Author	Thread: crossing the line
Admin	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 10:55 AM At what point does a woman's picture cross the line? Where is the line? How much leg is too much? How tight is too tight? How about those short, strapless dresses I keep seeing in pictures that are really not covering the woman much more than if she just had a towel wrapped around her? And are there certain poses that are provocative and should be avoided? Certain facial expressions? I've had a few guys tell me that my pictures are provocative, but could never get any details out of them as to what in particular was so provocative, especially since they only show my face... But I suppose provocativeness is more than just showing off skin. At what point for you does a woman's pictures become a temptation? How can us gals avoid tempting you with our pictures? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 02:13 PM You really shouldn't have to worry about it unless you're trying to get that kind of attention on purpose. There are too many guys that will find just about everything "provocative". That's something they have to deal with and woman shouldn't need to worry about it. If someone had a picture posted of themselves with body parts/seductive looks, then that would be crossing the pride-line, IMO. We just have to look at our pictures and ask: "Am I trying to get "attention", or just letting people see me?" :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 02:22 PM I'm pretty much with Mark on this one. It's hard to put some sort of rubric to it as far as __ many inches of leg shown above the knee, __ inches of shoulder strap, __ inches of neck, etc. In your case, you shouldn't worry about the guys telling you that your face is provocative. That's just weird. Post Reply
View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 02:27 PM Good point, Mark. I do think that sometimes women feel guilty over a guy's sin when they don't need to. Men DO have responsibility in this area, but it's difficult to know where that line is... How far does a woman go to help prevent a guy from lusting? I got a message on here earlier from a guy in response to this thread. I asked him if I could share what he said and he said as long as I kept it anonymous that I could. Anyway, he said that my main picture is provocative because of my "shiny lubed up lips" and that my lips made it look like I was asking to be kissed. (For the records, guys, it's called LIP GLOSS, not lube!) I must admit that I'm not sure how seriously to take his comment. I wear lip gloss sometimes because my lips get a little dry at times and I feel a tiny bit self conscious about that, not because I'm hoping that every man who sets eyes on me will want to kiss me. I know that my intention there is fine... But I can't help but wonder if I should not wear lip gloss now, knowing that it's causing guys to zone in on my lips and to have thoughts of kissing. Not that kissing is super evil or anything, but this guy did mention that it was provocative! Post Reply
View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 02:30 PM "That's just weird." Hehe... Yeah... It's not like wearing a bag over my head is something that I consider to be an option, and I'm not planning on having any plastic surgery to make myself all ugly! And I barely wear any makeup as it is. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 04:17 PM No offense to lipgloss guy, but please don't give his concerns much, if any consideration. It sounds like he's just desperate to kiss somebody. Post Reply
View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 04:38 PM I think the Apostle Paul spoke about how Christian woman should dress. I'm not going to get into ch and vs but he did talk about hair and clothes. Rich women in those times wore jewelry in their hair and showed off their wealth with their clothing as well. Paul told them not to come to the assemblies with that kind of attire. He also said something to the affect that women should not come to the assemblies dressed like a prostitute. They should be modest and wear a head covering. The head covering was because prostitutes did not cover their hair and if they were caught in a crime involving illegal prostitution their heads would be shaved as punishment. BTW Pixy, if your going to lube your lips I recommend synthetic 75w/90 gear oil. It tastes awful it will last for at least 100,000 miles. Whew!! That's a boat load of kissing!! :ROFL: But seriously, If you have to ask if something is too revealing or too short or too sexy or too provocative, then it probably is. And if it is then it is inappropriate. Thunder Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 05:35 PM I'd say that dresses that go above the knee would be showing too much. And I don't see how your picture could be seen as provocative. I'm not sure how those people reached that conclusion. Post Reply
View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 06:28 PM first of all i just want to say on this women if you are truly christians,then as the bible says ''do not conformed to this world" (Rom.ch.12v2).you don't(no offence to women who dress this way) need mini-skirts, belly-showing clothing,cleavage-showing dresses or shirts & tight pants or leggings to attract a man of god since some of these styles of dressing i have mentioned can attract not only the wrong company, but can cause lust as well.at the same time,i know that times have change so i am not saying that you ladies should dress "like a granny",but to dress like a woman of god because in these days you can't tell if a girl is going to church or if she's going to a strip club(no offence ladies).when i see some girls on this site in bikinis,i feel like if i'm looking at girls in a swimwear magazine!(no offence ladies).at the same time as well, when you want to dress in a certain way,just put it to jesus, and he'll take care of the rest. of course i'm mean us as guys in this area as well. Post Reply
View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 07:35 PM As for your own picture being provocative, Pixy, I'd say I can *kind of* see what he is talking about; he took it farther than I would, but then again I'm not attracted to women. The only thing I can see in your picture that might suggest something like that is that it does look like you are pursing your lips a little bit, but that also just might be how you smile! But a man that wants to see something provocative is just going to see it, there is not much a woman can do to deter a man who wants to lust after her. Sometimes I view my own profile to find posts I made on the forums, and I'll see pictures of other CDFF ladies, and here are examples I would avoid: The Myspace pose. This is where you pucker your lips off to one side and look way up into a camera, which is facing down at you so that it can see a little bit down your shirt. Best done with arms crossed to create cleavage, too much black eyeliner optional. The bathing suit. "Oh, I was just hanging out in my bikini and somebody took this picture!" The Keira Knightley. You aren't really smiling, but your mouth is just a little bit open and pouty in a way that other women would roll their eyes at. Other things to avoid would be lots of makeup and pouting in general. These are good ways to look "cheap". Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	crossing the line Posted : 3 Nov, 2010 08:01 PM I'd never heard it called the Keira Knightly. Whatever you call it, I think it makes girls look depressed. Post Reply

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