Author	Thread: Purity maintenance
Admin	Purity maintenance Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 08:33 PM How do you maintain you're being pure aka no sex before marriage, no porn, etc? Would appreciate all of you who bravely share it here and I believe it would be a blessing for all of us who read the testimonies =) :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 08:38 PM This is interesting for me, since most of people here on this site are Americans and I know that it's not easy to stay pure there. Like in here where I live, most Christians are virgins and we know the rules, and no one is making fool for us to not having sex before marriage. Even the non Christian ones are still virgins due to religious acts and culture here. So it is not like a very hard thing to do to stay as a virgin. I, myself, am a virgin. Even before I got saved, I never thought of having sex before marriage. Never see the benefit of having it. Though sometimes it is hard to keep myself pure, it's very hard to watch any movie now that doesn't have sex scene on it =( and I love to watch movies once in a while. I help myself by flee from those kind of movies (usually stick to cartoons or movies with no sex on it which are so very rare), don't look at those forwarded emails/links/etc that contains these kind of things. Or read magazines like this. Though it's getting harder cuz they seem everywhere and all people around me (the non Christian ones) are keep sharing it with everyone! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 09:33 PM Remaining a virgin isn't exactly easy, but it's very do-able. I just don't have sex. I don't even put myself in a position where I'm especially tempted. I believe that it's wrong to has sex outside of marriage, so I don't do it. It's as simple as that. (Of course, I realize that I could be raped, and I would have no control over that, but I don't consider that a true loss of virginity...because it wasn't given away.) Remaining pure is harder, though. The culture here and society in general just throws sinful things into our paths. We have to dodge them at every turn. Porn pops up in our inboxes. Type in the wrong thing in the web browser, and you see more porn (I've been very fortunate to never run across porn in all the years I've been using the internet...God's been watching out for me!). Sex as a pasttime is portrayed in most of the movies and tv shows out there. So how do I remain pure through all of that? It's hard. I avoid venues where I'm tempted to slip, I pray without ceasing, and when impure thoughts creep in my mind, I turn to God to help me get rid of them. I'm not perfect at all. I'm not nearly as pure and innocent as I used to be. And that saddens me. I'm no longer shocked when I see homosexuality portrayed as normal on tv. When there is a steamy sex scene in a movie, I may or may not turn the channel or fast forward through it. It's not that I enjoy seeing those things, but I'm becoming callous to them. For the past couple months in particular, I've been praying that God will renew my innocence and let me see sin for what it really is. Post Reply
View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 10:05 PM Thanks for sharing, BC. You're one of those brave and honest people to answer this question through the forum! :angel: I agree with u, prayers are the answer for all our problems. Post Reply
View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 07:59 PM You are absolutely right, pianogal. Rape does not affect virginity. Or purity. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 08:50 PM It's not just about physical purity. Emotional purity is just as important. Many people may be totally committed to physical purity, yet have no regard for guarding their hearts. They expect to jump right into marriage levels of emotional intimacy. Before marriage, and especially prior to engagement, we cannot be giving our whole hearts away to the people we are dating. When we inevitably breakup, the scars that leaves have serious, far-reaching effects. The call to guard our hearts is a serious one. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 08:51 PM First of all, I rarely date. I mean only a few times in 5 years time so, that helps! Post Reply
View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 11:23 PM JesusLovesYouAndMe I agree with bc that's what I do I don't put myself in situations to get tempted true me its very difficult I don't know how old you are or how old the other girls that commented on the post but at 27 my friends don't understand how I'm still a virgin but all I can say is its very difficult especially as you get older you get more tempted but you have to fight it and pray and not put yourself in situations god bless you Post Reply
View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 02:57 AM @MountainLass: agree! :applause: @Tulip: thanks for reminding us all. It's so very important to keep our heart pure before we say "I do" otherwise we could give our heart away to the wrong person. @River: lol so we should stop dating eh? :ROFL: but dating online is good, at one side we all can put our hands on it's place :goofball: @Faith: yes! It's so really true! When I was younger, I didn't find it as so much problem as I do now! And never test ourselves, that's the best. Thanks for the comments, y'all! :angel: Post Reply
vickypromise View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 03:21 AM Victor from Kenya I would like to say that maintaining purity means first sacrificing your feelings of the flesh. What your mind thinks is what you really are and so if you think of the bodily pleasures that is when you get tempted. You have just to keep off from factors that may facilitate bodily pleasures like peer,pornographic sites to succeed in this. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Purity maintenance Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 07:38 AM @Jesusloves It doesn't stop with the heart though. When you've completely given your heart away to somebody, it's all the more difficult not to express your feelings physically. I mean, it's not that hard to avoid going to nightclubs or crazy parties so you don't feel tempted to hook up with someone you don't know. When you're completely emotionally open with someone, it's a lot harder to keep your mind or even your hands from wandering. Post Reply

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