Author	Thread: Sense of responsibility.
Admin	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 05:43 AM Guys, do you feel any responsibility for the girls you meet with? I mean, that one who you spend a lot of time with and when you tell her about your feelings ect. When you see that she begins fall in love with you.. I ask about that because I saw it many times, when a guy does almost everything to please a girl but then, when the goal was reached, he left her and switched to another girl. So what is the problem? Do you afraid of serious relationship or what? Do you feel responsibility? Post Reply
View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 07:15 AM One of the things that is important to remember is that for a guy the final decision to marry is not based on whether or not they love someone, but if they feel that they are in a position to be married. A guy can find the �perfect woman� but if he feels that there is something else he needs to do before he is married, he won�t commit. Men know before they ever get into a relationship if they are ready to commit to marriage or not. The sad part is that many men don�t take into consideration that they may hurt a woman if she falls in love with him and he will not marry her. He can lie to himself that it is only friendship and nothing more, but they forget that you can�t control the feelings of the other person. But people are selfish and only think about what they want, and not about what the other person wants. I have always felt that I would not get into any relationship until I was ready to be married. I didn�t try to start dating until I was about 26. The part I get frustrated with is when I try to explain to a woman that I am serious about the POSSIBILITY of marriage, that I am not just trying to keep from being bored on a Friday night, they think I am already making wedding plans and run away. I find it so ironic how women get so frustrated when men are not serious about relationships, but they panic and run away when men are serious. What those men was wrong. They treated those women as sport, and they deeply hurt them. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 09:35 AM Well, I don't spend a lot of time with or tell girls my feelings if I'm not dating them, so I've never really been in this situation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 12:08 PM thanks for the Honesty :) I wish all men will think like you.. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 12:40 PM Cobbler, try finding a way to say what you mean without actually saying the word "marriage." Saying something like, "I want to make sure that we have long term potential," probably communicates the same idea that, "I'm serious about the possibility of marriage," should, but you probably won't run into the same issue with it being taken the wrong way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 01:13 PM I have never really understood the whole �long term relationship� thing. To me that can very easily mean that I want to spend serious time with someone without the guarantee of the commitment of marriage. By that wording I could drag the relationship on and on, but never marry and still honor my words. That is the exact situation the GreatDream is lamenting. I don�t understand why stating that I take the pursuit of a relationship serious so scary. Like I said, I am not trying to get the woman to commit to anything, I don�t even necessarily know if I want to marry them, I just am not willing to play games. That also means that as soon as I realize that it is not God�s plan for the two of us to be married, that I will end the relationship and not keep it going just so I can have someone around. I just don�t see how stating that I am looking for a long term relationship� expresses that commitment to honesty in the relationship. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 02:16 PM Well, you can keep doing what you've been doing and hope that something changes, or you can tweak your wording a little bit. While technically saying you're interested in her for the long term, COULD mean that you aren't interested in marriage, but I very highly doubt that most women are going to take it like that. If they're confused about it, they'll ask you to clarify. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 03:37 PM So the secret to starting a relationship is to be intentionaly obscure. And that is what women mean when they want a man who is honest and doesn't play games. Matthew 5:37 (NASB) "But let your statement be, 'Yes, yes' or 'No, no'; anything beyond these is of evil. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 04:01 PM Just think of it as communicating in a way that women more easily understand. Post Reply
View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 04:12 PM So basically if you don't know how to be honestly obscure, but are just simply honest, you have no chance of being able to start a relationship. And women wonder why men are so dishonest. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Sense of responsibility. Posted : 30 Oct, 2010 04:33 PM Good communication is about making sure that the message you send will be properly interpreted by the receiver. Since women inherently read meaning into what is said, you have to account for that when attempting to communicate with them. Sometimes I feel like an autistic trying to talk with a schizophrenic when dealing with women, but you just try your best and learn what works. Post Reply

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