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KellyBean

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Not to be nosey or rude....
Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 11:55 AM

....but how many of you fellas are virgins? I'm sincerely curious. It's so hard to come across pure people these days, and I'm just wondering if there are plenty of people who believe in purity before marriage out there.

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 12:29 PM

What do you consider a Virgin? (Besides the obvious)

Some have been married.

Some have come to Faith in Christ at a later age.

Some have been molested at a young age.

Some are older and have stumbled along the way.





However, Don't get me wrong, if you have kept yourself a Virgin and desire a Virgin to Marry, that is a Noble Desire! And Hopefully Rewarding!



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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 12:37 PM

KellyBean, I understand your frustration. Don�t let the fact that you run into so many guys who do not wish to remain pure bring you down. It�s not about what everyone else is doing, it is about what God has commanded us to do.



I am still a virgin after all these years, so it can be done. It is true that it is getting harder to find guys that want to remain pure, but you only need to find one.

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 12:53 PM

Kellybean,There are guys out there who are virgins,waiting for marriage.I have brothers who are still virgins.My late-husband was one when we got married,and I was too.Don't let people fool you there are still people who have kept themselves pure.And there is forgiveness,healing and restoration for those who who didn't whatever the reason.When we read God's word our minds,and hearts are washed and made new.That's what is most important anyway,what we are doing now not our pasts.Sharon

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 12:53 PM

I am so proud of you both...which of course is nothing compared to the fact that

JESUS CHRIST Himself is proud of you!!! AND promises to Bless you.

Married once and both virgins~I know what it takes, but then doesn't God promise to give us what we need to follow Him? So really nothing special about me~HE did it for me. Even managed to raise (only) one son that also stayed pure (through military service~story I told in another post) and the way God blessed him and his new wife is SOOOO cool.



Remember satan is at work. Stay prayed up. Keep studying the word!



Satan comes in when the door is open just a bit. He got to my ex after many years, and he left and is with an unbeliever. BUT, looking back...wow, God is so amazing to me. So now, I too and waiting for marriage...and believing my Lord will once again bless obedience as He promised.



God Bless You!

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 01:20 PM

No, but I really wish I was and I mean that. It's not worth trading a pure heart and perfectly good relationships for some very shortsighted fun (at best) just because everybody elses doing it. I really look forward to getting married someday and having an awesome sex life and marriage with wifey #1 ONLY. Even if I don't know her yet :laugh:

To the virgins that are out there, don't give it up. I know it's no fun being or feeling different and you may not even completely understand what is so great about being a virgin, but being the same and having to dig your way out of it is 10x less so, a giant waste of time, and letting down your future wife. Have faith.

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 01:50 PM

You don't really believe that just because a guy is a virgin means he won't want to have sex or that just because a guy lost his virginity previously, he's going to want to keep trying to get you to have premarital sex, do you?

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 01:55 PM

hmm, noone said that Tulip....





side note: Isn't it interesting that the term "losing your virginity" is the main one used..in reality fewer "lose" it by being forced to have sex. Most just GIVE IT Away...

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 02:26 PM

While it wasn't explicitly stated, the original post implied pretty strongly that virgins are the only ones committed to purity. Maybe I'm just on edge today...

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 02:44 PM

I think it is important here to make a distinction between virginity and purity. The two are different. Virginity is a technical term that signifies one who has not had sexual intercourse. It doesn't include other sexual activities, such us use of pornography, a lustful fantasy life, or going to strip clubs. And it doesn't distinguish between those who have been forced to have sex and those who have willingly given themselves to another; between those who are currently sexually active and those who were sexually active in the past but have now repented.



Someone can be a virgin and yet be anything but pure.



Likewise, someone could not be a virgin, but be living a life of purity.



In my opinion, what we should ALL be looking for in a future spouse is someone who is currently living a pure life and surrendering to God consistently in that area. That will include both virgins and non-virgins. From there, it's between you and God as far as what your standard should be. But, the virginity issue is definitely secondary to the purity issue.

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Posted : 12 Jan, 2011 02:45 PM

"Well that's just, like, your opinion, man"

-The Dude

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