Author	Thread: Giving a woman your phone number...?
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 05:13 AM Hi guys, I have been here a short while and already have some interesting tales to tell.. In the few weeks that I have been here I have had two men give me their phone numbers (without me asking).I know this is the virtual world and things work a little differently than IRL, but I am rather traditional in my thinking. I think the man should be the pursuer. Because of the nature of this medium, I will sometimes initiate communication. I prefer to chat via email/IM for a bit before talking on the phone. And even than I don;t do the calling (I obviously do return calls..) In both cases I have thanked the men for offering their numbers to me and have explained why I wouldn;t be making the initial phone call. I have a point here somewhere. lol... I quess what Im asking is, have you done this here or IRL? What are your thoughts on the initial phone contact thing? Shouldn;t men ask for a woman's number? Melissa Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 06:37 AM A couple of thoughts. First I would never just give my phone number to a woman on the first contact. I have always viewed it as get to know each other through the site communication channels first, then via personal email and then phone. How long that process takes varies but I certainly would expect a phone conversation immediately. As for who gives who their phone number first. I have always viewed the man giving the woman his phone number as a way for it to be less stressful for the woman. Maybe they were just trying to be polite and offer their phone number instead of asking for yours? I know in real life, I find it easier to give a woman my number than ask for hers. Yes it means she has to initiate and call me then, but it also means she doesn't have to worry about giving her phone number out. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 06:54 AM I've had times where women gave their phone numbers out about right away. I think some people are more comfortable with utilizing the phone right off the bat than staying in this online realm, throwing messages back and forth. I don't care for phones, so chatty cathies and me don't mix. I rather figure out the general stuff on here than chatting around on a phone. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 06:55 AM Thanks ... I guess I should have mentioned that in my post.. The phone numbers weren't given in a first contact. Although, I have had that experience in the past. Geesh. Online dating.. Good times. lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 06:56 AM Melissa, Don't mean to make you paranoid, but somebody has to do it...lol The reason this dating site and others are set up the way they are is to protect your identity, to protect you from getting scammed or spammed. Any piece of personal information such as your phone number (picked up by caller I.D.) can lead to your full name, address, and/or email. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 07:00 AM Gee thanks two sparrows... as if this whole dating thing werent stressful enough. haha. I am now seeing the benefit of having the number given.. easier to maintain privacy (with being able to control who see's my number). I guess it;s the whole calling the guy thing. I just have never been that type. I guess it goes along with the whole being pursued thing and not wanting to be the pursuer. Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 07:01 AM oops. sorry, I should have proof read my comment. I meant to say I would NOT expect a phone conversation right away. Like TwoSparrows said, its more about protecting your identity. That is why I am comfortable giving my phone number to the lady. But on the other hand if it is obvious things are really going well and I am really sure she would like to go out, then I have no problem asking for hers and making the first call. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 07:09 AM Thanks for the input guys. Giving me a new perspective. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 11:02 AM I've had men send me their numbers and ask for mine. I specifically state on my profile that I won't give out personal information for two weeks after beginning to e-mail because of this. There are a lot of scammers who want phone numbers for wrong reasons. When I first got on the site, there was a man who asked for my e-mail. I have a fake account and I gave him that address. He e-mailed me and said since he'd found me he was deleting his account at the dating site and that I was his one and only. We hadn't talked, so his comments scared me. I don't give out personal information or accept anyone else's on the site now until I've talked to them long enough on this site that I figure they would have given up if they were weird. :rolleyes: Post Reply
View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 11:44 AM I had a man on this site give me his number and tell me what day and what time he wanted me to call him---- I never called and 2 days later he deleted me from his favorites list. Why are men so moody? :laugh: Deborah Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Giving a woman your phone number...? Posted : 16 Jan, 2011 07:21 PM Well gee Deb......he gave you everything you needed to bow down and kiss his feet. Shaking head in wonderment you did not. (yup, some are so moody and silly). Post Reply

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