Author	Thread: Dating Dollars
Elisa View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 12:01 PM Gentlemen, A comment was made in another posting concerning how much a gentleman expects to spend on a date. The amount REALLY surprised me. So my question for you is, how much do you (or someone you know) typically budget to spend on a date? Does the amount increase or decrease with age? Does geographic location (within the US) have a significant impact? What are the anomalies to the typical? This is a curiosity question, not a gotcha question. There is no hidden agenda other than clarification for correcting a possible misconception I have. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 12:13 PM To piggyback (hope you don't mind, Elisa) - do you expect to "go Dutch" on most dates? Or do you, as guys, assume you'll be picking up the tab for the dinner/movie/whatever? Later this week I have my first date in many, many years, and I don't know how it's done these days. I come prepared to pay for my own meal, but I suspect the gentleman (as he is one) won't go for it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 12:28 PM MountainLass, I wouldn't go for it. I expect to pay for the movie, dinner,etc.:eat: Guess it's just the way my parents raised me, but when a girl offers to go Dutch; for some reason it offends me. Maybe I'm too old fashioned! Elisa, I don't know why but it seems like the older I get the more I want to spend on a date. I want to have a good time and if I have an idea that our relationship will be a lengthy one, I want that "first date" memory to be a good one for her. Altho' lots of things that don't cost at all could be really enjoyable to do! If we do things that cost, I'll do the Paying!:hearts: chevy Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 12:47 PM MountainLass, I don't mind a bit. It is a very good and relevant question. Chevy, you mentioned you would be offended if the lady offered to pay her cost. I was raised like you with the fellow picking up the tab. However, time and experience taught me that some guys are actually offended by that. So, live, learn, and hit the bank before going out...just in case. That does leave a problem. Some guys are offended if the offer is made to help with the cost. Some guys are offended if the offer is not made. Is this like the flowers post? A 50/50 thing with no good answer or is there a way to offer without offending? Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 01:07 PM I plan on at least offering, or asking at some point if we're going Dutch. I can't do anything about him (potentially) getting offended by my asking. I would encourage you, chevy, to try not to be offended if she asks. It's an uncertain world out there for us gals, and I'd admire her guts for asking (rather than assuming one way or the other). Many guys assume dates are Dutch unless specified otherwise beforehand. Assuming rarely works out well for anyone. (That goes for us girls, too.) When my ex-husband and I were dating, and we made similar amounts of money, we tended to not go Dutch, per se, but we'd kindof take turns paying for dates. Or if he got dinner, I'd get the mini-golf. Which is great in an established relationship, but for a first date, or early dating, this is a sticky subject. Thanks for asking it, Elisa! And thanks for letting me further muddle the question. :) Post Reply
Samheis View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 01:11 PM Hmm, that's a good question. I've only ever taken one girl out, so I don't exactly have a huge wealth of experience, but I can't imagine asking a lady on a date and not paying for it. I know some couples do the 'Dutch' thing, but to me, I would want to treat the lady as if she were worth the money it would cost for the date (though I would hope the lady is proper enough not to go too crazy on her side of things). That said, I wouldn't see any problem with a 'Dutch' get together if it was the first few times we had met. But once I expressed romantic interest in her (and she returned the feeling) I would fully expect to pay whenever we went out. As for the amount? Ha, well, I've never really thought of that. I don't know if there's an 'amount' I would have set. It seems to me that if the guy is not in a position to pay for the date, and it wasn't already agreed upon to be a 'Dutch' date, then he probably shouldn't be taking a lady out on an expensive venture anyways x) (And I think I'm a little too young to comment on the age/geography thing =) Seth Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 01:13 PM Okay, I'll try:goofball: But I'm still paying!:excited: chevy Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 01:26 PM You're a good man, chevy. :) Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 02:08 PM I expect to pay about $40-$50, and this is for Southeastern US. I expect that in bigger cities, you're looking at just shy of $100. I used to be incensed that women expected men to pay, but if I choose my dates wisely (and infrequently), it's not too bad of a hit. Post Reply
shepherdess View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 02:19 PM You men are scoring with your answers :rolleyes: on a slightly different note: when you do come across someone with such a different feeling about it, you at least learned something about that person and it might help in "gettin to know 'em faster". I'm old school I guess, cuz I can't imagine paying, but then I don't expect him to drop 50 to 100 either...hmm, does that make me a cheap date :laugh: I prefer to think that I am easy to please :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Dollars Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 02:56 PM Typical Date : Flowers - $15- $20 Dinner- $50 to $75 Movie - $20 - $40 TOTAL - $85 - $135 Drive to coast or mountians : Wash truck - $0 - $40 Fuel - $80 - $120 Lunch/Breakfast - $50- $85 Dinner - $0 - $50 TOTAL - $130 - $295 Date someone online : Fuel/Airfare - $200 - $500 Hotel two nights - $150 - $300 Meals - $150 - $250 Misc - $250 TOTAL - $750 - $1300 Horseback ride coast or mountians Fuel - $100 Breakfast - $20 Packed lunch/snacks - $40 Misc - $25 TOTAL - $185 Post Reply

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