm saying you do).
Some women are very submissive and others are not, just like a watermelon is red and others are yellow. In EVERY country, 1 out of 5 women won't conform and it is not only because of rebellion, but a cry out for equality,respect, change because something is not right.
We women here in America just do it better.
And it does help that it is the land of the FREE. With the right to say "NO" and freedom of speech w/out being reprimend and/or killed.
It's not EASY in any country.
I hope that I have not offended you in anyway. If I have, I sincerely apologize and ask for your forgiveness.
The reason why some words are capitalized is because I don't want any confusion or my words to be twisted.
