Author Thread: Is he looking for just friendship
chele34

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Is he looking for just friendship
Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 03:47 PM

Hi I would like some advice on emails. I've been talking to this guy for months. We were talking alot and even sending texts. We finally went out a few weeks ago and he said he was looking forward to going out again. He also has brought up about wanting to go away. I told him I need more then one date to do that and he said ok. But since then we are talking less and I'm not quite sure to think. On our date, I was very nervous and didn't finish my lunch. I haven't dated in a long time and I was so nervous. He is a really nice guy. Is it possible that he has changed his mind and doesn't want to tell me?



The guy and I haven't really talked about prior relationships.



I have asked him if he still is interested in being more then friends and he said yes. But again we are talking alot less.



Any suggestions would be great.

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Is he looking for just friendship
Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 04:42 AM

Yeah, it sounds like he's trying to back out of the "relationship." A warning bell goes off in my mind, though, if he's mentioned going on vacation together, particularly if it's an overnight vacation. Makes me think that he'd probably want to share a room...which is NOT a situation you want to be in.

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Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 09:18 AM

Anyone who plays the cat and mouse game intentionally to control/manipulate and make a person insecure needs to check their walk with God, you don't mention if he's a Christian or not, or claims to be....



As the bible reads, all forms of manipulation and control are linked to witchcraft like behavior, not saying he is a "witch" but to desire such manipulation and control over a person is touching there, I have to dig up the verses to find it, but anyways... it is WRONG, and if this guy thinks he's being sly in controlling you with his "I'll decide to contact her when I feel like it so she'll be attached me and feel insecure"..then he's a scumbag, if you are a Christ follower, find your security and comfort in Christ, not in men/flesh... it's something we all battle.



I refrained from being so frank, but sounds like this guy is trying to be sly, if he isn't, then like the others have said and like I have implied, it seems like he is giving obvious clues that he's trying to back away, either that or is playing with you/going back and forth. Nothing gets accomplished with such childish, yet dangerous games.

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