i'm kinda new to this whole forum thing but i have a couple questions. please don't take any of what i say the wrong way cause i really am nice girl..i'm just a little frustrated.
first question..what does a girl have to do to make her profile catch a guys attention? other than put flashing lights that say look at me look at me lol i feel like mine is a little long. feel free to check it out and let me know lol
second question..where in the world have all the real men of God gone? i know they have to be somewhere..hiding under a rock or in my own made up world. either way, i have never met so many shallow guys on here. i've read so many times on various profiles that you want something different. have you ever heard the saying, you have to do something different in order to get something different? maybe you should stop looking on outer appearances. yes, i know that there has to be an attraction but beauty fades fellas. i know that i am not no model material but i do know i have a lot to offer as do many of the other women here that may be overlooked.
in no way am i trying to be mean or put any of you down. cause if you knew the potential that each and everyone of you had..i'm just trying to get you to open your eyes and step out of the boat. get out of your comfort zone cause you never know what may happen. (trust me, i'm preaching to the choir)
i'll get off my soap box but please know that my little rant was out of love..
everyone reading this does have someone out there that God created for us and us for them. and in His DUE time, it'll happen:)
I know that this is a touchy subject, but since you are asking I will bring it up.
You know that men like to have a wife that is beautiful to them, and that most men prefer a woman who has a healthy weight (you don�t have to be practically anorexic). Why is it that you demand that a man be a �real man of God�, but you will not lose the weight? Why is it that you can demand idealism in a man, but you are not willing to be ideal in his eyes? Your attitude seems to be onesided. Yes, beauty does fade, but it takes time to grow love to the point where you can overlook that which you don�t find so attractive.
I know that many women think that because they will never compare to the super models and actresses that there is no point in keeping the weight off, but they are wrong. Guys are not as picky as women make them out to be. You don�t have to be practically perfect to catch a guy�s attention. All you need to do is keep a healthy weight, learn how to buy clothes that match your body type, and keep yourself well groomed. You don�t have to be perfect, you just have to make an effort.
@ lindsey: I liked this post and there was some really good stuff in it us guys need to be reminded of. As far as what you can do goes, I guess just not let the wierdos get to you and realize there's a real world outside your door and not make your life/hobby all about one big quest to getting the romance of the century. Live a totally awesome life that you like and focus on making connections (if you just focus on online or relationship stuff it can cause you to get a distorted perspective of reality and disconnect, which is why I say that). That's the best chance you can give yourself and even if it doesn't work out at least you had an awesome life that wasn't wasted online. That's the advice I'd give myself if I had a time machine.
you have your opinion and i have mine and both are valid. i just don't think it's very christ-like to not even talk to someone because of their weight. my weight nor anyone elses makes who they are. i know i have a lot to offer. i should not and will not loose weight just to get a guy to like me. that's insane. just like i would never want or expect a guy to loose weight or keep in shape for me. it has to be for him. isn't the man suppose to love his wife just like Christ loves the church? when i said real men of God, i mean where have all the guys that put God first in their lives? i've met some on here that say one thing but do and act another. what i'm looking for is someone who puts God above everything else. but thank you for your reply and i hope you have a blessed Good Friday and Easter weekend!!
i only date cheerleaders:
nice name btw haha thank you for your reply. i don't spend all my time on here and i definitely don't let all the weirdos on here bother me lol i guess i just got upset and went on a little rant lol i was told yesterday through a message that i shouldn't even bother looking at his profile because due to my weight, he would never think twice about being my friend cause he's only friends with beautiful people...ok that's great but he could have just ignored the fact that i looked at his profile lol i know who i am in Christ and if i don't find "him" on this website then i'm okay with that.
If you can find a guy who loves you in spite of your weight, then I am all happy for you. But to expect men to like you even though you are overweight is frankly selfish. I don�t know you personally so I could be wrong, but the attitude you are presenting is: �I�m going to be whatever I want to be, and I don�t care if you like it or not. I�m not going to change anything to please you, but I am expecting you to be the man I want you to be.�
1 Corinthians 7:33-34 (NASB) states:
33 but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife,
34 � but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
What you are telling a guy up front is, I am not willing to do those things that will please my husband.
I also disagree with you about your weight not determining what sort of person they are. People aren�t overweight by accident. God doesn�t design people with a �fat gene�. I, like everyone else, is overweight because I eat more calories than I burn. I�m overweight because I don�t have the self-control not to overeat. So, my being overweight is a demonstration of who I am, a guy who lets his desire for food get the best of him.
If a guy doesn�t even want to be just friends simply because you are overweight, then he is being selfish. I have been good friends with a woman for the past five years who is very overweight. Doesn�t bother me one bit. But, while friendship is the basis for a good marriage, there is more to a marriage than just friendship. There also needs to be an attraction.
Like I said up front, if you can find a guy who likes you just the way you are, that�s great. Just don�t complain about why guys aren�t as attracted to you as they are to other women who are a healthy weight.
Lindsey, You're beautiful! I apologize for cobbler. He seems a little agitated today. Your profile is fine. Your future husband may be on this site and he may not. Whoever he is, he'll be blessed with a wife that puts God first. At the end of the day, that's what counts! shallowness comes in all forms. But not all guys are shallow. ___________________ ___________________________ cobbler, Don't complain if girls are more attracted to guys who are more handsome than yourself ( me, brandon, two)! JUST KIDDING! ------------------- (or am I ?) lol
I�m not complaining that women not finding me attractive. Lindsey is complaining that men are not �true men of God� because they prefer someone who is not overweight. God designed men to be attracted to beauty and most men don�t find women that are overweight attractive. It�s not like she can�t control her weight, she just openly chooses not to. I�m not talking about being anorexic or super skinny, just a healthy weight. According to the CDC, her ideal weight for her height is between 100-132 pounds. (19-25% body fat)
All I am saying is that she knows the answer to gain the attention of men, but instead of eating a healthy diet, she has chosen to dismiss men as �not Godly�. It�s no different than a man choosing not to support his family and then dismissing women as a bunch of gold diggers because he won�t get a real job.
If you want to hold out for a guy who prefers your weight (and they are out there) go right on ahead. All I am saying is don�t complain about it. You know what the answer is.
Yes, that�s the way to help her find a husband. Just tell her what she wants to hear so that she doesn�t have to change anything and she can smugly sit there and say the only reason why she can�t find a husband is because there are no Godly men.
There is a huge difference between twisting yourself into a pretzel to get someone to marry you and doing those things that is commonly known that men like. All I commented on was something that she can change, and something that she already knows is an issue by what she has stated. I didn�t say anything about her needing to be taller, rounder, different color eyes, or anything else that she is not able to change. I�m not trying to slight her, she asked what she could do to get guys attention, and all I am doing is stating something that is commonly known to get attention from more men.
If you prefer, I could give her some true ungodly advice, like wearing a low-cut blouse that shows plenty of d�colletage. That will certainly get plenty of attention from the guys.
Cobbler, I think you just ought to calm down, really. I'm not saying to give her ungodly advice but I don't believe "You're overweight." covers why she isn't finding godly men.
The world has a standard of beauty, so does the bible. I'm not saying she shouldn't exercise or change, but comparing her with what you find beautiful or what world men may find beautiful isn't going to help her confidence.
