Author	Thread: STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!!
HolyGhostGirl View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 08:24 AM Hi!!!! Not trying to be mean, just curious. Why do you guys wink at the women you're interested in on this site? Would you wink in "real life", if you were in person? I know it's an option, but why use it...lol.... Why not just inbox the person and say, Hi, how are you? AND THE BIGGEST QUESTION OF ALL IS....WHY DO Y'ALL VIEW SOMEBODY 8 TIMES AND NOT SAY A WORD??? JUST LOOKING AND NOT SENDING A MESSAGE. STOP LOOKIN AND NOT SAYIN ANYTHING!!!!!!!!! This is not the club, or a shopping mall...lol, this is a Christian forum. If you see something you like, be it attraction or a spirit-filled profile, just say something. Are you waiting for the woman to say something first to see if she's interested? Once again, I hope I don't sound mad..haha...Just wondering! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 09:14 AM I never liked winks, but the comparison to winking in real life it kind of unfair. As far as guys viewing profiles multiple times, sometimes we forget we've viewed a profile. Other times we can't decide whether we want to message a girl or not, so we read their profile multiple times. Other times we see her picture in our search and have to go back to remind ourselves who she is or why we didn't message her. I've also been known to view a girl's profile a couple times just on the hope that she'd message me since I was a year or so out of her age range and couldn't message her. If a guy likes you, he should go ahead and message you, but don't freak out if you get multiple views and no message. Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 12:03 PM Yeah, I think the winks are a tad girly in my opinion, but I don't much care fot them either way. The profile viewing thing is a tad overstated too. Like Tulip said sometimes guys forget. I think Tulip also made a point that sometimes guys use it as a lure. Personally if I was genuienly interested in a girl then I would maybe look at her profile sometimes twice before messaging her. My guys also deal with self confidence issues so they will maybe look at your profile and back away. Other guys are just creeps. haha. So I wouldn't read into the whole view count thing too much. Tulip, You should add me on FB, I really want to know how your date is going to go and I have been praying for you and Rachel. Oh, and I have been building a relationship with a girl that I met on OKCupid and I want to say thanks for the suggestion. I hoping it goes well since she live like 15-20min. from. We are going to text a little later today so I am keeping my fingers cross, but not too tightly to cut off circulation. haha. Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 02:13 PM I get women looking at my profile (yes really, but not often) and yet probably only two so far have messaged me. Of course, this shows up and I then look at their profile. Unfortunately in almost every case they're from another country so it goes no further. Even if I find a woman from my country, I have to think twice about what I'll do - don't forget they've already looked at my profile and not messaged or winked at me so it's likely they're not interested. A wink is an easy way of flagging someone's attention without the risk of sitting down to write something only for it to go ignored. Or if I can't think of anything specific to talk about at that moment (I tend to go on the internet late at night just before bed). I wonder how many people both on this site and in real life are still waiting for 'the other' to make the first move? WAKE UP FOLKS! it may *never* happen because YOU were supposed to be the one to initiate things. If you want to know them more, walk up to them and talk to them. What's the worst that can happen?! You won't become *more* single if things don't work out after all... Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 04:54 PM Welcome to reality, deal with it, or be perpetually mad. Post Reply
VKWV1 View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 06:06 PM The wink thing is just semantics. If they used, "Send a smile," it would be better. As far as all the guys looking at you: how horrible! You should ban all men immediately! I only like to write one woman at a time so I put a lot of time into picking the one I think is the best match for me. Often this means going back and comparing. As long as the men chase the women, it's gonna be that way. Still, eight seems excessive. Maybe those guys are shy and hoping you'll give them a clue. Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 06:22 PM If I get a wink, or a message, and sometimes a view, I will try to almost always respond. Unless the person creeps me out. You never know your response might brighten someones day. Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 06:29 PM I only looked once! Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 13 Apr, 2011 11:32 PM You're not alone! There are several guys on here who look at me A LOT and send a wink every few days. I'm learning to ignore it, though. Now, when I click on who has viewed me or on my winks, I don't even scroll down the page. I just click to clear the number and then quickly navigate to another page. If a guy is truly interested, he'll send a message. Post Reply
View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 14 Apr, 2011 12:19 AM That's fine if it's the same people that keep winking at you, but in my case I wouldn't write to someone if I'd winked at them and they hadn't winked or replied back - after all, if they can't be bothered to return a wink then they're probably not interested and wouldn't reply to a message either. You've nicely illustrated my last paragraph above: what if the person God intended for you *never* sends the first message? In my experience, if I get one reply for 30 women I message, that's about the best I can hope for. Us guys have probably lost faith in these websites because it's a lot of time for little or no results. If you want to see more messages than winks, why don't you message them first? Post Reply
HolyGhostGirl View Profile History	STOP LOOKIN AT ME!!! Posted : 14 Apr, 2011 09:46 AM Tulip89, you like disagreeing with me, don't you? lol I'm just saying though. 2 or 3 views...understandable. 8 and 9 views....ridiculous. JUST SAY SOMETHING! And...I'm not freakin out thank you very much! :glow: Post Reply

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