Author	Thread: Is purity still a value out there?
Admin	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 5 Jan, 2009 05:46 PM I am twenty-six years old and I am still pure. I have had some close calls but, I have still kept myself for my husband. I was wondering if guys out there still respect this and pray for a women of purity? Tara Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 12 Jan, 2009 02:09 AM First of all, Soccertara, your virginity is the greatest physical gift you can give your husband, by far. And there are MANY more like you; it is just that our culture has made it shameful to be chaste. I am a virgin, and at 28 year's old. It has been very difficult to remain so throughout my life...indeed, the greatest struggle and most difficult virtue I've experienced, especially growing up in the sports culture and going to public schools my whole life. But I will tell you that the gift of being able to share something with your spouse that you have never, and will never, share with another soul, is more valuable to your "one flesh" unity than any other physical consideration. I do think that we have to be careful about calling ourselves pure, however-at least as a caution against pride. God says that if we lust after another person in our heart, we have committed a sexual sin. You said that you have had "close calls", and I have sinned with girls physically. I do not think I am a spiritual virgin, and I don't think anyone walking the earth probably is. At Bible school, I felt that girls who had lost their virginity but were extremely penitent and sensitive about it were more pure by far than the girls who had remained virgins but were proud of it. And I would choose the girl who had lost her virginity over the proud girl any day. With that admonition in mind, there is no greater joy for a man than coming together to unite with a woman where it is the first time for them both. I have several guy friends who married virgins, and they understand how priceless this gift is. One of my friends, he and his wife waited until marriage for everything physical except holding hands! And do you know what he told me after he got married? He wished that he had even reserved holding hands until marriage, because it was so special to have all of those romantic physical things in marriage alone...such a unique, precious bond. Regarding the guy who responded on here with the opinion that people should have a couple of lovers before marriage, there are a couple of deeper issues here. First, where do we put the Bible in our lives? Is it the word of God, or is it not? If the book that has given us the truth of God's love, of Christ's life, death and sacrifice, and glorious resurrection and future return, is true, then we should hold it in high esteem and value everything it says. Afterall, the same book that has told us about the One who has saved us has instructed us to obey everything in it! So if we accept our salvation, we should accept that we are to honor God in all that He has commanded us, yes? With that said, we know that God has commanded that sex outside of marriage is ALWAYS sin-I Cor. 6:19, that our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. We are not to make ourself one flesh with anyone but our wife. These things are clear in Scripture; it is a matter of whether we believe that we need to obey God or not. Second, let us praise the Lord that God has made ALL men and ALL women compatible sexually, that God DID make a man like a foot and a woman like a shoe (to use this man's analogy). And guess what? Anyone who has worked a puzzle as a young child can tell anatomically that a man fits a woman, period. Any demand or requirement of a person to have something "better" or "particular" sexually can be reduced to idolatry; it is valuing the physical creature more than the love which is signified in your union. I dated a girl 6 years ago who had a brother who had gotten drunk one night and married his best friend. The had sex as their honeymoon. He woke up the next morning and found out what had happened, still very confused and hung over. His best friend, this woman, was not physically attractive at all. She was not very pretty, and she must have weighed over 300 lbs. I heard about this story before I visited them. When I visited them, I was very surprised to see this man hugging and kissing and loving his wife-he was all over her! You see, he is a Christian, and he repented of his sin, and he accepted that marriage is a covenant before God and man. He decided to love his wife, and he is very attracted to her physically because he loves her with an unconditional, covenant love. God has done well to make the male and female fit perfectly-this is the definition of sexually compatible. What is not compatible is perversions such as homosexuality. But with a male and a female, there is no such thing as not being sexually compatible, and any notion that there is such thing, again, can be ground down to idolatry. There is an unhealthy obsession with sex in our culture. Hollywood is made up of perverted teenage/college guys making the movies. Almost every famous actress has done a nude scene, and I know not one who has not done a sex scene. But within the Christian faith, the lure of sex is much more the single, shared union between one and another than physical attraction alone. C.S. Lewis would make an analogy to food in order to be perfectly clear, and to demonstrate the foolishness of the world and what this man posted. My friends and I laugh at the silliness of someone saying that we should sleep around to see if we are compatible with someone sexually before marriage. Do you think that the starving in Africa need to go around sniffing and tasting various breads before they commit to one loaf? Do you think that the dying in Ethiopia reject milk because it is goat's and not cow's? No; it is the gluttonous Americans who reject fine food, skim milk instead of whole milk, bottled water instead of tap, rejecting certain veggies that don't taste as well, because of being spoiled, perverted, obsessed with maximizing the taste of food. We glorify the significance of our taste buds instead of focusing on the nutritional value of our consumption. In the same way, the world is spoiled with sex, perverted, obsessed with maximizing the pleasure of sex, glorifying the significance of the feeling we receive instead of focusing on the deeper spiritual value and importance of the union. Because we have made sex an idol, we bow down to it and seek the greatest gratification possible, chasing the "high" and being willing to go overtly against the Bible in order to attain it. Our walk with God, our life of obedience is sacrificed so that our flesh can be satisfied. And the more the world chases after this, the less it is pleased, and like any drug or addiction, it leads to destruction. Just look at the example of pornography and how it destroys the lives of the girls especially who are part of it, meanwhile the men grow more and more demeaning and perverted in their fantasies, chasing the wind. It is extremely sad, and at the same time glorious and praiseworthy to God, that the very "high" that they are chasing in sex, they would achieve beyond measure had they followed God's word from the beginning, waiting until marriage for any sensuality and sexuality. As it has been said by a great author, "There is nothing more erotic than two virgins coming together on their wedding night". Therefore, "Let God be found true, and every man a liar". Praise God that His word is true, and His way is best for us, always. David Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 12 Jan, 2009 11:18 PM Peace and Grace to you from our Lord ans Savior Jesus Christ. Why do you care about what men want? Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10 I am, the way I should be, to please God, not men. Thats what a Christian is. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 22 Jan, 2009 02:43 PM personally... purity is huge for me, i know im still really young, but ive often been made fun of my choice for not ever kissing a girl yet. the most physically ive ever done with a girl is give her a hug or hold hands with them. I'm currently looking for a girl who holds purity highly, doesnt mean shes never had her first kiss yet, that could be hard to find, but at least a girl who is a virgin like me and cares about that.. it seems to be harder and harder to find now-a-days, but i know God will show me the one. so yes, guys like me are out there, and theres a lot of us too. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 30 Jan, 2009 07:43 AM Stay Pure. Stay PURE, STAY PURE. You don't miss anything. It is worth it, valuable, precious, and do not rent it to any one. You can never regained it back, so keep it until that time and day that God will bring your mate. IT IS MORE FUN TO STAY PURE JUST FOR HIM (Jesus) and him (mate) The manufacturing manual that He gave us about our bodies is correct.!!!!!! Ted Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 02:57 AM Mark, Thank you for helping me see that I am not truly a Christian until I repent of all my sins and I obey all of God's commands. Nobody ever said life is easy. I am currently walking down the road of sin and it's just a pathway to destruction. Thanks for showing me and bringing me to understand that God chooses who He will save. You are absolutely right about churches breaking commandments or teaching false teachings. How many of us out there can say we have went to a church that teaches you "Once Saved Always Saved?" I believed this for years, but this is not true because we can lose our salvation easily. The only way to keep our salvation is to obey God's commands. People say walking the walk of Christ is complicated and difficult, but tonight by the help of this man of God (Mark) and God I have come to realize that it takes more energy to walk the path of sin and destruction then to give everything to God and live for Him. Read Ephesians 6:10- 17. This is a very powerful verse and if we do this daily, we will be protecting ourselves from the sin of the world. Ephesians 6:10 "Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 " Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. God Bless you Mark Mahrrissa P.S. You are a great friend and that woman of God is closer to you then you think. Thanks hon. I love you in Christ. Post Reply
Kspang22 View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 20 Mar, 2009 12:50 AM Hey i just wanted to add my two cents too lol. I am almost 21 and i am also pure woot woot, Waiting for marriage not just because its important to me and God but also to my future hubby who i already love. To me love is an action and i am in in anct of love waitng for my wedding night. its really encouraging for me to hear of other girls and guys out there waiting especialy older then me. Sometimes it feel like i am the last virgin on planet earth. I get so tired of hearing " you should test drive the car before you buy it" and blah blah blah. I think that if you have a good relatioship filled with love and passion the sex is bound to be good. I also think that talking about sex with your partner is really important too, even before marriage then you dont have to guess what the other person would like. Yes i am a virgin but that doesnt mean i dont have know anythig about sex or have ideas for things i would like to try and explor with my husband. but only with him. Its no different then talking about places you might like to vacation to or a bucket list. how can you understand each other if you dont come to know eachother first by talking and expressing. When i have found myself in a serious relationship I do find that kissing is important. I feel there is a connection your really cant exprieance from just holding hands or even hugging.but when two sets of lips meet i think thats when you truely begin to learn the other person not just by what they are saying but by there emotions. Its hard to explain my thoughts on this one its just what i found o be true. The one thing for me i have found more amazing than anything is dancing. Please dont stone me! Slow dancing makes me feel more loved and cheerished then any other time in the world ( i will let you know if that changes after i get married lol ) I am a ballet dancer and a big part of dancing for me is dancing to praise God through my body movment. Again this is hard to explain but finding music in the wind the colors of earth and basicaly anything i have been blessed to sense(sight sound taste touch ) has music in it. When a man and i can find that same music in what might seem to others as nothing, and he can lead me in a dance, only God can create something like that. So i am sure i have completly confused you would love to heat thoughts on all this I love being challenged to challenge is to grow. Thanks every one Krissy Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 16 Apr, 2009 03:42 PM Thank YOu!. Even something God created as Good, like sex or marriage can become an idol, if it takes our focus off of christ. Our first love above all else. John piper wrote a book on "Respectable Sins" interesting concept, but very true. we make something good and beautiful and cheapen it. Like Esau selling his birthright. True freedom when thinking about it is only found in christ. and Following Christ's Blueprint for marriage is the only plan for a happy successful life here. He care enough to Have his only Son die to ssave us and he created this wonderful thing called, sex to also glorify him and reflect his marriage with his bride, the church, how can we sin against our Father?! When we take our eyes off christ, we fall into all sorts of trouble!. And temptation gets ahold of us and we become like Eve in the garden of eden. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 19 Apr, 2009 11:41 PM Yes, I believe in purity, too. I know that very few do any more in America, pathetically. This is just one reason I'm still single, not willing to settle. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is purity still a value out there? Posted : 9 Jan, 2018 02:20 PM I�d like to see Biblical reference from any guy saying that sex before marriage is ok. This is a CHRISTIAN dating site. It seems purity does not matter to most anymore. It�s sad. Post Reply

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