There is a book out which some here may or may not be familiar with called: LOVE AND RESPECT
by christian author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. The premise in a nutshell is based off Ephesians 5:33,
"Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.",
the author (and co-writing wife) conclude that a majore issue in
marriages today is that respect is not held as being given unconditionally. Let me elaborate on this subject. In most marriages Love is held as something that should be unconditionally given regardless of performance, personality, etc. Yet Respect is seen as something that has to be earned. The authors argue that Respect should be just as unconditional in a marriage as Love. They go so far as to say that well both need Love and Respect, men actually value (need) to be Respected more than Loved. Whereas, women would rather be Loved than Respected. I understand that this runs very counter cultural and against the grain of much of what most of us believe and are taught. But has our beliefs and teaching really been based on scriptural principle or worldly deception?I am curious to know your thoughts on the matter guys.
"Matthew 23:9: And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.
"I prefer saying "Dad". For that very reason."
I am with you on that... its why I don't use the word "sir" which comes from "Sire"... as in that stud horse sired that filly.
I use "mister" or hey Joe, if I don't know them, and their given name if on such terms to do so.
i WISH the Catholics would realize what Jesus said in Matt 23:9
In my post, however, I made no mention of actually calling the Man by his offices or ministries... such as Father...
So, why is it that you are making this point?
I am made curious.
I simply pointed out that they (the offices) in fact exist, and because of their existence & the nature of the relationship... the officeholder should be respected.
"Husband is just a title to most people, they don't know it's real meaning anymore, they don't know how to be a husband."
Systemic deliberate failing of the american people by government funded, & government run education... nothing new here. Most homeschooled people I know, know what the genuine article is.
Whats interesting is Noah Websters 1828 definition shows that the term "fiance" is a recent development.
1. A man contracted or joined to a woman by marriage. A man to whom a woman is betrothed, as well as one actually united by marriage, is called a husband. Lev.19. Deut.22.
"Same thing with wife, I'm sure. "Uniform" is just the appearance of a man, his actions are more important."
But point is still remains. We give respect to the officeholder while he is in uniform, unless we are juvenile delinquents. The respect offered them, is unmerited, and unconditional.
A husband should be given he due respect, without regard for the appearance of garments signifying his God ordained ministry or office.
I agree MsMarvel. But even as it should come naturally, I have always believed that respect is something you earn and not something you merit by age or intelligence. A truly respectable person will be respected, naturally.
