Author	Thread: Whats the best way...
MyCrownIsGod View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 09:43 AM For a lady to show she is interested in a man without him thinking she is too forward or pushy or whatever? I was always raised to believe that if a man was really interested, he would pursue you...but I know not everyone feels that way. So, would you prefer first contact? If so, why? Or should a lady send the first message/wink? Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 09:10 AM MCIG - I appreciate this topic and what you have said.Although I have heard things from ladies here that tell me about some of the creeps on this site - I probably underestimate how bad the problem is. In your case, because you say enough for a Christian man to know something about you - I can see why you might be offended by men commenting on your looks - and my guess is some of those comments may be inappropriate. But I don't think that is always the case. A lot of the time womens profiles say very little - so all we have to go on is there looks. And if I pay a lady a compliment on anything - it is sincere. Whether you're a man or a woman you have to be a little thick skinned to deal with the dysfunctional people here. I understand why a lot of pastors are totally against "Christian" or any other kind of dating sites - and I think their objections are probably all valid. Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 10:49 AM i am speechless at some of your hard comments miracleman. Are you really this hard or do you like being a hard case. I have a word for you to think on; MERCY Thank you, tracks of the Blackbear Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 12:02 PM Statie. So are you telling me looks are not important to you. Ya sure. The reason I make a point of stating that men are visual is that apparently there are a whole lot of women on this site who don't get that. I got no game for people like you Statie. You've got a lot of nerve. And you statements aren't cute or funny just because you put a :ROFL: And you do not have a clue what kind of man - a lot of that probably has to do with the fact that you are Catholic. Grow the Heck up! Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 12:18 PM Algomaboy.....What are you referring to?.............................. But I will give you this I need to have a little more mercy on the folks under 30 - if you are referring to some of my other post.....and may be a little in general. My problem is there are a few things I have little tolerance for and sarcasm is one of them. And even more so when its someone who pops off - inserting their two cents about things they don't know anything about - or they do it without any thought. I need to work on that. We are supposed to be passive and ignore people like that - but that is not my strong suit I must admit.l But on the other hand I believe that people who have those types of problems need to be put in their place sometimes. When going about my business in the city I usually ignore people like that unless they invade my space or persist - and then they usually find out they bit off more than they can chew Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 12:34 PM Algomaboy - But when it comes to women who want to play games like that - ya I pretty much have zero tollerance. I have better things to validate her nonsense. And I also believe I may have done that woman a big favor - although the sermon was a long one - I pointed out a lot of things she probably had not given much thought to. She basically told me also (her past history - although a dedicated Christian she said) that she had been through more men that she has fingers & toes. Small wonder. Mercy is important - but we are not supposed to validate other people's bad behavior - and sometimes that means taking a stand - in some cases even publically and without regard to who approves or does not approve of what we have to say. Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 01:21 PM Y'know, there have been (and no doubt will be again) times when I've got so fed up with people and all the stuff they say and do that I just want to bang their heads together; eventually I take the issue to the Lord after getting steamed up about it myself for too long. The funny thing is His answer has always been the same to me: He reminds me that I'm not seeing a finished product, just a building site and some parts will look ugly in that stage. He then points out that I'm not as "completed" as I maybe thought I was (along with things I've done recently that haven't brought honour to His Name). At that point I'm not usually thinking about the other person's faults, just my own, and I have to get down on my knees and beg forgiveness for my own failings. With the gratitude that comes with knowing forgiveness, I then have to ask that He would teach me the love and patience He shows to everyone, especially myself. It's easy to become jaded with life and all it throws at you, but remember you're only called to give an account of yourself, nobody else, so quit fretting over what they do or don't do, and focus yourself on imitating Christ... Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 03:06 PM Jaded - or hardened? Probably a little bit. But I ask God on a regular basis to have Him make me a blessing to people - rather than the opposite and to make me more patient and loving towards other people. But its a matter of balance. Like I said we are not supposed to validate other peoples nonsense, but we are also supposed to be humble & gentle. But some people just don't get the message any other way than with a bullhorn. Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 08:13 PM Statie. So are you telling me looks are not important to you. Ya sure. The reason I make a point of stating that men are visual is that apparently there are a whole lot of women on this site who don't get that. I got no game for people like you Statie. You've got a lot of nerve. And you statements aren't cute or funny just because you put a :ROFL: And you do not have a clue what kind of man - a lot of that probably has to do with the fact that you are Catholic. Grow the Heck up! ********************************************* Yes MircaleManiac I appreciate a good looking woman as well as the next guy does. The difference though between myself and someone like YOU -- I don't focus solely on their looks and I certainly don't continuously harangue women in the forums by demanding they post full body shots -- lol. I would certainly never make negative personal comments to a female wearing form fitting clothing in one of her pics nor would I suggest that by doing so she was intentionally being provocative. Yes you make a point of stating men are visual -- but the last time I looked--most women have two eyes as well and are just as visual as men. You think I don't have a clue as to who you are -- lol. I got news for you MiracleManiac - you aren't that hard to read and if I can see it those visual women can see it too. :ROFL: Post Reply
MyCrownIsGod View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 09:19 PM Ok guys...simmer down...I didn't post this with the intention to create a forum debate. Just agree to disagree and walk away. ;) Have a nice day! Post Reply
View Profile History	Whats the best way... Posted : 13 Oct, 2011 09:36 PM Sorry MyCrownIsGod - didn't mean to steal your forum - Statie can continue this on my post about 20 Yr Old photos although that does finish anything I have to say to him:devil: :dunce: But oh back to your topic: the reason I came here:glow: Actually right now -...There is something I would sacrafice for the right woman - the ideal for me would be a slender or average bodied woman - but a good heart is certainly worth a few extra pounds. I would also prefer a "word of faith" type of woman - but I could deal with one who is not but is teachable.:glow: Post Reply

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