Author	Thread: Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women?
LavButterfly View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 12:14 PM I am finding it very difficult to meet Christian men my age and was wondering if men have that same difficulty. My church is a small to medium sized congregation with few singles in my age group. We've tried more than once to begin a singles ministry and it's not been successful. I work in a small business where I seldom interact in person with people so I have no chance to meet anyone there. For myself, I find it extremely uncomfortable to go to singles activities where I don't know anyone at all. So, after all that...do you guys have this problem and if so what do you do about it? Thanks, RA :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 02:07 PM I hosted a singles weekly group for 2 years that was very successful. It grew beyond the church so that singles all over the city from other churches were attending. Looking back I feel the key to its success was it was very well touted that it was not about singles, not about dating, not about finding a mate, it was all about Jesus. I think God honored that. If you want a mate the key is to PRAY and take what God gives you. To answer your question specifically for me; yes it is difficult as most modern christian woman have a aristroctic air that I do not possess. Then again ; although I want a woman I don't really need one, so I'm not really praying that hard for one. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 02:27 PM There are plenty of Christian women out there, but I find it hard to meet ones that are into the specific things I am interested in. Post Reply
LavButterfly View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 03:10 PM The pastor and I worked hard trying to do something that would appeal to singles and be based in Jesus. Just didn't succeed in our church. Perhaps I wasn't the one to organize it. We keep praying about it, but so far success hasn't happened. Yes, I continue to pray for a mate. I'm afraid my heart has been broken many times while I pray and wait. God's plan and timing are perfect, but I'm becoming less patient I expectl Thanks for the input. Post Reply
LavButterfly View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 03:16 PM While I sincerely believe that common interests are a great building block for a relationship, we all need to be willing to show a bit of interests in new things also. Not to say that you don't. Just a thought that popped in my head. May I ask what types of places you meet Christian ladies in your area or are you looking farther from home? I'm not saying that I'm unwilling to move, but I've been the long distance relationship route before and found it disappointing. I've been concentrating on finding a local place to meet others. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 05:34 PM Ms. FlutterBy, You got one strike against you already � you can string more than two words together and not misspell one of them And you do it Eloquently! I would think that the best place for you to Look for a mate would be perhaps at a University or a Library. Maybe you could volunteer at either one. I would guess that you might be a bit intimidating to must Christian men (men period). And I hope that you do not try to lower yourself and act dumber (yuck!). It is tough and never easy (especially if you love in a small town). God gave you an Intelligent Brain and above average Courage and Fortitude. Use them�never give up (that was in a movie somewhere)�never surrender! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 06:25 PM I don't find it particularly hard to meet Christian women, but I don't think my situation is particularly common. I attend college in a major city, have a significant number of friends in a small college town an hour north, and still have quite a number of friends in my hometown, which also happens to be a major college town. Add that with two churches that I visit when I go back home semi-regularly, church here, involvement in a college ministry that is active on the other two campuses, and that my roommate's fiance is also the president of the Christian sorority on campus, and it isn't really a problem to find one. The problem is to find the RIGHT one. Having good odds or bad odds doesn't mean much though. If God is going to bring someone a spouse, he's going to bring them a spouse. I mean, right before Adam was given Eve, he was the only human being in existence. How's that for bad odds? Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 06:32 PM Here is just what I do; I believe Jesus wants us be in the world but not of the world.Therefore I have hobbies outside the church and meet alot of people that way. My last 3 girlfriends were from outside a church. 2 out of the 3 are now believers. Sadly to say I haven't had much luck in the church. It seems like those women have to many preconceived ideas about what a Christian man should be. And way to many expectations. There is no way to not experience failure in their eyes on a daily basis. I kinda enjoy feeling like a 'man' now and then. And can certianly do without the critical eye or the nod of approval as she surveys my worth as a Christian man. oops I've said to much....gotta go Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 07:37 PM Twosparrows, It�s too bad that the successful singles group you hosted wasn�t successful for you, but then again you really don�t need a woman. It�s also too bad that all those Christian women had preconceived ideas about what a Christian man should be like and they�re probably Aristocrats too. Sounds like the deck is stacked against you. I also know what you mean about �critical eye or the nod of approval as she surveys my worth as a Christian man.� What person in their right mind would put up with that! Actually, I am being sarcastic. It sounds like you want your cake and be able to want your cake the way you want it. Part of being with someone is that you do have to answer to them. Your actions affect them and I hope that Christians have Standards and expect others to Live up to them. I have Standards�God gave us Standards. Perhaps you meant something else? Perhaps I misunderstood? Being �macho� or feeling like a �man� every now and then means what? Just saying�is all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 08:17 PM @Arch All things in moderation my dear man. What I shared was abuses of what should be...i.e. extremes . Btw.. I like your new profile pic, I can't quite put my finger on it; did you comb your hair different? :winksmile: Post Reply
View Profile History	Do you men find it difficult to meet Christian women? Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 09:01 PM Two, Do you like it? It's my "butch" look! Post Reply

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