Author	Thread: A Challenge
Tulip89 View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 06:40 PM I have a friend who ended up sitting near a pretty girl at church one week. They exchanged names during the meet and greet time, but didn't really talk much more than that. He decided that he liked her enough, so the next week when he saw her, he walked up on stage and said, something to the extent of "Hi, remember we met last week? Wanna go get coffee sometime?" What did she say? She said yes. Then, a year or so later, when he asked her to marry him, she said yes as well. One thing she has said since they started dating is that she was incredibly impressed by his boldness. If this plan can work for the two of them, it can work for another guy and another girl. My challenge to you is, the next time you meet a girl/woman at church who tickles your fancy, just be bold, walk up, and ask her out! Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 07:15 PM Haha brother, that is the hardest thing in the world for me! The Lord has, however, given me more confidence, but man, sometimes it's tough to do! haha Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 07:49 PM How about at work or church or just about anywhere else for that matter. I`m the only single guy at my church, you think that would be a good thing, the only problem there are no single ladies. Post Reply
VKWV1 View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 27 Apr, 2011 10:08 PM Victory7: Same problem here. At my church, the old ladies and the little girls love me, but there's just not much on the dating scene. (haha). After being on this site a while, I'm coming to the conclusion that what works in real life, doesn't work here. This is a totally different animal. I'd love to hear some women give their opinions on all of this. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 28 Apr, 2011 09:25 AM My opinion? Boldness like what Tulip described is great. (Pushiness is not, and there is a difference.) But I think that kind of boldness works best in "real life" where your first meeting or introduction is face-to-face. Online, a different kind of boldness is needed. You can't go asking a girl out within the first 2 minutes of IM chat...or even after the first couple chats or emails. But you can try to make her feel safe, actively earn her trust, and then ask her if and when she would feel comfortable meeting you. That's a boldness that is appreciated online, as opposed to talking to her for a long time and never getting around to taking the online friendship to the next level. But all that's just my worthless opinion! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 28 Apr, 2011 09:28 AM i think your right tulip, I like boldness in a man. it shows he knows what he wants. very attractive. Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 28 Apr, 2011 09:42 AM Boldness only works if you actually know what you are doing. I have seen plenty of guys boldly ask a woman out in a very awkward way and get shot down. Just because you are bold doesn�t guarantee that she will go out with you, you still have to do it �the right way�. Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 28 Apr, 2011 11:02 AM You're opinion is far from worthless, BC. I totally agree. Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 28 Apr, 2011 02:49 PM Reminds me of several years back at a Christian camp I used to go to. There was a girl there I fancied like mad and year after year I would never pluck up courage to talk to her. I had it out with God over this and remember the two words He said to me: "speak boldly". We never did go out, though we became very close for a while, but those words still ring in my ears every time I see a girl I want to talk to and let it slip by... Post Reply
View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 28 Apr, 2011 05:41 PM I have had men be bold to me in a respectful way, not overwhelming. They were not elegant; they stumbled and got red inthe face, and it took me a couple of minutes to even figure out what was trying to be said. But I gave them the same consideration I would expect someone to give me, and said yes. I did not marry any of them, but that had nothing to do with their boldness in asking me in the first place. Boldness with respect, no matter the delivery, is something I would welcome again if the opportunity arose. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	A Challenge Posted : 29 Apr, 2011 09:31 AM Boxer4Christ, just think of it like a boxing match. Put your fight face on, don't show your fear, and do what you came to do! You don't even have to worry about her hitting you! Post Reply

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