Author	Thread: judging a book by its cover?
Admin	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 12 Dec, 2011 09:25 AM So I'm interested in knowing if you guys are actually reading women's about me or just viewing their locations, pictures and such??? I read every guys about me if I view their profile and I read searching for things or qualities I like in a man. Hope you guys can shed some light on the situation just to put my mind at ease lol. Hope you all have a very blessed day in the Lord! Post Reply
View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 13 Dec, 2011 04:28 PM Now if I do say so myself Melanie, you are a beautiful woman! I actually did look at your profile after I posted, and again to remind myself, just now, but you sound like an interesting person to me, personally. You have wisdom, even in the short bits you wrote, and it is always important to find someone that is at the same level of maturity as you. As for spiritual maturity though, don't get completely shut off because a guy is a struggling newbie with his relationship with Christ-try to spend some time with him and see how he grows when he has friends and good influences around him to help him grow. You'd be impressed if he has the desires of a child, when it comes to God. He'll keep asking questions, more and more and more, until finally he's at you, then running past you in terms of the journey haha! Nick Post Reply
View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 14 Dec, 2011 10:58 AM Thank you for the compliments, Nick! =) I agree, new Christians do have a thirst for knowledge and truth. And as long as we're seeking first His kingdom and righteousness everything will be good :) Perhaps I can be concerned with the wrong things at times. It's important to remember His promises and trust in Him. After all His timing is perfect. God bless you in everything you do! His peace be with you! Post Reply
View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 14 Dec, 2011 03:38 PM To be honest I look at their picture first, than If I find them attractive I read their profile. For me I have to atleast be physically attracted to the person. If theres no attraction there, than I move on. For me attraction is two fold. You have to be physically attracted and attracted to who the person is, if one of those things is missing, how will it work out then? Now, I dont think physical attraction is really important (the bible says beauty fades), but honestly, would any of you date a person if you were not physically attracted to? Post Reply
View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 14 Dec, 2011 08:51 PM I agree with you. Physical attraction has to be there, however, that shouldn't be the only thing one looks for in another like you stated. But it is possible to fall for someone regardless of their looks if you befriend them first. So we kind of limit ourselves if we focus too much on appearances. We could possibly miss out on a really awesome person. Post Reply
Devotedlove47^ View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 19 Dec, 2011 06:42 AM As a righteous man seeking a righteous wife, there are a number of things I look for when viewing the profiles posted here. 1. I look for passion for God, and how that passion is expressed in her profile. Post Reply
Devotedlove47^ View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 19 Dec, 2011 07:20 AM 2. I look for her level of maturity, and commitment to the words of God in what she posts in her profile. 3. I also look for Godly modesty in her character and conduct while posting photos of herself online. If I am convinced that she may truly be spiritually minded, as opposed to being carnally minded, then I will contact her, in order to truly discern what is in her heart, soul, mind, and spirit, when it comes to God, and his plan and purpose for man and woman being one flesh. Post Reply
jon51 View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 21 Dec, 2011 04:17 PM Here is my process of thinking when it comes to profiles. I start with the picture. Its the only thing your trying to portray about yourself. I see who is in it, where it is at, what you look like, how your dressed, how you hold yourself, and what your emphasizing in the pic about you. I don't look at it for things I like, but rather things that could be blatantly wrong. Like for instance if she is wearing a mini skirt in a bar then that may mean something. Then the most import thing for me is the denomination section. Not for being picky, but for conflicts that could arise. After I see the pic and you pass that, then I read the rest of the profile. If you message me then I will read your profile most of the times regardless, if I am scanning, then ill skip 70% of profiles because I see something I really dont like in the pic. I am not talking about looks, just other things. P.M. me if you really want specifics. Post Reply
View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 22 Dec, 2011 10:06 AM I'll chime in, though I'm no longer looking I can put here how I viewed a profile when I was looking. I typically do a quick glance over the profile first, so first things I notice is whether or not the "about me" is filled out, if there are pictures I notice them, and things like Age, Location, denomination, martial status, children etc. The first glance through I look for flags or things that would make me not interested. I prefer to date someone relatively close to my age. While I'm open to a long distance relationship I preferred to stay within a certain range so I looked at location, denomination because that can give you an idea of their theology, marital status, if it says "separated" I close the profile. Separated = still married it bugs me that this is even an option. Children, if they put "prefer not to say" under whether they have children or not is a flag to me. either you do or don't. Want or don't want, is one that I look at but don't take a hard line on there are many variables that lead to the persons answer there. Pictures I first note whether there are any, if not I wonder why. Sometimes there are valid reasons and photos are available on request. While I do look at the pictures to see if there is that initial attraction, I believe that someone who may not initially seem attractive can become attractive as I get to know her. The quality of a persons character is what truly makes someone attractive. If the inside is rotten it won't matter what the outside looks like. Depending on the person's location I look at their willingness to relocate. I prefer that they are willing to relocate, that doesn't mean that should a relationship develop that I'm determined that they must relocate here. What I'm looking for is that openness to the possibility just as I am open to it. God can lead a couple to relocate to one or the other's area or a different area all together. That said I know that there some situations where that is not possible due to commitments, family, occupation, etc. After glancing through it I'll read what is written and if I like what I read I would message the person. Post Reply
View Profile History	judging a book by its cover? Posted : 22 Dec, 2011 11:13 PM Thanks so much for the insight guys! Post Reply

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