Hello, I'm originally from Sweden, but I'm living now in the USA. I found this site on google, and I find it very nice. But there's one thing here that bothers me a lot. Why do you men over 50 keeps stalking my page? I feel disgusting when a man of the my father's or my grandfather's age visits my profile expecting me to be willing to date them, or flirt them. They should be ashamed. I've defined my age range on my profile settings and it is clearly until 29 years old.
So I have a question for you men. Why do you keep searching for younger women, sometimes 35 years younger than you, thinking they would want to date you?
Isn't there any woman of your age range here for you?
Angel and Cousin Itt think men that are looking for a younger woman should be ASHAMED of that fact. To that I say this.....SO WHAT! Why do you two even care? Cousin Itt is under the misconception that if an older male looks at her profile he is somehow indicating interest -- that he WANTS HER-- Pffft! Unless he makes contact with you by wink, IM, or email -- his interest is merely visual and not longstanding or sustaining. If he has a true interest he could get around your age preference merely by changing his. Even if he did that-- SO WHAT! All you'd have to do is block him -- end of story.
Angel -- If you really hand an interest in some of these men that you view and cannot contact them because they too have an age preference that doesn't include you -- SO WHAT! You have yourself chosen your own preferences -- how can you get bent out of shape if you don't fit the preference of someone else? Why should they be made to feel ashamed of what they indicate they want simply because it doesn't fit your moral idea of who a male of his age should be dating. News flash Angel -- for an older woman, you have a very judgmental side.
So you don't find older men attractive or of interest Cousin Itt--we get that. Don't assume though that every older male looking at your profile is flirting or "wants you" simply because they clicked on your profile to find out if you have a face--lol. Angel -- so you are miffed that older men you find attractive and of interest are not interested in a woman your age -- we get that but both of you shaming men for having a preference for a younger woman is judgmental considering the two of you have made your own preferences known. Tsk - Tsk to the both of YOU!
in which case it's no different then someone who looks at you in public.
I share the same feeling you have about older guys. I do not wish to date someone that is the same age as my father or worse, my grandfather. I think the closer in age is best, because there is a better likelihood that we would be in the same stage in life.
statie, I won't waste more than 1 min writing this answer after have seen too many emoticons and showing tongues thing. GROW UP, because you are on 30's but act like a 12 year old boy. the end.
AngelforLove I hear ya, I put myself on your place, I would hate to see myself on my 40's 50's in this situation. this is why I write it here in defense of all women out there. And men should think about it too because we are all growing old, not only women...
DK, I am not questioning why they can visit my profile. My question is WHY DO THEY VISIT IT EVEN THOUGH MY AGE IS CLEARLY SHOWING ON MY PROFILE, in their searchings here. I can see everybody's age when I search here. And IF I visit them back is just because I can't guess their age by looking their small pictures on my visitors list.
AlgomaOLDMAN, it's all your PROBLEM if you had an unsuccessful marriage and that you are an old man now. You can't change the fact that most women half your age wouldn't never look at you as a potential date. I'm no judging you, I think it is disgusting that you think it is right to flirt women who are age enough to be your daughtersnow if you still insist go ahead... It is YOUR PROBLEM you were incapable to have children when you could, this doesn't mean any silly woman have to understand that and accept you now to have a kid just to see in about years later taking care of her husband using diapers after have taken cared of her children. Good luck on your searching. but make sure to have a profile picture because it is already away too difficult to find a young woman being a 44 years old man though can handle and take it yet?
Guys like that should realize women their own age would be much much better for them and they would be lucky to have them, if they could. Sorry you have to deal with that. Hold your head up and hang in there anyway.
I�m 42 and have never been married, so I too have never had the opportunity to have any children. But, I still want someone near my age. Yes, the younger ladies are very beautiful, but I want someone who has similar experiences and goals in life. For many men who are looking for a much younger woman (like 20 or more years younger) they aren�t looking to have children, they are looking for a young woman who they can manipulate, someone who doesn�t expect as much from a man as a woman who is near his age. These men don�t want a relationship of equals, they just want a toy.
iheartdogs and IonlyDateCherrleaders, thank you for the welcoming. Very kind of you both.
I just want to make it clear I'm NOT offending anyone, I'm also going to get old, I'm also going to be 40's, 50's if I'm blessed and lucky to get there. I just can't handle arrogance and pretencious men who like cobbler said think they have to deal with men twice their age flirting them like it was normal.
Cobbler, you seem to be very reasonable, and you HAVE THE RIGHT to look forward to make a family. You also have to right to have your kids someday. And you're totally right about men using the argument that they want to have kids just to find women on their 20's. I have seen women on their 40's having kids. I think it is a stereotype that men create that ONLY women on their 20's can have kids.
I know that love has no age to happen. that people can fall in love at any age. But it is RIDICULOUS to put their searching here ONLY between THE AGE RANGE 18-35 WHEN THEY ARE 50-60 YEARS OLD!!! Why don't they put "any age" then, IF it happens, they will find a young woman, who is interested on them NATURALLY, NOT FORCING, ONLY VISITING young women's profiles, and ignoring women of their same age range!
It's totally SELFISH to see men on their 50's, 60's divorced with grown kids LOOKING FOR WOMEN BETWEEN 18-35,unwilling to have kids anymore, and yet, stalking my page expecting a woman on her 20's is unwilling to have kids when they have had never had kids in their lives! GROW UP YOU MEN WHO CLAIMS TO BE CHRISTIANS! If you are not willing to have kids again, why do you keep stalking 20's years old women's page?!?! Totally selfish!
Like you said, cobbler SOME OF These men use the argument they want to have kids, but they just want naive silly women to use as toys and trophies...
Today I got visitors again, and they were 50-60, I can't take it, I also saw a man with his daughter on the picture he said she is, and guess what, SHE IS OLDER THAN ME!!!
Well, I'm deleting this profile. Good bye and old men you already have a grown up bodies, so go and put your minds to act like a grown up men too! Period. :rolleyes:
lol @ stalking a page when someone merely clicks on it to look at it. Seriously -- how can that really bother you if they never once contact you????? Merely accessing someone's public profile on a dating website that allows in fact encourages that access doesn't meet the criteria for cyber-stalking.
Cyberstalking is a crime in which the attacker harasses a victim using electronic communication, such as e-mail or instant messaging (IM), or messages posted to a Web site or a discussion group. Most stalking laws require that the perpetrator make a credible threat of violence against the victim; which may include threats against the victim's immediate family; and the alleged stalker's course of conduct must constitute an implied threat. Really people -- looking at someone's online profile on a dating site--no matter how many times someone accesses it - is NOT STALKING.
You go from moralizing about what age of woman is appropriate for a male to find of interest to suggesting by looking at a profile a male is stalking-- how utterly ridiculous--judgmental and narrow minded--not to mention a bit paranoid as well.
oh...and to heartofadog-- I had not realized you and I were interacting. I read your posts and did not find them of sufficient interest or pertinence to respond to--so I am unclear as to why you thought my posts were directed at you. I generally don't find brown noser's have much to add. -- :ROFL:
