Author	Thread: To Wink or Not To Wink
Admin	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 07:07 PM That is the question. Like all girls, I want to be pursued. From the time I was little I've wanted to be doing my thing, which is now doing the Lord's thing, and have some guy fall over at the site of me. (Not that I think I'm that beautiful, that's just the way the dream goes.) I've always wanted him to walk up to me, bold as can be, and say something like "you are who I am going to marry." Or even, "hey, wanna get some coffee?" In any case, I want to be pursued. I don't want to be the pursuer. Because of this, I go back and forth on whether or not I should send a guy a wink on here. I know many guys have been hurt by showing interest in a girl who doesn't feel the same way. (My roommate is one of those girls who can get any guy she wants, but doesn't want anyone.) So I think, "well, give him a little wink." But then I also think about how in real life I wouldn't wink at a guy who hasn't shown any interest. I would wink at him to let him know I'm returning his interest, but I wouldn't be the first winker...ya know? So when I look at your profile and like what I see, should I wink or does that seem too forward? Post Reply
Jaywar View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 07:46 PM I find it flattering, to be honest. I don't see why people should be offended over "Hey, I want to know you more." Post Reply
View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 07:47 PM you better at least wink, or better yet, send a little message. Otherwise a guy won't even know you exist on here. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 07:54 PM ok, I'm 42 and feel the same way, to the T- but to be honest, it doesnt make you less of a woman if you wink at someone. I had to get over that whole idea too. if nothing else, we will make friends, right? it's not like we're making the first move, we're just saying 'HI" it's not a big deal.:waving: Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 08:50 PM Keep in mind that when women make the first contact, the success rate of the relationship is 6 times higher then when the man makes the first contact. I hope that made sense. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 09:34 PM No offense, but didn't you ask almost this exact same question like 6 months ago? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 1 Dec, 2010 09:49 PM Wink! Guy's need a little bit of evidence to work from. In real life we can see body language and hear inflection, so why not wink online? :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 2 Dec, 2010 01:15 AM If there was a Hi button, I would prob click that first. However, sense there is not, I would send a wink or a message. I mean, how else will he know that you like what you see or what you have read? Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 2 Dec, 2010 04:16 AM If it helps, think about it like this. In real life, what would you do? If you were far away, you'd look at the guy, right? Maybe smile? He'd notice, smile, and (as the dream goes), walk up to you and start a conversation. Think of a wink as that initial smile or gaze; it's nothing more than that. Pursuit is much, much more than just the initial indication of interest! You are certainly not pursuing if you merely let him know that he's interesting. Post Reply
View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 2 Dec, 2010 05:02 AM Although I'm not especially fond of the winks on here (the blinking is so annoying!), I agree with SilverFire. As he said, you're simply letting the guy know that you find him interesting by sending off a wink. Basically, you're putting yourself on his radar. From there, it's still his decision to pursue you (or not!). Post Reply
View Profile History	To Wink or Not To Wink Posted : 2 Dec, 2010 08:39 AM BHey Pixy, Good to see you... A few in threads were askin where you were & that they missed you. Hey, I remember your post on "cdff winks." I still agree with your post a while back in that I think not only is it Rude when a "man" sends me a cdff wink (or for that matter a private message stating he wants to get to know me more than friends) when Very Clearly I have noted at the very start as well as towards the end of my profile I am very much in love with a wonderful Christian godly man I've met here on cdff and am just here cultivating the friendships I've made on cdff ... And so on. Its very obvious that a good amount of "men" that send cdff winks don't even bother reading your profile (another point I agree with your thread a bit ago on this topic) and only are going on looks. That being said ... :excited: I'd send a cdff private message (after reading a mans profile in full) to express my interest. Hope this proves helpful. :) saved3 Post Reply

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