Author	Thread: The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies?
Admin	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 10:57 AM There's a reason that i ask this question ladies.My reason is that i have met a lot of ladies who goes to church,but later on, i found out that they aready have a boyfriend that is not christian & who in some cases is a gangster & even is not interested in the Bible neither!! I know that many of you know that the Bible knows that you should not "be unequally yoked with unbelievers" but still some of you are involved with those kind of men! So my questions on this is that 1: What is it that you see in these kind of men ?Do they seems to be much more enticing & exiciting & more bolder in apporoaching you than us good men ? 2: Do they appear to have more confidence than us good men? 3: Why do you prefer men who are not working & of course don't want to anyway than us good guys who are working our butts off for you & 4: WHY on earth do you PREFER men don't like to take a bath & not using deoderants than us guys who do take a bath & uses perfume. Do they smell much "fresher" ? ( lol):ROFL: Soome may think that thes are some strange questions i have posted here but i know that this is goin on in some other countries, including mine also. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 02:11 PM I think you ended up answering your first question with most of your subsequent questions. These guys aren't great on paper, but they're funny, confident leaders who get girls' hearts all a-flutter. They're either willing to overlook some of these guys' flaws, or they're hoping they will change their bad habits when they fall in love with the girl. It's a fool's errand, as I'm sure you can see. How many funny, strong, confident male leaders do you see in the Church though? Not many. The Church is too often filled with a bunch of whiny, passive boys who are all too willing to be doormats for women. While some of the blame lies on the women, I think a large amount of blame also lies on the men in the Church. We need to reject passivity, lead courageously, accept responsibility, and seek the greater reward. Essentially, take all the positive traits of the "bad boys" women love so much, leave the negatives, and add that to the positive qualities you already have. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 03:40 PM I honestly don't know why. As far as good guys go, the one good example we have is "Jesus" and he was pretty passive in a solid kind of way. He was a immovable rock as far as truth vs. compromise and His mission went, but He let people do just about whatever they wanted to Him. He wanted people to choose to really WANT to NOT treat Him like a doormat out of love for Him, but He never made it a requirement for His love. He also never changed His path. Eventually, if you treat Jesus like a doormat, your paths diverge and you're no longer walking with Him. I think that's the difference between a "Jesus" good guy, and a "passive wimp" guy. Jesus was very selfless and suffered for people, but He never deviated from His path/mission. A "passive wimp" is usually selfless and will suffer for people, but he will also deviate from his morals/viewpoints in order to try to make someone stick around. As far as bad dudes go, I think a lot of women like to be excited, and they love the respect of bad dudes because it makes them feel the excitement of being "on the edge", and they like the love of edgy/dangerous/bad dudes because it makes them feel like they're the one thing that this "bad boy" could love(and the "bad boys" are good at telling them that). The babo's very seldom have real love for their romances though. They'll keep you as long as they want you more than something else(which could be forever, but it's very iffy), and they might even fall into the "passive wimp" category for a little bit and switch their alignments around for you...but it doesn't last very often or very long. I can't say it "won't ever", because some bad guys do turn good. If you follow Jesus's example and keep avoiding compromise in your values/beliefs/character, usually the bad boys/girls will either run away or really change for the better and you won't have to do anything except follow Jesus. Try not to compromise to change people. It's usually you that ends up changing and not them. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 03:58 PM I don't know what Jesus you're reading about, but the one I see in Scripture wasn't passive at all. He came here to die. When his time came, he set his face to Jerusalem and boldly faced down his one mission: being crushed by the Father for the sins of his flock. It tormented him so much that he sweated blood, but yet he didn't turn away. He wasn't passive with the Pharisees, and he wasn't passive when he drove out the money changers in the temple. Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 04:25 PM TO: Tulip89 & Donthithatmark,thanks guys !!:applause::applause: I'ts good to hear you as men commentig on this!!!:winksmile: Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 04:32 PM You know i really meant to put this in the ask a girl section !!! But i still thankyou anyway!!!:applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 04:34 PM Another reason is ' sometimes' it is easier to be in a relationship with a person who you subconsciously see as spiritually inferior to you. There is no one to call you to account. No expectations to live up to. And by comparing yourself to them you feel good about yourself. There is a false sense of freedom in such a relationship that a Christian does not need. I say false freedom because it is actually a enticement into the slavery of sin. Now there is another kind of person who wants to ' fix ' others. But the funny thing is; if they do manage to fix them, they no longer want them. Then there are those with poor self esteem who cannot believe they deserve someone good. Oh my the list goes on and on....Just be happy, cause this is a sifting mechanism ; sorting out the kind of woman you don't want; the kind of woman who 'thinks ' she wants a Godly man, but in reality would not be happy with one. Yes we are such strange creatures! Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 05:42 PM To: Twosparrows,GREAT comment.thnkyou!!!:applause::applause:::applause::applause: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 06:21 PM Well, I did say He wasn't passive when it came to His mission, but I don't think Jesus was going around demanding that everyone love and follow Him. Just like a good man would not expect a woman to love him just because he loves her, or just because he wants her to. Jesus didn't chase anyone down until they gave up. He showed them what He could/would do for them and how much He loved them, and He left the rest in their court. That's a little(at least half-way) passive. I probably should have said that I don't think that someone should just sit there and take abuse forever in a relationship. When someone continually chooses to walk off the path you're walking on, then that should be the end of it. That is what I think God seems to do. He waits and waits and waits, and only when they are so far off that they would never choose to come back except to avoid the consequences of their actions does He cut them off. There are a lot of examples of this, like with the flood(120 year wait/warning), the 10 plagues in Egypt(not just 1 or 2 big ones, and a bunch of Egyptians were saved because they were convinced), the 500 year wait on the destruction of the Canaanites(God didn't just wipe them out right away for Abraham, Gen 15:16), the prophets sent to sinful people(like Jonah/Nineveh), Jesus was even very long-suffering/loving toward the generations of Israel/the pharisees and they should have known better. Matt. 23:37 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not! 38Behold, your house is left unto you desolate. And then this is the biblical definition of love, and I believe it is the biblical definition of Jesus's character. 1 Cor. 13:4 Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil; 6rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth; 7beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. God is love after all. :peace::peace: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 06:28 PM And maybe I have a different definition of passive. I could probably sum it up like this: He was selfless. Jesus was passive when it came to Himself. He was not passive when it came to the interests of others. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Good Guy,The Bad Guy".Which one do you prefer ladies? Posted : 7 Nov, 2010 07:06 PM hahahah!!!! really funny!! I personaly like Godly men! not gangsters lol I like guys that take bath and wear colone! i guess those girls who are dating "the bad boy" have unresolve issues! or their hearts are not on the right place! i want a guy from ephesians who honors his wife, and treats her like the church! how could i guy do that if he has never been to church, or worse doest even have a personal relationship with christ! he wont know about love and compassion or even how to show mercy lol real talk!!!!!!!!!!!!! Post Reply

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