Oh, yeah, JesusLovesYouAndMe ... it's the same for us guys ... sometimes the women in our lives listen to our wisdom on a subject or a need we have that we request they fulfill and other times what we have to offer or request goes in one ear and out the other (like pixy shaving off her moustache or savedbygrace3 shaving the hair on her toes!!!) ... yep, I'd say this is typical of both sexes, ABSOLUTELY!!! :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:
Yes, I feel that most women don't listen to guys. You can usually tell when this is happening because the conversation becomes a monologue, or when they keep interrupting you.
Eh, I didn't refer to the case of like never listen in the way as the next sentence would come up as "see, I told ya". Sorry, let me rephrase it lol
We all know that women talk about all things, and sometimes when we share our stories, we caught up you guys are not listening to us. Do you guys ever feel the same, sharing your stories and we seem not listening?
Not listening generally breaks down along these lines:
Woman: Geeze! You never listen to me!
Man: What are you talking about? Of course I listened to you! You had a problem, and I JUST told you how to fix it!
Woman: I don't want you to fix it though! I just want you to listen!
Man: Well why would you tell me about a problem you don't want fixed?
Woman: I just want to know that you're here to support me and make me feel better! If you really loved me, you'd know that!
Man: Of course I support you! I just helped you fix the problem. We won! Go team! Us - 1, Problems - 0!
Woman: It's not about fixing what was wrong! You're so frustrating to deal with! Why can't you just listen to me?
Man: So you LIKE things being wrong and see no need to fix them?
Woman: That's not the point! Ugh! All I want to do is unload all my problems from the day onto you as soon as you get home, have you listen intently, and then make me feel better by being here and being supportive!
Man: I literally have no idea what you mean! You want me to be here? News flash! I'm right here! I'm nowhere else! I can't be! You know why? Because I'm right here! English! Do you speak it?
From experience .....Women listen to EVERY word.....On more than one occasion I have had something I said come back 6 months later and bite me in the butt as she quotes word for word! :ROFL:
Not trying to hijack your post; but while you are in a ' listening ' mood I have something to share about your old post "passion". I have been thinking about it ever since because I was "listening"
Some more of C.S. Lewis ( again; one demon instructing another demon about God and man from their perspective) :
"Humans are amphibians --- half spirit and half animal.......As spirits they belong to the eternal world, but as animals they inhabit time. This means that while their spirit can be directed to a eternal object, their bodies, passions and imaginations are in continual change. Their nearest approach to constancy, therefore, os insulation --- the repeated return to a level from which they repeatedly they fall back, a series of toughs and peaks. If you had watched your patient carefully you would have seen this undulation in every department of his life --- his interest in his work, his affection for his friends, his physical appetites all go up and down. As long as he lives on earth periods of emotional and bodily richness and liveliness will alternate with periods of numbness and poverty.....He withdraws, if not in fact, at least from there conscious experience, all those supports and incentives. He leaves the creature to stand up on its own legs --- to carry out from that will alone duties which have lost all relish. It is during such tough periods, much more than during peak periods, that it is growing into that sort of creature He wants it to be. Hence the prayers offered in that state of dryness are those which please Him best. We drag our patients along night continual tempting
" We drag our patients along by continually tempting, because we design them only for for a table, (food) and the more their will is interfered with the better. He can not cannot 'tempt' to virtue as we can to vice. He wants them to learn how to walk and must therefore take away his hand; and only if the will to walk is really there He is pleased even with their stumbles..... Our cause is never more in danger and when a human, no longer desiring, but still intending, to do our Enemy's will, looks round upon the universe from which every trace of Him seems to have vanished, and asks why he has been forsaken, and still obeys."
See , this should prove it....I ( a guy) have been "listening" to you ( a woman)!
This "lack of listening" is not limited to man and woman conversations; it also applys to any conversation...albeit man to man or woman to woman.
Some people are formulating their response to what you just said while continuing to "listen" to what you're saying. They never "hear" the rest of your words. That is when people are misunderstood or later believe they "heard" something entirely different.
Yes Men are from Bars and Women are from Oprah/Martha Stewart Land. Most women just want to be heard and agreed with. They want Affinity and Affirmation...not a 3/4 inch drive ratchet set and a Chiltons Manual. They want to feel your "big masculine arms" around them as you nod and agree with them. Is there anything wrong with that? Whether it is right or wrong is not the point!
The point is:
"What will make her feel better?"
You (we men) need to find out what "fills her Love Tank".
Whether it's Affirmation or Physically or Spiritual or Gifts or Listening (passively) or whatever! It is up to us to find which it is (it may be a combination of many) and to be constantly "filling her Love Tank".
'The Five LOVE Languages' by Gary Chapman is an wonderfully Insightful book for all of us (men and women).
