I know that women love and want romance, whether it be flowers or a candlelight dinner for two or however they define romance, it's different for every girl.
Nut that got me wondering, what about you men?
What do you consider romantic?
What can a woman do to melt your heart?
And has anyone ever done so, what's the most romantic thing a woman has ever done for YOU?
Because as much as a woman might crave romance, I don't think you guys should be forgotten either.
Man, I expect this post will get me a lot of angry replies, but you asked and I don't think you've yet heard a really firm, correct answer. Generally speaking, dudes are approximately as interested in looks and physical contact as women are in romance. Dudes are approximately as interested in romance as women are in Nascar.
Looks;
1) Maintain your physical fitness. There's a whole bunch of memes in the secular world that can be summed up as a woman in a wedding dress with a smug smile and the caption "now I can get fat." You know how women complain that their man doesn't seem to care any more, doesn't buy flowers, doesn't court them? That's the male equivalent.
2) Wear nice clothes, at least on dates. Most dudes honestly don't care whether the pair of you wear sweats or evening gowns and tuxes, but it's a lot harder for a dude to notice your beauty when it's swathed in layers of terrycloth and fleece.
3) Makeup. Most dudes aren't really consciously aware of when you put it on, but we do notice subconsciously. Don't cake it on, but not wearing any makeup at all is like wearing sweatpants. I expect most ladies here think of clothes and makeup as normal stuff to concentrate on, but a guy /notices/ that his girl looks better than the other women around, and it makes him feel like a manlier dude. Or it makes him nervous and want to try harder to keep you, but either way you're winning.
Yes, it's shallow of men. Yes, they ought to concentrate on inner beauty. Yes, God judges the heart and not the dress size. Yes, most dudes have no idea what sort of effort goes into curling your hair, putting on makeup, doing your nails, etc. But if you're asking for what will impact a dude as heavily as romantic poetry and flowers and candlelit dinners will impact you, that's it.
Physical contact;
4) I'm not talking about sex or even sexual contact. It really depends on the dude and his personal experiences, but skin-to-skin contact is skin-to-skin contact, and it's effective for dudes. Holding hands is good. Casual nudges are good. Slapping or swatting may not be good, but a playful push on the shoulder isn't bad.
5) Admire his muscles. If he doesn't have any, pretend. When you're walking side by side, grab his upper arm instead of his hand, squeeze it, and tell him he has big arms, or that he feels strong. That has roughly the effect, I think, that reading love poetry does for you.
6) This depends entirely on how comfortable you and he are with this level of contact, but the back, neck, and scalp are places we don't normally feel contact. Dudes will slap each other's backs and rub their own neck and head; other than that we don't get contact there.
Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with, but honestly, looking good and feeling up a guy's muscles will do as much for his investment in the relationship as romance does for you.
