I don't belive it's just women that are visual. From the people that I've been around, I would say all are. But like what cobbler stated we will compromise from our ideal. It just becomes a problem if all we care about is looks.
I have had a few nice guys interested that I could just never picture my self being intamite with. One thing is age. The old guys seam alot more aggressive. My dad is under 60 and looks young and good for his age. If some guy looks older then my dad there's no way I could even think of him as any thing but a grandpa. The same with too young. My oldest is 20. I'm definitely not attracted to really young guys. A couple of years older or younger is good. Plus you need to have enough in commen.
When your talking about dating sites it is a lot more based on looks unfortunately. Not that people are more shallow. It's just that your not around them to get to know them. All the guys I dated I knew before I decided if they were attractive. But if I just had a picture to view I don't know if I would have found them attractive. That's why the forums are good. You can get to know them a bit first and then view there pictures. To me that's a much better way.
@Ms Marvel i think understand your frustration, what I understand is that women don't like to hear that a man may not like them on based on their looks alone, is that correct?? :)
Rabbit, stop putting words into my mouth, or in this case under my fingers.
It's not that I find how you think about women being too ugly for you to behold to be disgusting more so that you revel in it, justify it, and say God made you that way, because he didn't. He really, really didn't. If you don't like the way a woman looks, why not just be quiet and say nothing instead of taunting them about how they look?
You and Cobbler have made repeated posts in the ask a girl section about your views of women.
I have a philosophical question for you, if you grew up in a village where everyone was a certain size, you'd think you were supposed to be the size, right? How much TV have you watched, how many women have you looked at since you grew up from child to man?
What have you put into your eyes? :)
@Cobbler, again..That's what one man found beautiful, you may not find the woman he was describing beautiful. If only Solomon had a full length picture of her to give you!
I think it's important to remember Job made a covenant with his eyes, and he was just a regular guy, just like you two...
Job 31:1 - I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.
The things you say do matter, actually. It may be your opinion and you have every right to air it out, because the world tells you what to think about a woman, and you obey.
Matthew 12:34 - You brood of snakes! How could evil men like you speak what is good and right? For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.
Matthew 12:35 - A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart.
Matthew 12:36 - And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak.
What does the bible speak most on? I think it's the heart and spirit. Isn't it?
*Note* I wasn't saying that you are evil men, by quoting Matthew 12:34 rather I think it's important to examine that everyone will have to account to God for everything they speak about.
I will too!
I think if I sat here complaining how men look, and talking about male pattern baldness, and how much weight you gain from aging, and how much money I want my spouse to have that I would have to give an account for the things I say.
Your second post is moot and does not apply. Job was proclaiming his innocence that he did nothing to earn what he was suffering, and stated that he has not lusted, which lust here is also not applicable.
Neither does your first since you dont know what I think because you havent got it right yet.
I know you don't know me, and I doubt know Cobbler so how do you know if we are evil or not? Matter of fact I doubt you could percieve us accuratley since you havent prcessed correctly a thing we have said
God and I have discussed this at lenghth, an account has already been given ;^)
Have you read Matthew 12 in its context, cause the theme is dealing with religous hypocracy, and rebinc traditions that were added to the law, that had nothing to do with God. More precisley Jesus was responding to Pharsees who were making accusations cause they didn't understand what he was saying or doing...sound famillar??
My taste were not learned but there at birth...true the world can twist that, to where its something its not. We arent comparing any woman or callin any woman any thing, it sounds like you are taking it way to personal.
Dont you think a man like Solomon who "witheld no pleasure from himself" would not choose the best there was.
Im not reveling in anything, I am proclaiming the truth and standing my ground.
The bible speaks mostly of Gods undeserving love for us and His pursuit after us.
I put eye droppers in my eyes :laugh:
Really its pass or fail I either llike the way a woman looks the instant i see her or I dont...simple isnt it? :)
MsMarvel, the only comments I have made in the post have been towards women who have asked why they don�t get very many men interested in them. And all I have said is that the most likely cause is the fact that they are overweight, which most men have a problem with. All I was stating was a statistic, not a condemnation. All I am doing is pointing out a reality. If she chooses to keep the weight on, that is her choice. I wasn�t doing it out of malice or to make fun of them or to criticize them. I was doing it to help them understand how to make themselves more attractive to men. I was doing it to help them not to hurt them.
As far as Song of Solomon, it really doesn�t matter what she looked like, because I can tell you another statistical fact. What attracts men the most is someone who is very rare or unusual. Beauty is always something that has been hard to obtain. Also, the point I was trying to make from the verses is not about a specific characteristic of beauty, but the fact that physical beauty is important, contrary to what you are saying.
And I agree with Rabbit, I think you are strongly misinterpreting what we are trying to say about beauty. We are not as particular about it as you think we are.
So river,you judge EVERY SINGLE MAN by what standard.
Have you spoken with EVERY man in this life,NO you have not.
You are making a General statement based upon what others ASSUME making an AS* of U and ME.hahahahahaha
river:
if they were like us, then the world would be full of women :)
Meanie:
Men are systematic in their thinking,women are more FEELINGS/CHEMISTRY oriented.
What happens when the CHEMISTRY RUNS DRY.
Do you give up and run,or are you commited to LOVING others despite what they are like.
River
we should definitely keep up our physical appearance and more importantly, keep our hearts pliable, teachable and in love with God...it gives us a glow that comes from within.
Meanie:
Glow from within hmmmmm.
More feel good stuff.
Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith,
Gal 5:23 meekness, self-control. Against such things there is not a law.
I might be pretty dense and may not see GLOW,
Yet it is pretty hard for me not to see the Fruit and Life of the Holy SPirit within a women,or man.
Shalom.
not all men will find us attractive but that's ok, we only need ONE
